Just Found Out My Niece Committed Suicide

[ProfessorGAC]

Her mom called from South Carolina. My wife and i helped bury our friend and neighbor who died from a brain tumor at noon today.

Then this.

This really sucks.

[Chan790]

1. I'm sorry for your losses. n/t

[ProfessorGAC]

6. Thanks For Helping the Catharsis

[TDale313]

2. I'm so sorry.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

[LisaLynne]

3. I'm so sorry.

[Little Star]

4. So sad to hear this ProfessorGAC. May she & your neighbor both rest in peace.

[NutmegYankee]

5. I'm so sorry.

[DI Slider]

7. My sincerest condolences

Prayers to you and your family.

[underpants]

8. So sorry to hear this Prof

Best wishes for your family

[ProfessorGAC]

11. Hey, A Pal From The Old Days!

Great to hear from you, UP

[underpants]

12. Tough times I am sure

Love

[ProfessorGAC]

9. Thanks For Helping the Catharsis

To all. I'm hoping for as much good kharma as my family can get

[etherealtruth]

10. I am so incredibly sorry

Sadly, I know what it is like to lose a loved one to suicide. It is horrible

[ProfessorGAC]

13. She Was Just 27

Geez

[etherealtruth]

19. Oh God ....

I have no words .... she was so young

[livetohike]

14. My sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your niece and also your friend.

[villager]

15. Condolences and healing thoughts to you & yours, ProfessorGAC

Not that "healing" is a thing that comes easily under the circumstances.

But still, all healing wishes...

[TeeYiYi]

16. (((((((ProfessorGAC)))))))...

OMG... The world seems to have gone crazy and now this. I am so, so very sorry for your loss.
TYY

[Ilsa]

17. I am so sorry.

This is awful. I hope your family can find some peace.

[Rhinodawg]

18. Forgive me...may I ask how old she was ?

Any depression or situation that set it off?

I am deeply sorry.

[ProfessorGAC]

23. 27

And she was co-dependent on a scumbag fiance

[Rhinodawg]

29. Its frequently the cause.

sorry.

[Baitball Blogger]

20. I'm sorry ProfessorGAC

[lpbk2713]

21. So sorry.

Deepest sympathies to all impacted by this tragic loss.

[bettyellen]

22. I am so sorry to hear this, Prof. Hugs if you want them, if not- nt.

[ProfessorGAC]

25. Thanks BE

My wife and i can use all the hugs we can get right now. Bury one friend and lose a family member within a few hours. What a drag

[bettyellen]

30. Hang in there you two- and a few more for Mrs Gac

[bananas]

111. Condolences and hugs

[Tikki]

24. We are so very sorry....

It hurts like mad to lose family.

The Tikkis

[jwirr]

26. Very sorry to hear this.

[Wait Wut]

27. I am so sorry.

I know the words mean nothing, but that's all I have to give you. I can't imagine.

[el_bryanto]

28. That's terrible - i'm sorry to hear that. nt

[randys1]

31. Shit, so sorry to hear this.

[Mnemosyne]

32. It does suck, I'm so sorry Prof.

[bluesbassman]

33. Tragic.

Sorry for your loss. Vibes of comfort for you and your family.

[ProfessorGAC]

34. Just to Think About Something Else

What bass or basses do you have?

I'm actually a piano/guitar player but, since piano players play bass (left hand) and guitar is nearly the same technique, we did a 3 piece thing for a while with me on bass and lead vocal.

I have a 5 string Fender Jazz with Vintage Noiseless pickups through a Bassman 400.

Not quite the set up for my guitar, but pretty good.

[bluesbassman]

43. Nice rig.

I've been playing four strings a long time. Have a Fender American Deluxe P-Bass and a cobbled together Jazz Bass. I just recently acquired a G&L L2500 five string and am really enjoying it, played a gig on Saturday and was very happy with the playability and sound. It was a toss-up between the G&L and a Fender, but the active/passive set-up on the G&L swayed me at the end. My amp is a Line 6 HD750 with a Line 6 4x10 and an Avatar 1x15 (the Avatar 15 really makes that low B string boom!). Definitely a little overkill for most of the small clubs we play, but I've got lots of headroom when I need it.

Primarily play Blues, but I do Classic Rock, Funk, R&B too. What genre/s are you into?

[Tikki]

68. I play a 1973 MusicMaster Bass...

I've been picking up my grandson's Gretsch bass lately.

I like the hand on my Fender better, though.


Tikki

[bluesbassman]

72. Great short scale bass!

Very comfortable if one is switching back and forth from guitar and bass. Interesting note on the '70s Musicmasters is that they utilized the same pickup that was installed on the Musicmaster, Duo-sonic and Mustang guitars. The cover that's on the pickup hides the poles, and if your's has never been removed you can't see them, but if you did take the cover off you'd see six poles. This setup gave the Musicmaster bass a little thinner and twangier sound. The two options for modifying the sound would be to re-route the body to accept a larger bass pickup (I wouldn't do that to a vintage instrument) or rewind the stock pickup for greater resistance which would produce a fatter sound.

Gretsch makes some cool instruments. Is you grandson actively playing?

[Tikki]

93. He's getting there....He is 12 years old...

My bass was a few years old when I got her.


Tikki

[bluesbassman]

94. That's really cool. I hope he stays with it!

The oldest guitar I have is a 1976 Aria A160 carved top that I bought new in Germany while I was stationed there. Don't play much guitar any more, but I'll never get rid of the Aria. Nice that you've kept yours all these years too!

[ProfessorGAC]

96. Soup To Nuts

We do a lot of songs with harmonies. Sort of our thing. On bass it's mostly classic. My guitar style tends toward the shredder mode. Satch, Vai, Petrucci, et al. I'm pretty darned good but wouldn't claim to be as good as those guys, just similar in style.

[polly7]

35. I am so sorry.

Wishing comfort and strength to you all.

[WillowTree]

36. Sending prayers and all manner of good thoughts to you and your family.

Consider yourself hugged, too.

[Denis 11]

37. I'm very sorry for your loss

[In_The_Wind]

38. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[mopinko]

39. peace to the survivors.

sorry to see you facing such a hole in the world.

[CountAllVotes]

40. ProfessorGAC

Hang in there my friend.

Don't let these two horrible events bring you down.

Take care of yourself!

CountAllVotes

[WillyT]

41. (((((((ProfessorGAC)))))))

I am SO sorry...





Peace...

[A HERETIC I AM]

42. Oh, man.......I'm so sorry, Prof.

Difficult. Just difficult.

Condolences.

[A Little Weird]

44. I'm so sorry for your loss. n/t

[catrose]

45. So sorry.

It's so hard.

[Sissyk]

46. I am so very sorry for your loss, ProfessorGAC.

No words can help but please know you and your family are in my thoughts.

[Xyzse]

47. I am so sorry.

[mcar]

48. I am so sorry

[deathrind]

49. Very sorry to hear this.

[greatauntoftriplets]

50. OMG, I am so sorry to hear that!

My deepest sympathies and a

[peacebird]

51. I am so sorry for your loss..

[Brigid]

52. Oh, ProfessorGAC!

[Cha]

53. So sad.. sorry, ProfessorGAC

[Aerows]

54. I lost a cousin to suicide

Beautiful young woman, and she took her own life.

Peace to you, I can't imagine what you are thinking right now. It's probably similar to what I thought - "What could I have done differently to help her"?

[LWolf]

55. Two.

Two suicides just last week. The very public, well known suicide, and then a local boy headed off to college.

I'm overwhelmed. "Sucks" is an understatement. I'm sorry for your loss.

[Aristus]

56. That's awful.

I can't imagine the pain you must be in. (((((ProfessorGAC)))))

[ripcord]

57. I am so sorry

My thoughts go out to you and your family.

[Louisiana1976]

58. So sorry for your losses.

[yellerpup]

59. Wishing you comfort in your time of sorrow.

Lots of hugs, too. Peace and heartfelt sympathy to you and your family.

[IdaBriggs]

60. So sorry for your family's loss.

Would you mind sharing a little about her?

What was she like? What made her happy? What were her passions?

[redwitch]

61. I am so very sorry Professor!

for you and your wife.

[cantbeserious]

62. Sincere Condolences

eom

[littlemissmartypants]

63. I understand your pain.

Two summers ago my mother attempted.

I know that doesn't reduce the heart ache.

Be kind to yourself.

~Lmsp

[Rex]

64. .

[bigtonka]

65. so sorry, so sorry

[City Lights]

66. Oh man, I'm so sorry, ProfessorGAC.

[calimary]

67. Aw, dear ProfessorGAC, all our sympathies!

I'm so sorry. Damn. So sorry to hear this.

Hugging you.

[Jester Messiah]

69. Condolences for your loss.

[niyad]

70. so very sorry for your losses. please know that your du family is here for you.

prayers for peace and comfort for all those left behind in both families.

[cate94]

71. I am so very sorry.

[johnnyreb]

73. I'm in South Carolina, focusing prayers

toward your niece, her mom and family.

[LoisB]

74. I am so sorry for both losses. Stay strong.

[reflection]

75. terrible. I'm so sorry. n/t

[Liberalynn]

76. My deepest condolences

[3catwoman3]

77. Wishing you the strength and determination you will need...

...as you deal with such sadness.

Perhaps I can pass on a bit of painful wisdom my family learned when my 23 yr old brother died from a cold-induced heart arryhthmia many, many years ago. My mother said she wished people would not be afraid to talk about my brother, because, when they did, she knew he was remembered, which was important to her. People always want to know what they can do at times like this, and there isn't much. Talking about the person you miss with others is one thing people can do but are often afraid to do because they don't want to make you sad.

[Quayblue]

78. Condolences, peace and healing to you all

[jimlup]

79. That's terrible. My heart aches for you and your family

[shenmue]

80. ...

[nomorenomore08]

81. OMG that is heartbreaking. So many people - younger, older - losing hope in these times.

Even I have days when I think the whole world is doomed and there's nothing we can do about it.

I know me saying this doesn't mean much, but be strong. I'm sure the rest of your family needs you even more now.

[JEB]

82. Very sorry.

[notgoinback]

84. My sympathy for your loss

My brilliant, lovable niece also took her own life in 2004 at age 28.

[yourmovemonkey]

83. I am sorry, professor.

Last year, my brother was killed by a drugged driver. He was only 50. I thought I was keeping it together pretty good, taking care of my elderly parents and trying to deal with DAs and investigators. Then, only a few months later, my friend's 14 year old son hanged himself, and I just fell apart. Sometimes life just pounds away at us... like it's made a game of finding our breaking point.

There's little consolation when it seems like we're surrounded by despair, but I promise you that it really does get better eventually.

[riderinthestorm]

85. I am so, so sorry. What a terrible time for you and your family

((((( Professor GAC and family )))))))))))))

[840high]

86. My deepest condolences.

[barbtries]

87. i am so sorry.

love and strength, peace by and by.

[TheNutcracker]

88. So sorry, so sorry so sorry. (((HUG)))

[blm]

89. ((ProfGAC))

.

[ismnotwasm]

90. I'm very sorry

[Depaysement]

91. .

[HuckleB]

92. Peace be with you.

Yes, it sucks. There is no other way to put it. Hugs all around.

Dang.

[NaturalHigh]

95. Very sorry to hear that Professor.

[ProfessorGAC]

97. Mini Update

I'm told there was a gun involved and a note was left. Since this happened nearly a thousand miles from where we live, details are coming in a little at a time. There is no other family down there.

[Tsiyu]

98. So sorry

[sakabatou]

99. My condolences

[MerryBlooms]

100. I'm so sorry... my condolences.

[freshwest]

101. Sorry about this.

[veness]

102. (((((Mr & Mrs GAC))))) Peace. n/t

. .

[deutsey]

103. I'm sorry for your losses

Please be sure to find the support you need during this difficult time.

[easttexaslefty]

104. I am very very sorry.

[jen63]

105. My condolences

to you and your family for your losses. I lost my husband to suicide 19 years ago. It was the most difficult thing I've ever encountered in my life. My son and I talk about him, but most of the time I keep it tucked neatly away in my mind. I don't know if that is healthy, but opening the "box" brings the pain back like the day it happened.

Healing thoughts to you and your family and may your niece rest in peace. No more pain for her. So very sorry.

[ProfessorGAC]

108. Thanks For The Empathy Jen

GAC

[jen63]

110. You're welcome

it will take time, but the pain will lessen. It will never go away, but trust me it will get better. It may not seem like it now, but time has a way of healing the pain. Talk about her and the good memories you have. A lot of times, families don't talk about it, as they think they won't have to deal with the pain. In my experience, talking to my son about it honestly was cathartic. (He was only 16 months old when it happened) So I had many questions from him to answer as he grew.

Peace to you and your family. I will be thinking of you.

[msanthrope]

106. I am so sorry. I wish you peace. nt

[tblue]

107. I'm so sorry.

Remember this: We care.

[ProfessorGAC]

109. Thanks Everyone

If you wish an update as we learn more, feel free to PM me and i'll let you know what we find out regarding cause and emotional state. Might help someone else.