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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMother's letter to store concerning gender-nonconforming teen goes viral
A North Carolina mother wrote an open letter on Facebook to a Justice Clothing Store after the sales staff accommodated her gender non-conforming son. The letter immediately went viral.
"My son would longingly look in the windows of Justice and say, 'I wish I could shop there,'" Huffington Post blogger Martie Todd Sirois wrote on Facebook, adding, "But we never went in." Justice specializes in teen and tween girls' fashions.
Her son doesn't identify as a girl, but had enjoyed wearing clothes from the girls' department of other stores, she explains in her open letter. She said she was wary of taking her son to shop there, following the passing of a law often referred to as HB2 in North Carolina that bans transgender people from using public restrooms that align with their gender identity. After speaking with an online support group, another mother reached out to the store to see whether Justice would allow a boy to try on clothes.
"The store manager assured her that 'everyone is welcome at Justice,' and any rudeness or discrimination from fellow customers would not be tolerated," Sirois wrote on Facebook.
Sirois and her son visited the store, and were helped by a store manager.
"Once that first outfit was on, he posed and admired himself in the mirror, spun around in circles to see the skirt poof out, and studied himself from all angles in every possible combination of outfits," Sirois wrote.
"I rarely get to see my son being his full potential, his absolute true self in public. The store manager encouraged that and even helped bring it out," she added.
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"I have to call ahead to certain stores to make sure they're open to providing traditional 'girl' services to a gender non-conforming boy," she said. "Because they'd be protected under law to discriminate against us, if they so chose to fight that battle."
"My son would longingly look in the windows of Justice and say, 'I wish I could shop there,'" Huffington Post blogger Martie Todd Sirois wrote on Facebook, adding, "But we never went in." Justice specializes in teen and tween girls' fashions.
Her son doesn't identify as a girl, but had enjoyed wearing clothes from the girls' department of other stores, she explains in her open letter. She said she was wary of taking her son to shop there, following the passing of a law often referred to as HB2 in North Carolina that bans transgender people from using public restrooms that align with their gender identity. After speaking with an online support group, another mother reached out to the store to see whether Justice would allow a boy to try on clothes.
"The store manager assured her that 'everyone is welcome at Justice,' and any rudeness or discrimination from fellow customers would not be tolerated," Sirois wrote on Facebook.
Sirois and her son visited the store, and were helped by a store manager.
"Once that first outfit was on, he posed and admired himself in the mirror, spun around in circles to see the skirt poof out, and studied himself from all angles in every possible combination of outfits," Sirois wrote.
"I rarely get to see my son being his full potential, his absolute true self in public. The store manager encouraged that and even helped bring it out," she added.
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"I have to call ahead to certain stores to make sure they're open to providing traditional 'girl' services to a gender non-conforming boy," she said. "Because they'd be protected under law to discriminate against us, if they so chose to fight that battle."
http://www.newsday.com/news/nation/mom-s-open-letter-to-justice-store-for-gender-nonconforming-teen-goes-viral-1.12322618
I wonder in North Carolina if permission is needed for a girl to shop in the boy's department? People probably wouldnt care as much since "tom boys" are more socially-accepted. But when it goes the other way, it becomes a controversy.
Strange how crazy society gets over what is essentially nothing but fabric. What makes clothes special that we assign them to gender?
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Mother's letter to store concerning gender-nonconforming teen goes viral (Original Post)
davidn3600
Sep 2016
OP
I work as a sub and one of the students I have worked with has obvious gender issues
kimbutgar
Sep 2016
#1
He looks happy and why anyone would want to quash that is beyond comprehension.
Solly Mack
Sep 2016
#2
kimbutgar
(21,188 posts)1. I work as a sub and one of the students I have worked with has obvious gender issues
He is a delightful child and asked me to call him a female name. I did and his smile my brightened my day when I referred to him as a female.
Solly Mack
(90,787 posts)2. He looks happy and why anyone would want to quash that is beyond comprehension.
Hate has no purpose. None.
Ilsa
(61,698 posts)3. This is the way the world should be.
We shouldn't judge, but we should cooperate to so every child is comfortable in his or her own skin.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)4. Women have more options.