Please, PLEASE, help me!
Last edited Mon Jul 6, 2015, 03:48 PM - Edit history (1)
Please Help me...
I am re-posting this, because I've had over 300 views and no one has offered to help (indeed, I know we're all struggling!):
Yes, I need help. It is embarrassing and uncomfortable to say so, let alone to ASK for help. However, I HAVE to pay my rent. AND, my electric bill. AND, my car insurance. Also, I need new tires on my car. The tires I have are over three years old, and are going bald.
I do have a job, which I'm finding quite fulfilling. I am a non-medical caregiver for the elderly. I finally have enough hours to make my expenses, but I did not have sufficient hours for the first month I was employed.
Please, please help me. I don't want to lose my little country rent house. (Actually, I don't want to be homeless as I turn 60.)
I will appreciate any assistance, but I need at least $450 total. If you can help with my tires, that will require another $400.
Please, please, help me. I am very scared, and I need help to get over this hurdle. I now have sufficient hours to take care of myself, if you can just help me now.
I've set up a go fund me page and here is the URL:
http://www.gofundme.com/yha4v3k
(Thanks, Rhiannon12866 and CrawlingChaos, for suggesting Go Fund Me.)
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I've just discovered that my tires will only cost about $300!!!! I am very close to being able to put new tires on my car!!! (The guy who looked at my tires said, "You're very close to walking!" which makes me keenly appreciative of all the help you, my fellow DUers, have given me!!!!) Anyway, I wanted all of you to know, since some of you have indicated that you plan to make a donation today. I very much appreciate all of you!
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I appreciate you!
I wrote to them (they're REALLY fast about getting back to people) and they couldn't figure out how that could happen either, but when they checked it again it had suddenly fixed itself. The letter/number part of the link is supposed to be a unique number for each user, and I would have thought it would be computer generated, but my letter/number set for my dashboard page was identical to your set for your regular page where people donate. The dashboard is where you can add photos or write any updates or edit anything to your page and that kind of stuff.
The only thing about the set up they have for the pages is that the money amount doesn't take into account what funds you've removed to use, so people that see your page believe that the amount they're seeing is available to the person who has the page. There's no way that this doesn't hurt people trying to get donations for whatever reason... people think that the money amount they're seeing is money that is available to the person that has the page.
I see you're getting donations, so don't panic just yet. It's a holiday, and people are out barbecuing and getting ready to watch fireworks and having picnics... it's an outside kind of day today and tonight, so try to take a deep breath and see how it goes the rest of the weekend. And loads of people are away somewhere for the whole weekend as well, so it wouldn't surprise me at all if not much seems to happen until after the weekend?
Have you lived at your place a long time and/or have a good relationship with your landlord and/or not been late paying before? Despite my have the bad fortune to be stuck with the most vicious and disgusting landlord on the planet, I've rented many places in my life, and I really think that for the most part if you contact them right away before you're late paying the rent and explain the situation that the vast majority of landlords are understanding particularly if you've been at the same place for a long time, don't cause any kind of trouble like loud parties, or mess the place up and don't have a history of being late on the rent or otherwise being a "problem tenant" even if you don't get enough help and can't pay on time, the situation you're in is unfortunately normal, and happens to people all the time. Bad things just happen, and can happen to anyone.
I'm actually more worried about the situation with your car. I'm in the same boat with engine trouble that's been getting worse for months, and haven't a dime to do anything about it but pray it doesn't die until I can get whatever it is fixed. Is it possible that you could get a good used tire instead of a new one? I did that a couple of times in the distant past, and it was WAY cheaper than a brand new tire.
It really doesn't take much to throw a huge wrench in anyone's world when finances are at a minimum, and it just ALWAYS seems to happen that it's only when you find yourself in a bad spot money-wise, things just like the car bugging out, and the oven blowing up, or you trip on the curb and sprain your ankle or a tooth gets an infection, and on and on and on.
I so wish I could help! Since my own calamity first started I've never been more moved by the financial emergencies of others, and know how hard it is to be reduced to having to ask for help like this. It used to be that one could turn to family or friends, but these days damn near everyone is searching for loose change in the sofa. Nobody but nobody bites the bullet and begs for help like this if they weren't absolutely desperate. The humiliation is just excruciating, and it pisses me off no end that people calling themselves liberals, Dems, progressives, etc. would be irritated and even down right evil to those in terrible need... we of all people KNOW how utterly shit it's been for the average usually working person. Even missing a couple of shifts or having a week of no income coming in can completely savage the average person.
It looks like I'll be online from time to time for most of the weekend before I have to box up my computer and find somewhere for it to go so my scumlord can't get her grubby paws on it. I'll do my best to help keep your thread kicked, and as I said to another DUer earlier today or late last night that I know how you feel, it's the worst place to be, and though I so wish I could do something tangible to help it hurts so much that I can't, but know that my heart is squarely in your corner. Always.
Please keep me posted!
(I have been here a long time, haven't I?)
(I like your little emoticon!)
Thank you for the K&R!!
Every bit helps, and I appreciate you VERY much!!!
I will do something on Monday, if that's ok. Peace to you, chervilant!
I think that all of you, my fellow DUers, are awesome (and NOT just for helping me!).
And, I have to agree! I should be able to work enough hours and earn enough money to keep body and soul together!
Thank you so much!
Good luck chervilant!
To better days.. 
Gave a little.
I will donate as soon as I get home today
(((chervilant)))
Bodhi
posted herein above, and who've helped me in this most frightening time. I have to get to bed (work tomorrow, and I've been struggling with insomnia), but I will be posting personal replies to everyone I've not gotten to tonight!
I am so grateful to each and every one of you!!!!
Good luck!
I am thrilled to be providing advocacy for elderly and sight-impaired individuals, because advocacy has long been a fulfilling gift in my life. This is the first time I've gotten paid for it, though. 
