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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsI am just a two hour drive away from being able to get married on Tuesday.
I am ecstatic that this is happening and over joyed that many people I know will take full advantage of this.
But the more I think about this, the more I remember the man of my dreams (we spent 16 glorious years together before he passed in 2006). I also have a angry side in me over this because we could not legally show our love for each other, hell most of the time we were together we could have been arrested and sent to prison just for having sex between two consenting adults.
I have went through so much to get to this point in my life and to see our rights as LGBT Americans come to life, yes I have good memories and bad memories and I will be celebrating, I just hope I can let the bitterness in me subside because of having to wait so damn long to have our wrongs righted.
So here's to you David (the love of my life), I know you are watching down on me and when I finally get to meet you at the pearly gates, we will be as one again.
Thanks for listening to an old fool ramble on.
Peace to all.
PeaceNikki
(27,985 posts)I am so sorry for your loss.
greatauntoftriplets
(175,749 posts)cyberswede
(26,117 posts)It's wrong that you and your partner weren't allowed to be yourselves and enjoy the rights we all should share.
At the same time, it's terrific that the old ways are giving way, slowly but surely, to the way things should be.
bluesbassman
(19,379 posts)Little Star
(17,055 posts)one_voice
(20,043 posts)JI7
(89,264 posts)it's good to remember and let future generations know things were not always like this.
for example look at what is happening to many of the rights women and people of color have fought for.
and while rights for lgbt have made gains there is still a culture of hate out there.
i think best is not to try to forget it but use it as a way to do more to celebrate .
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)Peace to you.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)and i am glad that you are able to experience this william. today.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)A better semblance of true individual freedom replaces the old ways of: crush anyone not in the right clique.
It should have happened years ago, but progressives just have not come together until now to make it happen.
What we are witnessing is progress writ large on the big screen of modern US society.
Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)for both women and gay people. And I appreciate your support of women's rights. It seems like we go two steps forward, one back, or, recently, with reproductive rights, one step forward, two back. I can definitely see why you would be bitter. So much hatred and strife for decades -- over what? People loving each other...I don't get it.
Here's to you and David.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Aerows
(39,961 posts)herding cats
(19,567 posts)You're not the only person feeling joy mixed with sadness. The wait has been long and painful and too many never got to reap the benefits. I'm just relieved to finally be seeing real progress made toward equality.
Peace to you.
PeaceNikki
(27,985 posts)and 2 months later he suddenly passed away. http://www.democraticunderground.com/10023552428
I, too, had the pangs of bittersweet when the ban in Wisconsin was ruled unconstitutional last month. I really wish he could have lived to see what's happening. And to marry the love of his life.
Here's another
Proceed, William. Live your life to the fullest... as I'm sure that's what David would want you to do.
Peace be with you.
littlemissmartypants
(22,804 posts)Love, Peace and Shelter.
👬
Coventina
(27,172 posts)A short book that explains why it is NEVER too soon for people to have their human and civil rights.
A blistering explanation as to why the "slow and cautious" approach is cruel and wrong.
beam me up scottie
(57,349 posts)but you're not a fool.
I wish you all the best.
uppityperson
(115,679 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)to the wonderful attitude of the Obama era.
We need more good social policy! Hopefully whoever it is in 2016...will continue what Obama has started.
RIP David.
freshwest
(53,661 posts)brer cat
(24,605 posts)It came to late for David, but I wish you happiness as you move forward.
riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)((Hugs)) to you and your new beloved
pnwmom
(108,994 posts)have been able to see so much change in your lifetime.
shenmue
(38,506 posts)RKP5637
(67,112 posts)William769
(55,147 posts)But I want to everybody for all your thoughtful comments.
Cha
(297,655 posts)love, David, William.
niyad
(113,553 posts)made any sense to me.
tavernier
(12,401 posts)Maybe we can car pool to KW as soon as the stay is lifted and the weddings begin. Just standing on the steps of the courthouse that first day will be an amazing thing. I'll buy the first round.
dsc
(52,166 posts)her partner since the late 70's, not wife yet, has altzheimers and she is pretty much unable to travel. She is waiting for KY's ruling to finally be final so she can get married. I hope they make it but fear they won't. I am sorry your David didn't.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)((hugs))
tandot
(6,671 posts)when they struck down the gay marriage ban ... then they had a stay ... so they just drove to New Mexico and got married anyway ... today she posted the first letter addressed to them as a couple. It is hard to imagine for straight couple of how much that little letter meant to them.
It is heart breaking for the couples who never had the chance ... but the future is bright
daleanime
(17,796 posts)emsimon33
(3,128 posts)It has ALWAYS been an issue of equality. That the so-called "Christians" are blind to the actual teachings of their religion would be so ironic if it weren't so soul damaging and crushing.
riqster
(13,986 posts)Civil rights shouldn't be something you wait for. Your anger is fair and righteous.
Blessings to you and the love of your life.