What Happened When My Son Wore A Pink Headband To Walmart

[cali]

btw, Dexter is a two year old.

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After struggling to get him dressed and get his shoes on, I had to pry an overlarge teddy bear out of Dexter's arms, as he was set on taking him with us. This brought on tears and tantrums, which I somehow managed to calm very quickly. But when I attempted to remove my discarded lace flower headband from his head (which he'd been wearing all day), I saw him getting ready to fight, so I left him to it. Who was he hurting?

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Out of nowhere a big booming voice rang out. "THAT'S a BOY?!" The man was overly large with a bushy beard and a camouflage shirt with the arms cut off. He had tattered shorts and lace-up work boots with no laces. I could smell the fug of cigarette smoke surrounding him, and there was a definite pong of beer on him.

"Yes," I said simply, still smiling.

With no notice, the man stepped forward, grabbed the headband off of Dexter's head and threw it to the bottom of our shopping cart. He then cuffed Dexter around the side of his head (not hard, but that is not the point) and said with a big laugh, "You'll thank me later, little man!"

At the same time as I stepped forward, Dexter grabbed his head where the man had smacked him and threw his other hand forward, stomping his foot and shouting, "NO!" I got between my son and this man and said very firmly, "If you touch my son again, I will cut your damn hands off."

The guy snarled at me, looked at Dexter with disgust and said, "Your son is a f*cking fa***t." He then started sauntering out, but not before he threw over his shoulder, "He'll get shot for it one day."

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/katie-vyktoriah/what-happened-when-my-son-wore-a-pink-headband-to-walmart_b_3696113.html

[love_katz]

1. I don't blame Dextor's mom for saying she'd cut the man's hands off...

if he touched her son again.

I can't believe the gall of that person. Where does he get off?

[MiniMe]

36. I would have chosen a different body part to say I'd cut off

Or to say that I'd cut off. You don't touch other people's children like that!

[Niceguy1]

2. I wonder if this really

Happened or if it is another one of the "waiting in the checkout line confrontaition" fantasies.

If it jad been me I would have had a bit more to say, though.

[kiawah]

5. It did sound a bit bogus, didn't it...

Right down to the familiar boogie man - the bearded, sleeveless, camo clad, beer swilling, cigarette reeking, bigoted, redneck. The only thing missing was an AK47 strapped to his back.

I would believe that she got a stray look or two that made her uncomfortable - because, well... a lot of people are assholes. But, I would bet that, somewhere along the line, the story grew its own legs and ran off a bit.

[Niceguy1]

7. I bet he was carrying

CCW.. that is why he was so brave.

[cali]

20. I believe it. Maybe it's because 20 odd years ago I had a somewhat

similar experience with my son. He was around 4 and had long hair down to his shoulders. He wasn't touched but this drunk guy that I knew slightly lit into him for being a "little faggot".

[uppityperson]

81. It happened to me when mine was 1, wearing pink pjs. I was accosted, asked if I wasn't "afraid

he'll grow up to be a f*". Wtf? 1 yr old and why the hell would I worry about his orientation?

[obliviously]

150. Some of the name, places and actully the entire incedent

May have been changed to make this story interesting.
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Pde4JkpV-EY/TakGb-UjWxI/AAAAAAAAAjE/bCaChVm114M/s200/Emily+LItella.jpg

[hlthe2b]

26. It does sort of check off every single stereotype, doesn't it?

Hell, all she needed to say was my son's name is "DEXTER!: and "you might well regret doing that" with a very knowing grin....

[loli phabay]

29. lol, but your right about touching every stereotype, and people just believe crap like this

Cant believe in all the years ive stood in checkout lines that i have never seen any of the stuff that supposedly happens to everyone else apart from the paying by cheque lady for one item.

[MADem]

109. Well, the kid's name is DEXTER, and he's 2...that's what made it sound strange to me.

Who in their right mind names their child after the most notorious fictional serial killer of this decade? You'd have to be raised in the woods without any access to any media to not be aware of that show and that character, even without a SHOWTIME subscription. I only hope that's a "nom de plume."

And who bullies a two year old? What alky-breathed bigot would even NOTICE that a 2 year old was a boy or a girl, the way kids dress and wear their hair nowadays?

She should charge the guy with assault; and let's have a look at the tape...those joints are under constant surveillance!

She took a picture of the kid "rocking the headband" which looks more purple than pink...and isn't really a huge thing that stands out. It looks like a pot scrubber. I didn't see it the first two times I looked at the pic.



Who would want to bother that cute little kid, or his mother?

I hope WALMART goes through all their tape so we can see exactly what happened, here. I think it would be helpful. And if it turns out that there was some stereotypical asshole bullying this little kid, let's name him and shame him.

Transparency!!!

[Drale]

156. How do you know he's named after that Dexter?

Perhaps he's named after Dexter's Lab Dexter or maybe the parents just liked the name?

[MADem]

160. Let me put it this way--no one named their kid "Lee Harvey" in the years after 1963.

It's not a question of who he is "named after," it's the association that is made with the name as a consequence of the character's notoriety.

You didn't see a lot of "Adolphs" on the birth registers in USA once WW2 got rolling, either.

Maybe it's a pen name, a "net" name--some of these parental bloggers, who plaster their childrens' faces all over the internet while the kids are too young to decide if they like that or not, choose a fake name for their kids, as though that will assure them some measure of privacy.

[Drale]

161. Well the difference is

even if he's named after the fictional killer, he's fiction whereas Lee Harvey and Adolph where real people who did terrible things.

[MADem]

162. People in this century are more familiar with the murderous "fictional" Dexter than they are with

Lee Harvey or Adolph.

It doesn't matter if the character actually lived. The character is alive in the minds of the viewers.

[daleanime]

9. Its amazing what people will do....

they even question some ones honesty in a heart beat, and for no apparent reason too.

[Niceguy1]

15. read it on the internet

So it must be true

[daleanime]

34. Then why waste your, and mine, time?

Wait, stop, don't brother. The question answers itself.

[Posteritatis]

58. Approximately as silly as "so it must be false." (nt)

[Niceguy1]

21. we ought to make a game out of it...

Turn it into one of those chain stories where each poster adds a paragraph to the original post.

[Chemisse]

27. Yes!

After she threatened him with cutting off his hands, he pulled out his legally carried concealed weapon and told her he was going to stand his ground!

[loli phabay]

31. then at a signal kato his trained attack pitbull who works part time as security

At the olive garden entered the store on a break to pick up some more smokes and a gallon of breast milk.

[Niceguy1]

33. and after being a bully

Drove off in his lifted diesel f150 spewing black smoke, cutting off a prius in the process.

[pangaia]

37. That was MY Prius!

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And it was an F-350, not a wimpy little F-150,
I caught up to him, and tasered him through my passenger side window..

[Niceguy1]

46. F-350

With a gun rack and Dixie Mudflaps

[Hangingon]

48. AK in the gun rack

[Pelican]

43. Pink headband turned into a pink hoodie...

... as the child ate his skittles and drank ice tea from his bottle....

[Nine]

52. Yes, we are all well aware you're a Zimmerman supporter.

Still, don't you think it's tacky to come onto a thread that has nothing to do with Trayvon Martin and bring up skittles and iced tea and hoodies as some kind of a joke? Trayvon Martin actually was shot dead and he actually was doing nothing but walking home with skittles and iced tea, and conservative pundits and their ignorant audience actually did blame Trayvon because he was wearing a hoodie at the time. Your post is disgusting.

[Pelican]

56. Relax....

... and go outside for a while. You need it...

[Nine]

57. Thanks for the condescending advice. I guess you know your post is indefensible.

Why don't you offer me some cookies like McCrory?

[Kingofalldems]

66. He's here to teach us dirty liberals

[Pelican]

69. I didn't know he did anything other than country music...

The more you know...

[Squinch]

101. It didn't even make any sense. He's stretching hard.

Not very successfully, but at least he's putting in the effort.

[deutsey]

129. I have no idea if this story is true or not, but

her saying she would cut his hands off just didn't ring true to me.

I may be wrong...it could've happened just as she says it happened and she could've said exactly what she says she said, but that's just an odd thing to say, imo.

[DrDan]

30. it just did not ring true as I read it . . . I agree with you

[cherokeeprogressive]

74. It's always in the stereotypical description for me...

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I laughed at the AK-47 comment above.

[BlueJazz]

28. I never question a story told by a fellow/sister DUer. I might have an unusual thing..

...happen to ME one day and I don't want to be hesitant to share it...

[newcriminal]

47. The mother is not a duer.

This was taken from Huffington Post.

[BlueJazz]

49. Excuse me...I need to wipe some egg off of my face.

[Whisp]

86. It has likely happened in many scenarios.

I don't find this unbelievable at all. I've heard plenty of insults towards girls and boys in regards to them 'not wearing the right colour' so I don't question the story at all. I know it's real.

[TrogL]

123. One of my friends' daycare started that shit

They got an earful

[Raine]

100. Yeah really. Anyone who knows anything about kids KNOWS they will wear something offbeat. Why would

anyone really get worked up about what someone else's kid has on their head? Seems like you'd be taking a real risk to youself.

[KurtNYC]

119. But this is a drunk. My neighbor is a drunk and he is completely obnoxious 7 days a week

Starts every other sentence with "You should..."

Drunks believe that they are right AND that they are funny. They love drama and they love attention. I think this story is mostly true.

[hughee99]

130. If I had to guess, I'd say it was fiction, but who knows.

The fact that people believe that something like this COULD have happened tells us something about society in general.

[sakabatou]

3. Dafuq is going on in this country...

[geckosfeet]

4. jezzuz H cristmas - where in hell was this - Mississippi?

[cordelia]

50. Maybe Oregon.

[geckosfeet]

68. Maybe? Does is say in the piece? She didn't say afaik.

[cordelia]

90. I didn't see anything about Mississippi either. Did you?

Please point it out.

[geckosfeet]

92. No - but the guy she described sounds like a southern red neck goober.

Yeah yeah yeah - such a stereotyper.

But that's the image I get when I read her description.

[cordelia]

95. Actually, you appear to be more of a bigot.

But that's just an opinion.

[geckosfeet]

97. Ahh. In what way?

That's a new one - honest.

Southerner stereotype bigot? Is that it?

Heh. I can live with that.

[MADem]

111. Her facebook puts her in DAVENPORT, FL.

https://www.facebook.com/vyktoriah

I guess she's a regular blogger on the whole "mommy" scene for HuffPo.

[geckosfeet]

113. That makes sense then. Fits my personal southern goober profile/stereotype fetish.

[RKP5637]

6. Big manly man with little dick complex beats up on a little

kid and feels good about it ... this nation has some seriously disturbed individuals roaming around. ... just looking for trouble, just looking for their targets to beat up on. Monsters on the loose.

[hobbit709]

8. I know a couple of women that wouldn't have threatened to cut his hands off.

The would have ripped his balls off and stuffed them down his throat if he had touched their kids.

[napoleon_in_rags]

10. The sad part? The camo guy doesn't know the heterosexuality doesn't need to be ENFORCED.

Heterosexuality, in fact, emerges naturally from heterosexuals. You an dress them up like members of the opposite gender, and they will still be hetero. You can put pink headbands on the boys, and blue headbands on the girls, and they will still be heterosexual. (The same applies with LGBT individuals BTW, individuals are who they are)

This sad sack comes from an environment of "heterosexuals", where heterosexuality has to be enforced through beatings and abuse. Hint: Something is wrong with this picture.

[chicago guy]

11. Walmart

Enough said

[Nine]

54. Three very low-post members on this thread have made this about Walmart.

What gives? IF the story is true (I'm skeptical), it has very little to do with which store it happened in. I don't shop at Walmart but I don't make broad brush judgments about the people who do. I don't like classism.

[spooky3]

99. How do you know it is classism, vs

Objections to the anti-worker practices of Wal-mart? See the many threads on DU about these. Many DUers who have a choice choose not to patronize W or enrich its owners.

[Squinch]

102. I don't really like Walmart. And am not surprised it happened there. Call me classist.

[TrogL]

124. So actually go to a Walmart and actually see what actually goes on

I go to a Walmart catering to a rich-bitch neighbourhood and I see all sorts of weird shit

[burnodo]

12. There's some sort of update

but I can't get it to load

[jtuck004]

13. What mom in a situation where this was real wouldn't call the police?

'Course, as I write that, I think about how little I trust the police here...but still.

[drm604]

16. The man assaulted a child.

He should have been arrested. At the very least store security should have thrown him out.

[jtuck004]

17. I can't imagine her not screaming "HE HIT MY CHILD!" and calling for police and an ambulance...

or something along that line.

She is pretty reserved and cerebral about it all...

[pnwest]

41. Number one reason the story smells like

like bullshit... Instinctive reaction would be to scream something like, "Stop him! He hit my kid! Help! Help!" NO ONE would just stand there and watch the guy who just smacked their kid just walk away. Who wouldn't RUN to security and scream, "Call 911! Where's the surveillance cameras?! Is that man's face on tape?! Help! Help! Help!"

The story's a total load.

[Scootaloo]

55. I don't know...

My instinctive reaction would be violence. But that's me, perhaps - you don't touch a kid around me, and I can only imagine if it were my child.

Different people react differently. Simply because it's not the way you - a reader with perfect hindsight far away from the situation - would react does not make it false.

[kestrel91316]

53. This is why I am a tad skeptical. I would have raised holy hell

right on the spot and had the cops arrest him for assaulting a minor.

[NickB79]

118. Anyone touched my little girl in a threatening manner

Like he did, and it'd be a fight. And I don't care how much bigger than me he is, I'd be on him faster than you could blink. I don't care if he's 7 ft tall, I'd climb that motherfucker like a cat.

I'm probably one of the most peaceful guys you'll ever meet, UNLESS you touch my little girl. Then all bets are off.

[bunnies]

96. +1000

Someone hits her kid and she does nothing? WTF?

[Spirochete]

146. That's the problem i have with this story

you treat a woman's kid like that, she will not threaten to cut your hands off - she will flat-out threaten your life - and mean it.

[qualitybeatsquantity]

14. Just another reason to avoid Walmart

[stonecutter357]

19. If she best the shit out of him could he murder her in self defence?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shooting_of_Trayvon_Martin

[WinkyDink]

60. Yes.

[Ash_F]

22. Sounds like your son can stand up to a bully.

Good on him. I'm sorry that happened though.

[treestar]

23. What is it about that color?

Maybe because it represents so many flowers?

I remember Don Johnson did get away with pink shirts.

But why do people think male and pink cannot go together? No other color gets this treatment.

And my little nieces, my god, everything they own is pink! I bought one of them a green shirt for her birthday just to have some other color in her life.

[MADem]

110. Maybe I am colorblind but that didn't look pink/flowery, it looked like a purple potscrubber. nt

[TheManInTheMac]

24. Cool story, bro.

[Codeine]

25. What some people will do for attention. . . nt

[loli phabay]

32. this sums it up pretty well. i give it four cool story bros

[yardwork]

35. What's interesting about this obviously fake story....

is that a presumably cis-gender person wrote a pro-transgender story. Yes, it was done in an effort to get attention, the story is clearly bogus, but in a weird way it is a sign of progress.

[MineralMan]

39. Cool Story, there, Katie...

Yup.

[arely staircase]

40. that is battery

did she call the police? security guard?

[AlBratt]

42. Wal-Mart

Once you enter the door to a WalMart Store you are basically on your own until you get back in your car and leave the premises. While there, watch were you step. You may find yourself air borne if you step on a stray grape or some stray lettuce leaves on the floor! I know from experience. Oh, they will hustle the janitor out to clean the slick floor, but you, my friend, are on your own!

[Inkfreak]

44. Not buying this story at all.

That being said, I understand the point of the story. Nothing wrong with wearing pink, no matter the gender. And there are dipshits out there who would question why a boy would wear pink. But fuck em. I wear a pink Esgles shirt. Cause I love Philly and I love my Aunt. Who survived breast cancer.

[blackspade]

45. people are such assholes.

[Nye Bevan]

51. Then a cop jumped out of the bushes..... (nt)

[WinkyDink]

59. HUGE mistake not reporting this thug before he left the lot. (Why aren't people believing it?)

[Paladin]

64. The Gun Enthusiasts aren't believing it, because they can't afford to. (nt)

[Marengo]

98. Why is that?

[NickB79]

117. Where has anyone mentioned guns in this thread?

And WTF do guns have to do with some asshole assaulting a child?

[Gidney N Cloyd]

61. The smell of beer and cigarettes was a nice touch.

Though 'fug' may be misused. I'm surprised the author's creative writing professor let that slide...

[NightWatcher]

62. it reminds me of all the "sick kid" stories (hoaxes) that go through Facebook

I'm also pretty sure that sick toddlers and babies could give a shit about how many "likes" their story gets.

Is there a term for Munchausen By Proxy for online? Parents that want the attention but arent actually making their kids sick.

[EOTE]

152. Munchausen Byte Proxy. nt

[LittleBlue]

63. This sounds like fiction

It has the "look at me!" drama confrontation feel

[Dreamer Tatum]

65. I read about that in Bullshit magazine's Summer edition. nt

[Comrade Grumpy]

77. How do you know this story is untrue? Seriously.

I mean, I don't know if it's true, but I don't know if it's not true, either.

How do you know?

[Squinch]

104. I believe it. I've seen people do worse to other people's kids.

[Logical]

67. I call BS on this story. fiction. n-t

[carolinayellowdog]

70. Central Florida, easy to learn by going to the source (Davenport, says news story)

There is something reprehensible IMO about insisting that a purportedly nonfiction account is fiction, without checking out anything that weighed pro or con the author's credibility. Likewise about speculating about it being in Mississippi or Oregon when a few seconds with google lead you to a more plausible place for wild-ass crazy assaultive shit to happen. Just checking one's own gut is no defense against libel if your gut is wrong and you call a writer a liar, without using a pseudonym.

Not saying I believe the story, but it seems reckless to call it a lie without any evidence other than a hunch. The fact of where she lives tips the scales in the favor of believability, IMO, but let's wait and see how this checks out before playing judge and jury of this blogger.

on edit, this story just hit 12 minutes ago, specifies Davenport FL and says there were witnesses but doesn't ID any

[NCTraveler]

136. She says there were witnesses. No one else. That claim is in no way backed up.

The story is bs. Some of her previous stories can easily be found. This isn't her first fabrication.

[Decoy of Fenris]

71. Faaaaaaaaaaake!

[rl6214]

72. Should have called the cops and had him arrested for assault and child abuse

[uppityperson]

73. Good lord people, this thread is bringing out a lot of what makes DU suck.

It seems so many did not notice the link to the article, but instead are chiding the OP for lying. WTF? I mean, wtf? Rather than noticing it was a linked article, instead insult the OP? Rather than address homophobia, bash the OP?

From the article:

But right now, the fact that homophobia is so rampant, that gay marriage is still seen as dirty because homosexuals are "lesser" somehow and don't deserve to have the same rights as straight folk, that people like that man in Walmart even EXIST makes me fear for my kids and their futures.

While we may accept and support whoever our kids turn out to be, I am scared beyond words at what it would mean for them if they ARE gay. Why should anyone have to live in fear because they fall in love with someone that you or someone else doesn't agree with? Why should mothers and fathers of gay kids have to have an extra layer of terror at night because they know that the world at large is against their child?

This sort of confrontation happened to me when my son when he was 1 yr old wearing hand me down pjs that were, gasp, PINK!! "Aren't you afraid he'll turn out gay?" Fuck no. I hope he's more humane and tolerant than you you asshole.

Too bad this is still so common.

[carolinayellowdog]

83. the suckiness is the cowardice of people using pseudonyms to attack a named author

I hope people weren't clueless enough to think Cali made up the story, but they seem to think the author is just some online pseudonym, not a real person with pictures of her son at the linked story, and a news story about her now up, and the cred of being given a blog at Huffington Post (dubious cred, but it's something.)

This blogger's handle are her first and middle name; her last name is given in the news story linked upthread. "I don't believe this" is everyone's right to reserve judgment. But "I know this to be false" is defamatory with reckless disregard for the truth, for anyone who has done nothing to investigate.

[uppityperson]

88. Thanks, nice to see that others are noticing all this too. I guess reading the first part of a post,

not taking time to read the whole thing or look at the link and then jumping to conclusions? Yes, everyone has the right to their opinion but there is a difference as you wrote.

[kmw97]

120. When I first read this it never crossed my mind that it was fake

I literally spent (wasted ) a good 4 hours Friday night reading up on this story and reading the comments. I have a four year old son, his favorite color is pink, EVERYTHING MUST be pink! So this story had me irate! The story is bad enough, then you have peoples stupid comments; I was beyond consumed with trying to find out what this mother was going to do to make this man pay for his hideous actions. Being a mother myself, the "truth" of this story never crossed my mind. Who would use their child, posting his pictures, with names and all and make up such a horrible story? I know everything online is not honest and accurate, but while reading this particular post I never questioned it. That being said, I was reading from a biased and emotional viewpoint. The only thought in my head while reading the article was that it could've been me and my son in his pink hello kitty sunglasses, or his pink goggles and swimmies. I 100% believe men (if you can call them that) like this exist, they obviously don't all look like this man, or how she chose to describe him, but they are among us!

More and more comments started popping up with people questioning the story. Most of the same reasons have also been presented here; what mother wouldn't do anything, or do more? Maybe she was in shock at the time, but why wasn't she now trying to get Walmart to review the security tapes? A lot of people questioned her own use of stereotypes regarding the "redneck" and "old bird" references, when the story had to do with this same issue (and more). Anyway, I'm sure you get my the idea. My first thought is what kind of horrible people think a mother would lie and involve her child in it, online, where it will always be?? They had a link to an "update" she had posted but it wasn't working, so I googled her name. A youtube video popped up about why somebody thought her story was a lie. I didn't watch it a that time but it got me wondering why all these people were so quick to "assume" this was untrue. I decided to look into that. Apparently some people have done a little research on her; she has blogged off and on for years, using a couple different aliases. In one post she wrote about being a pathological liar as a teen, this resulted in CPS coming to her house, I think this, as well as the fact that she has had quite a lot of dramatic experiences for one person, has just raised some red flags for people. She has blogged about witnessing a murder, and almost being kidnapped 4 times, one of the times she was actually kidnapped. She also posted a follow up saying she didn't plan to pursue this guy, she attempted to play down the fact that the guy "cuffed" her son, saying that wasn't really the issue.
I have no idea one way or the other, but after reading some of the things that she herself has said, I can understand why people would be questioning her story. @carolinayellowdog this comment is not directed solely at you. I just put it here because it was around where people started posting doubts. In regards to Huffington Post, I am thinking, this would not be a hard story to verify, at least, I wouldn't think so. I wonder how they, or any other news media website, does verify that a person is indeed a credible source? I apologize for the long post, but being I have been on both sides of this story I thought I would share what I found.

[OneGrassRoot]

121. There is an echo, too.

"Cool story bro" appears repeatedly in this thread; guess it's a meme from wherever else they frequent.

I don't get the trashing of this particular story. I sure don't doubt it could happen, and I can envision it happening in any state. That kind of ignorance is still all too prevalent.

I don't get most of what's happening on here lately on an interpersonal level.

[Boudica the Lyoness]

75. Another bull shit story

There's been a lot of these silly stories lately on DU, all trying to press liberal hot buttons. They do nothing but water down the real homophobic and racist things that actually do happen.

As if a unusually dressed person/child would draw attention in Walmart, lol.

[Comrade Grumpy]

76. How do you (and all the other instant skeptics) know this is a bull shit story?

I mean, I don't know that it's true, but I don't know that it's not, either.

Have you reviewed the Walmart tapes, or what?

Don't mean to pick on you in particular, Boudica; there's a whole lot of that on this thread.

[Boudica the Lyoness]

80. Common sense.

But you bring up a good point; Walmart does video tape the inside and outside of their stores. I would like to see the videos made public. I wonder if we will get a chance.

[bettyellen]

107. three hours north of the city, we would get gawked at and get comments from people

every time we went into Walmart. For wearing what passes as boring comfortable clothes in NYC they would stare at us as if it was an alien invasion. No one there seems to know it's rude to stare and make comments at people, I found it very creepy, and unwelcoming.

[backscatter712]

78. That guy needs to be put in ICU... n/t

[HiPointDem]

79. nice story bro

[Common Sense Party]

82. The guy had a 'fug' AND a 'pong'? Wow.

This was the piece that the author's creative writing professor gave a C-.

[Whisp]

84. where do these ugly viscious hateful people come from?

do their ugly hateful families hand this shit down to them?

make me want to order a Meteor for Earth sometimes - gawd we are so freaking stupid.

[Enrique]

93. from Central Casting

[Whisp]

94. you really think people like that don't exist?

that is false.

I have seen them act like this toward babies/kids and pink/blue.

I hope you aren't assuming your experience reflects everyone else's and that you have scoured the earth for these kinds of scenarios and came up empty and therefore proclaim no such behaviour exists.

[HockeyMom]

85. "All the ladies say I look sexy in Pink"

A coworker friend of my husband wears a lot of pink shirts. I commented one time how good he looks in pink and that is what he said to me. "I dress to impress the ladies", he said with a wink. My husband said the guy gets teased by some of the men for his pink shirts, but apparently he just shrugs it off. This man is a very flirtatious Southern gentleman from Alabama.

Me? I stopped wearing pink decades ago because I got tired of people asking me if I was sick. I look HORRIBLE in pink. You wear whatever color looks good on you. That goes for men in pink too.

[Gidney N Cloyd]

106. I've got a couple of pink oxford shirts. They go well with my olive khakis.

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And cowboys like 'em, too.

[Go Vols]

128. +1

[Rex]

87. There are people out there that full of hate and fear.

No doubt. Even if the story of bogus, they exist just like in the article.

[RedCappedBandit]

89. If I had a two year old, and someone pulled that shit with him/her,

that someone might end up in the hospital, tbh.

[REP]

91. Weird how she could take photos of her kid at WalMart, but none of the man who assaulted him

Also strange how wonderfully tolerant she is, except when she's calling older women "old birds." I guess she's only tolerant about about things she thinks it's cool to be cool about.

Too bad she was so upset by a so carefully observed stranger putting hands on her son twice that she did ABSOLUTELY NOTHING about it except Facebook and blog. Sounds like a super real story to me!

[Dash87]

103. Cool story bro

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[Just Saying]

108. Wow

Okay a couple of points.

This rings true to me and I am a mother.

I can tell you that for some reason people feel like they are welcome to hand out parenting advice. And while some are well-meanings, a lot are pushy and even rude.

My youngest son had a large birthmark on his face. He is a beautiful, delightful boy who has smiled since the moment he learned how. But I had a number of people make ignorant, even insulting comments to us about him. "What did the other guy look like?" Did they think we or someone else beat my 18 mo in the face and neck?! "is that chicken pox?" Mind you, this looked nothing like chicken pox and we were at a kiddie park at the time. Um, really? I've even had people give me "What a shame? Type of crap. How insulting! My son is a blessing and perfect just the way he is!

Anyway, as a mother, I can tell you that attacking that man violently or freaking out on him isn't what I would've done either. You can't. Because you need to make sure your kids are okay. That is a mother's first instinct. And making more of a scene or escalating it will only scare the crap out of the kids. Now, I might call the cops but I think a mother worries first about protecting her kids.

And let's not pretend the man she described doesn't exist! The next county over has plenty that fit that description. Am I missing the part where this is about CCW?

Oh and my son loved pink too for awhile. So what?

[GlashFordan]

112. Cool story bro! Needs more ponies. nt

[MrMickeysMom]

114. What did she expect from WallMart pigs, but WallMart grunts?

[Warren DeMontague]

115. Get the security tape. Press charges if possible.

Honestly, given other shit that has happened in Wal-Marts; like the pissed off old man who slapped someone's crying baby in a cart, I don't see why this story is so hard to believe.


Oh. And that story also happened in a Southern, Red State. But I'm sure it's a coincidence.

[KinMd]

116. Add me to the list of those who aren't buying a word of this

[LeftyMom]

122. Blogger makes shit up for click$. News at 11.

This lady has a million attention whoring blogs on the internet, and while she's been scrubbing them, there's more than ample evidence that she's batshit.

[NCTraveler]

138. It took all of a minute to find some of the stuff she posts. Most being outrageous. nt.

[cbdo2007]

127. fake

[Demo_Chris]

131. cool story bro. nt

[AZ Progressive]

132. People who are calling this fake don't want to think that this happens in America

Or because "where you stand depends on where you sit." If you had any experience with bullies, you'd think otherwise.

[cali]

133. yeah, I don't get the contingent of people rushing to say this is fake.

[Just Saying]

135. How many of them are part of the gun crowd?

It appears from reading responses that they take this as some kind of veiled attack on CCW. I'm not sure why exactly. Perhaps they like to carry concealed in Walmart? Or they're taking the description of the guy as an insult to their wardrobe?

[Tree-Hugger]

151. Not me

I thought this was fake upon first reading it. There was a lot that came up on the author after it was initially published that solidified my suspicions. I am most certainly not part of the gun crowd.

[Just Saying]

157. I'm just going by some of the comments from posters I know are gunners.

Apparently the authorites are now involved so we may well find out.

[Tree-Hugger]

158. Gotcha

The authorities became involved because she called them stating she was getting harassing emails and other communication. When they arrived at her home, she made suicidal comments and they placed her under an involuntary hold (Baker Act). She has been released, but stated she doesn't care to find video of the incident and wants this all to go away.

[Dreamer Tatum]

140. As someone who is certain this story is complete bullshit, let me explain.

1. Walmart. Why does it have to be Walmart? Why not Sears? Why not an amusement park? I'll tell you why Walmart: because the person who made this shit up needs to convince the reader in any and every way possible that the offender is not just a bona fide offender, but part of a KNOWN class of offenders that can always be depended upon to stoke fear and loathing. How do you do that on a progressive board? Easy: make it happen in a Walmart.

2. "very large with a bushy beard and a camouflage shirt with the arms cut off." His lace-up work boots had no laces, and "the fug of cigarette smoke" and "pong of beer" Ignoring for a moment that I don't know what a "fug" or a "pong" is, why does the guy have to look that way? Easy: it fits into a very neat stereotype required to create a "credible" instance of...what, exactly?

3. The woman essentially lives online. Where are the pictures of the guy, then? Why does she have pictures of her kid in the basket, etc., but no pictures to prove any of this actually happened?

4. The woman has other doubters: http://getoffmyinternets.net/a-mother-thing-doesnt-plan-to-do-a-thing/#comments

5. It doesn't pass the smell test, in any event.

[LeftyMom]

147. People calling this fake have functioning bullshit detectors and the ability to google.

http://getoffmyinternets.net/katie-vyktoriah-story-being-questioned-by-internets/

[Tree-Hugger]

155. I have plenty of experience being bullied and I still think this is fake

I was not only bullied, but systematically tortured in grade school. I still, to this day at 34 years of age, have people tell me that I am ugly - total strangers, to my face. I know what it's like to be bullied. Furthermore, my son has long hair and plays with dolls, had a doll stroller he pushed around (he's too big for it now) and would carry around my old purses. I have had people - yes, in WalMart - make comments and ask if I was "Afraid he will turn gay." I have been there, trust me. I know this crap happens. Yet, my gut reaction was that the story was either entirely fake or greatly embellished. Further reading shows that she has a history of this type of behavior.

Of course, I think some reaction to her story has been very harsh and downright evil. While I think she is full of shit, I don't believe she deserves some of the stuff that's been said about her throughout the internetz. She obviously has issues and the type of evil shaming going on definitely won't help her.

[NCTraveler]

134. Not too sure about this one.

http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:Ru4jAwnwyrgJ:amotherthing.com/about/102-things-you-never-needed-to-know-about-me/+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us

[cali]

137. so she's quirky and reveals a lot of information about herself.

that doesn't mean she lied about this or make her a bad mother.

[NCTraveler]

139. I don't know how you can read that,

or all of the other information easily researchable about her(written by her), and come to the conclusion that she is quirky. Full of shit? Yes. Unhealthy? Yes. Quirky? Maybe, I have no clue as to her personality.

[Dreamer Tatum]

141. Cali is invested. nt

[cali]

142. Invested how? do tell.

and just how would you know?

[Dreamer Tatum]

143. Because the preponderance of the evidence is that the story is bullshit.

There is exactly zero evidence that it happened.

My guess is that she wants a little attention and a little green, probably not in that order.


Yes, Cali, there are terrible mean nasty homophobic racist people out there. There's no need to tie your wagon to bullshit stories like this to prove it.

[cali]

144. I'm not invested in this story. what preponderance of evidence?

I think there are questions to be asked, such as was she there when she said she was? Were there any witnesses? It may be true, it may not. Maybe it's partially true. Perhaps she embellished.

In any case, the point is that I don't know if it is or isn't and neither do you. At this time, I'm more sisturbed by the rancor and hate that's being directed toward her by people here than anything else. It's just weird to me. I'm not saying you're engaging in it, but others sure as hell are.

[Dreamer Tatum]

145. She appears to be a fabulist and an attention-seeker.

Long before this "happened," in fact. I fear more for her children because of her than I do because of some large man she conjured in her head to get attention and probably money.

[oberliner]

148. Where do you stand on this story now?

Do you still believe it is true or do you think it might be fake?

[Warren DeMontague]

149. I think current odds are running about 50-to-1 that the story is bullshit.

Stay tuned.

[Just Saying]

153. This is what appears at the link now

Editor's Note
Editor's Note: HuffPost provides a platform for bloggers to share their thoughts and experiences. In a post published last week, an author described witnessing an incident that is now being investigated by local law enforcement. At the blogger's request, we have removed the post. We have also confirmed with investigators that they are in contact with the author.

Lying in a blog is one thing, to the police quite another. I think the story is true but I guess we'll find out soon enough.

[former9thward]

159. This is the woman's history.

“Now removed from her site claims included having survived 3 failed kidnapping attempts and 1 successful one; claiming to be a stewardess for an airline and quitting just weeks before the flight crashed twice in three months; that she was “meant to be in NYC on 9/11, but I cancelled last minute”; that she missed catching a train that later crashed… Other claims include suffering from Celiac disease, diabetes, lactose intolerance, BPD, manic depression, ADHD, and apparently her breasts are so spectacular they cause bar fights.”
Read more at http://www.inquisitr.com/890764/was-the-walmart-pink-headband-gay-toddler-bashing-story-a-hoax/#MrReQbIEf2c38tjU.99

Even though this stuff has now been scrubbed from her website she still admits on her site to being "extremely paranoid."

http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:0pS8_v5mT_wJ:amotherthing.com/2012/05/just-the-facts-maam/+&cd=3&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us&client=firefox-a

[Drale]

154. I don't care how big and smelly he was

if someone touched my son without my permission, especially the way this ass-hat did, they would be on the floor with a bloody nose. I don't fuck around when it comes to my kids, whether my biological kids, or my soon to be wife's nieces and nephews which are basically my kids.