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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsIf one is going to leave a discussion forum, why post a long goodbye, or even a short one?
Heck, I think I've done it myself a few times at DU, when I was drunk, but I still don't know why I did it!
CJCRANE
(18,184 posts)I thought I'd try the opposite tack.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)question everything
(47,510 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)And I think I resemble that remark, at least when drinking.
Hmm.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)people often do when someone just disappears.
Not everything is done for nefarious reasons. One the bad aspects of the internet is that people seem to become very cynical after a while.
I assume that unless there is a reason to think someone is just looking for attention, we assume they simply want to let their friends, especially longtime members, that they are okay, that they are just moving on.
LiberalElite
(14,691 posts)KatyMan
(4,206 posts)Enough contact that it shouldn't be necessary to draw attention to you leaving. Or you should at least have the courtesy to IM anyone interested.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)today, no, it isn't possible to be in personal tough with the hundreds of DUers who have followed your work over the years.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)Which DUer "moved on today?" As you note? Sorry, I may have missed a thing or two.
Sheepshank
(12,504 posts)Wow...well respected? By whom?
And her nasty insulting rude comments on her own fwcr thread was far from the noble "I just want to let you all know I'm ok" you are implying. http://www.democraticunderground.com/10027366316
That op and even more so their own responses on their own thread was nasty.
At least they found a friend in you, I suppose. Although I wonder, were you aware if those tweets she had been sending. Many posted down thread on the first link I provided.
Are on board with those?
yuiyoshida
(41,833 posts)she told me she was fed up, I mentioned this in the Asian group, but otherwise it was no big production, which is the way she wanted it.
ChazII
(6,205 posts)I like when DUers do issue a good-bye statement. There are some that I do worry about.
question everything
(47,510 posts)Most posts - the most recent, thankfully was finally locked - are just full of hatred of DU, of DUers, of the administration.
But, of course, you don't need me to point the difference.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)redwitch
(14,946 posts)DU has become important to me over the 12 years I have been here. If I ever decide to leave I will say goodbye.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)I don't know if the majority qualify, however. Certainly, any goodbye I offered was nonsense.
EV_Ares
(6,587 posts)do from time to time & don't spend much time here as well, just leave. Like now, just coming back to watch the fun between the Bernie supporters & Hillary supporters. DU is the same old thing, fighting among themselves, lots of good drama until it gets old. I love the posts that say they are going to be terminated & kicked out of DU.
However, if someone wants to say goodbye, that is OK, if not that is OK too.
randys1
(16,286 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)I may not always be particularly at this aversion, but I'm trying.
Well played there.
rjsquirrel
(4,762 posts)what the past bring obliquely referred to does.
"I'M LEAVING, love you ...... And FUCK you people I don't like."
A highly respected poster who has to swear as she leaves.
Lol.
Number23
(24,544 posts)It's so moronic and embarrassing.
BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)It did me a lot of good. I realized I was the one that was at fault for my anger...not anybody else.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)I think I'd be cool with "hey, I'm going on vacation! see you when I get back!" posts!
kwassa
(23,340 posts)and tell you how wonderful you are.
out of a sense of inflated self-importance.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)it's for any other reason. It's always been a tradition on forums like this for people to let others, who often worry when someone is missing, that something is wrong.
I prefer to assume the best of people whenever possible.
sheshe2
(83,833 posts)Ok~
Response to sabrina 1 (Reply #17)
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Tarheel_Dem
(31,236 posts)Baclava
(12,047 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)Especially with THAT name! We would miss you!
OKNancy
(41,832 posts)when people say "don't leave" it makes them feel wanted. It is also attention seeking...but so are many posts on DU. LOL
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)let them know they are okay, just moving on.
Especially longtime members who are well known and ARE missed when they suddenly disappear.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)But I think the middle ground there is where I'm at...
Hmm.
Sheepshank
(12,504 posts)That op and even more so their own responses on their own thread was nasty. At least they found a friend in you, I suppose. Although I wonder, were you aware if those tweets she had been sending. Many posted down thread on this post http://www.democraticunderground.com/10027367805
Are on board with those?
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)what they do. EVERY post on DU seeks attention, or it wouldn't be posted. What would be the point? Come on now. Have a cup of tea, and enjoy your weekend.
GusBob
(7,286 posts)Renew Deal
(81,866 posts)And the repeat offenders are starving for attention.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)And I guess I crave attention when I'm drunk. Hmm.
linuxman
(2,337 posts)Those are some of the best threads.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)Trajan
(19,089 posts)Leave some room for that
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)Oh, wait. Yeah, I like them, too. They do serve a purpose.
UglyGreed
(7,661 posts)you should leave so I can be alone with my thoughts
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)UglyGreed
(7,661 posts)and I'm not much of drinker at all. I'll just spread out enjoy my own company, it's best for us all if you catch my drift
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)I'll enjoy your bourbon.
just take it easy please since I'll be left alone to clean up the place...
GP6971
(31,189 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)jberryhill
(62,444 posts)I don't understand them either.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)What?
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)We call them GBCW's after the classic line from suicide notes.
I never understood the point of suicide notes either. After you are dead, it's not as if you are going to give a shit what anyone thinks.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Instead, I am left dying a thousands deaths alongside him. It doesn't ease the hurt, but there are times when it is completely and wholly out of left field. That's why.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)I lost a brother to suicide when we were both in our 20s, and there was no note, either. Long story, of course. Still, it's a long road, as you clearly know, for the survivors.
Take care.
Evergreen Emerald
(13,069 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)We're now learning that the act is very often quite impulsive, so the suicide note is interesting in light of that.
frogmarch
(12,158 posts)get hurt or disgusted by something or someone here, they need to vent. That's all. I don't think everyone who posts a goodbye is trying to get other posters to ask them to stay. They just feel bad.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)I never intended to stay when I did it. That's for sure.
And yet...
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)It's that simple. Some people like to "leave a mark" if only for a moment. Others not so much.
I left one once because I did leave for a very long time after MrG died. I wasn't myself, and I was sick of the trainwreck aspect of my life... and at that point I had more than a few acquaintances here (it's not like it is now) so I left and returned with a new name. Now? I take off all the time, but I'm not super attached to the majority of people anymore. I've "grown up," and DU doesn't mean to me what it once did. I hope that makes sense.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)for the total number of occurrences of the words "door", "ass", and "hit".
I think you're made of tougher stuff anyway.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)Of course the hostility from conservatives has now become part and parcel of DU. I actually found Discussionist to be more respectful overall than DU.
For quite a few of us DU was a real lifeline to political sanity at one time, it would be difficult to adequately describe how isolated I felt back when I first found DU through Bartcop (who is now dead and gone).
haikugal
(6,476 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)The reality is the 40 percent of the most red or blue communities is still the opposite, although online nonsense is not the same.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)I'm sure I've met other atheists, we just don't know each other when we do because it's something that isn't spoken of in the more religious and conservative parts of the country.
Likewise I'm sure there are other liberals around but there's no way to tell who they are when liberals don't bring up their political inclinations in public.
When every political or religious discussion turns into a fight you learn to shut up about it unless you want to spend all your time fighting with irrational people.
Remember, at the time I found DU, Dubya had a 90% approval rating generally and where I live it was higher than that. The chances of running into someone that didn't like him were about one in twenty or thirty, everyone else was a potential political fight.
SickOfTheOnePct
(7,290 posts)Yet Another Grand Exit
saturnsring
(1,832 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)And yet I have done it, myself. I still say it's weird, however.
Action_Patrol
(845 posts)As if anyone could possibly care.
So very dramatic.
kwassa
(23,340 posts)as soon as I start one.
Action_Patrol
(845 posts)npk
(3,660 posts)just to yell at you.
sibelian
(7,804 posts)If they KNOW they won't bother and waste their time.
ALSO, I want them to actually know that I'm sufficiently pissed off with them that I don't think they're worth talking to any more. It's very unlikely that they'll give a fuck, sure but if there's a general consensus that informing people that they are being ignored, those who end up getting ignored all the time MIGHT think "hm, maybe this is my fault" IF they're being told.
bigwillq
(72,790 posts)If that's what they want to do, cool. But it still makes me chuckle and I will crack a joke about it.
Bye, Felicia.
Response to HuckleB (Original post)
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840high
(17,196 posts)cwydro
(51,308 posts)But each to his own.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)And then I hide the freaking thread and pretend like nothing happened when he/she returns.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)but I usually restrain myself when I see them again within the week lol.
I actually think a lot of people on DU may be very lonely and/or alone. So I try to put myself in their moccasins and move on.
Some of the angriest posters here - I think are maybe in a bad place elsewhere. I mean, we all have RL issues to deal with.
At any rate, that's the excuse I come up with for some of the posters whose never-ending negativity starts to become annoying.
Rose Siding
(32,623 posts)Boy, boy, crazy boy,
Get cool, boy!
Got a rocket in your pocket,
Keep coolly cool, boy!
Don't get hot,
'Cause man, you got
Some high times ahead.
Take it slow and Daddy-O,
You can live it up and die in bed!
Boy, boy, crazy boy!
Stay loose, boy!
Breeze it, buzz it, easy does it.
Turn off the juice, boy!
Go man, go,
But not like a yo-yo schoolboy.
Just play it cool, boy,
Real cool!
DFW
(54,415 posts)I need a cumbersome operation soon, and might be away for more than a normal hiatus. I'll probably post something when the time comes. That way, the people who care will know, and the ones who have me on ignore (there must be several by now), plus the one self-righteous jerkoff crusader who banned me from a group for an inadvertent post, will have no cause to rejoice
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)Take care!
DFW
(54,415 posts)The surgeon told me last time (1999) it was a degenerative process, and that I'd need it again "some day," but he couldn't possible predict when. I'd know it. Well, I'm limping and am in constant pain since about 2 weeks, so I know it. At least I know why. It's complicated though, as I am on blood thinners for my heart, and know for a fact (as in from 4 years ago) that I will get another heart attack if I go off the blood thinners, which will then cause complications if I need an operation.
Oh, well. Either they figure something out, or I become a cripple, or I don't wake up. One way or the other, something will happen.
Tommy_Carcetti
(43,188 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)just vanish. It's really up to them. And if they come back, so what? Welcome back.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)In old films, when an actor had to die, the director would basically let him or her die any way he or she wanted. I think the same should prevail when taking leave of DU.
BTW, I won't be kicking this thread again.
geomon666
(7,512 posts)Doesn't really make sense to in my position. I don't have the attachments that some people do here. I've never made friends here. I'm certainly not close with anyone from this site. I don't think I've even met anyone from here.
But for those that do have all of that, sure I get it.
bigwillq
(72,790 posts)But I interact with many on Facebook that I consider friends. But I still wouldn't make a goodbye posts. I would tell those I want to know, but I wouldn't feel the need to make it public. Folks can do as they wish, I just get a chuckle out of the goodbye threads.
Hope you are having a nice night.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)I don't have a true connection to the site any more, however.
bigwillq
(72,790 posts)But some need to lighten up and remember it is just a message board. We need to not take it so seriously. Bye, Felicia.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)bigwillq
(72,790 posts)But things change.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,834 posts)HuckleB
(35,773 posts)Number23
(24,544 posts)And will post them often in the latest GBCW to much embarrassment and wailing from the author of the latest GBCW and their defenders.
ladjf
(17,320 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)GD attracts it while at the same time repelling disruptive meta at near the speed of light.
HuckleB
(35,773 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)sibelian
(7,804 posts)Mind you, I was clear about the reasons and it wasn't "I hate you all" it was "I have to focus on other things". I put nice pictures in it too, which I think helped.
Anyway, it's difficult not to put hours of effort into something involving other people of any kind, and not feel attached to it and them, of course. I think it's perfectly normal. I would never insult someone for expressing discontent with DU to the extent that they felt they had to leave. And really, HuckleB, is it so unnatural to want to know that people had some interest in what you did? It's very easy to be snotty about GBCW. I always think it's a shame.
Well. Unless it was obviously just dumb, self-absorbed trolling, obviously. But I've seen far fewer genuinely ugly GBCW posts as the years go by. It's a lot less like that now.
Sunlei
(22,651 posts)Butterbean
(1,014 posts)What followed was a deluge of emails and phone calls asking where I was and if I was okay. It was.........bizarre. So while part of me kinda really cringes at GBKW posts, part of me thinks they do serve a purpose. People know where you went and won't go a-hunting.