America: Where the Rapists Keep on Raping, and the Victims Pay the Price

[riqster]

http://bluntandcranky.wordpress.com/2013/01/10/america-where-rapists-go-on-raping-and-their-victims-pay-the-price/

[Kalidurga]

1. I was wondering about that myself...

I seriously doubt Stubenville is the only place this happens. I am positive there was a problem like this in my town. I know it was a problem in my family. I don't know how many victims or who the rapists were, except for one branch of the family that my mother knew was an incest family. I don't want to go into a lot of detail, but she let them babysit us.

[riqster]

2. Thanks

I know it is not easy to talk about.

[Kalidurga]

3. Yes, especially when your memory is Swiss Cheese.

And especially when the experts say that it isn't possible to forget trauma.

[riqster]

4. I wish I had that problem

Never forgot any of it.

[Kalidurga]

5. I can't say that I wish I could remember everything...

What I do remember is horrible.

1. I know that two of my sisters were sexually abused in foster care. They were 7 and 5 at the time. My mother knew and did nothing. She didn't even tell social services.

2. She let known pedophiles that committed incest with their children babysit us.

3. My dad had a huge porn collection at sometime that he didn't keep hidden or controlled in anyway. My brother took stacks of his magazines to his room, he was 9 at the time.

4. My mom allowed one of my sisters and I to baby sit for the perverted family and the brother tried to rape both of us. We were 12 and 10 at the time. We walked home in the dark came home scared. The brother then raped his 3 year old niece and 18 month old nephew. My mom didn't once ask me why we came home, but she did tell us about the rapes.

5. I had a recurring dream of sitting on someone's lap as a smaller child. Only I was never sure if it was a dream. I don't remember anything incriminating in the dream, but it has always made me feel very sick and dirty for some unknown reason. I really don't want to know what happened there if it was a real event or if some real event caused that dream and that is what made me feel ill even though the dream is somewhat benign.

6. My parents had a lot of perverted friends besides the ones that were related to us. At least 3 other families that were inappropriate with us. The boys continually tried to do sexual things with us girls. We weren't allowed to complain.

So, no I don't want to remember everything. But, in a sick way I wish I knew what happened. Sometimes not knowing for sure makes for some crazy talk in your head.

[riqster]

6. I have an excellent memory

Sometimes it is a blessing. Other times, not so much.

[Kalidurga]

7. I can see that...

On one hand you know you aren't crazy if you remember something a certain way. But, on the other hand remembering a trauma isn't fun or a blessing.

[riqster]

8. Rape in Steubenville can be generational

Ms. Lords was raped as a child, and so was her mother. Had they not escaped, her own daughter could well have been raped by now as well.

Silence is not our friend.