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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsThe Case That Taught Me Domestic Violence Isn’t What I Thought: Parts 1 & 2 (Abuse trigger)
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Devastating writing from a lawyer trying to help women get out of abusive marriages. The abuse details are difficult, but more interesting, I think, is the description of how people get stuck in situations that it really does become almost impossible to get out of, and it illustrates well why "just leave" is sometimes an unrealistic option.
http://www.lifeofthelaw.org/the-case-that-taught-me-domestic-violence-wasnt-what-i-thought-part-1/
When I met her, Willa had been married to Anthony for 20 years, since they were 18. They had two children, ages 11 and 17. The stories of the abuse, when she first told them to me, came out easily, as if shed recalled them a million times, or lived them a million times: He had pushed her out of a moving car once, then backed up to throw her purse out behind her. It landed in a puddle and was soggy for days. He once took off his boot and broke her nose with it at a party in front of their guests. Then he took off his other boot and did it again. Hed escaped from federal prison twice. His brother had served time, too, after together, they threw a Molotov cocktail at a guy who had made them mad. At a gas station.
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I pressed play. As his voiced filled the room, the court reporter wrote:
Mr. Hinson: Go to Salvation Army and get hand-me-downs, because Im going to piss all over your fucking clothes, then Im going to soak them in diesel fuel. Fuck you. Are you enjoying letting everybody listen to your conversation? Do you think youre a big shot?
Ms. Hinson: No, Im just doing it so I could play it to the police when I go there now.
Mr. Hinson: Well go down there now and tell them this. Tell them this. Are you there? Are you still there? Yeah, its beeping. Tell them Im going to break your fucking jaw, you fucking cunt, and if they come over to my house, they better bring more than one, because weve got a big fucking problem now. Youre dead.
And with that I figured that the trial was over, that the case was won. But I was wrong.
Mr. Hinson: Go to Salvation Army and get hand-me-downs, because Im going to piss all over your fucking clothes, then Im going to soak them in diesel fuel. Fuck you. Are you enjoying letting everybody listen to your conversation? Do you think youre a big shot?
Ms. Hinson: No, Im just doing it so I could play it to the police when I go there now.
Mr. Hinson: Well go down there now and tell them this. Tell them this. Are you there? Are you still there? Yeah, its beeping. Tell them Im going to break your fucking jaw, you fucking cunt, and if they come over to my house, they better bring more than one, because weve got a big fucking problem now. Youre dead.
And with that I figured that the trial was over, that the case was won. But I was wrong.
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The Case That Taught Me Domestic Violence Isn’t What I Thought: Parts 1 & 2 (Abuse trigger) (Original Post)
Brickbat
Jan 2015
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niyad
(113,557 posts)1. I don't think I can read part 2 of this thing. I know it is going to make me angry, and ill.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)2. I felt the same way when I got to the end.
Pretty sure it will break my heart.
salin
(48,955 posts)3. count me as the third with the same response
... yet my empathy for the wife forces me to read part two.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)4. Kick.
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)5. Part 2
http://www.lifeofthelaw.org/the-case-that-taught-me-domestic-violence-wasnt-what-i-thought-part-2/
Never having experienced this kind of violence, I viewed it as the worst imaginable thing. But to her, it wasnt imaginary. It was real, and had been for decades. If, for Willa, being able to pay bills and buy food for her kids rather than losing her income source with no job or income prospects on the horizon mattered more than not getting hit, was that wrong? What made me more right?
mythology
(9,527 posts)6. This was a really powerful article
Thanks for sharing it.
raccoon
(31,120 posts)7. Glad to send this to Greatest! nt
Brickbat
(19,339 posts)8. Kick.