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niyad

(113,587 posts)
Mon Jan 4, 2016, 10:39 PM Jan 2016

Toxic Culture 101: Understanding the Sexualization of Women (but there is NO war on women!!)

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Toxic Culture 101: Understanding the Sexualization of Women


A year ago I decided to drive across the street from my office for lunch. I wanted to avoid the catcalls I’d endured the last time I had crossed this particular street, when a middle-aged man yelled from his red Chevy truck, “Ride my cock, baby!” I wondered what it would be like not to feel like a sexual object on display. But I also wondered whether I’d rather be the woman who gets whistled at or the one who doesn’t.

As a psychotherapist, I meet hundreds of women who struggle with their body image or sexuality. These struggles show up as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, body dysmorphic disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, reproductive concerns, parenting issues or relationship crises. I’ve also encountered increasing numbers of men dealing with relationship issues and loneliness.

And I know firsthand the discomfort of embodying what many people see as unattractive. As a Middle Eastern American, I don’t fit the Eurocentric model of beauty. When I was a young girl, I drew pictures only of blonde, blue-eyed princesses, perhaps in response to my blonde stepsister telling me that my “skin was the color of poop.” No matter how much I tried to dress myself up, I was still not white.

Now that I understand how common body-image struggles are, I’ve begun to wonder who is really sick—my clients or our culture? So, I spent the last year documenting pieces of the world around me, gathering evidence of a toxic cultural milieu. On my drive to work one day, this is what I saw:

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http://msmagazine.com/blog/2016/01/04/toxic-culture-101-understanding-the-sexualization-of-women/

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Toxic Culture 101: Understanding the Sexualization of Women (but there is NO war on women!!) (Original Post) niyad Jan 2016 OP
and waiting for the usual in 3. . . 2 . . . 1. . . niyad Jan 2016 #1
k & r chervilant Jan 2016 #2
you are most welcome. niyad Jan 2016 #3
I like your explanation of the topic. Nitram Jan 2016 #4
sadly, the men most in need of reading it will not. niyad Jan 2016 #5
Is that Burger King as shown in the article for real??? Odin2005 Jan 2016 #6
sadly, the image is real. there was a carl's jr. ad on tv that was even worse. niyad Jan 2016 #7

chervilant

(8,267 posts)
2. k & r
Mon Jan 4, 2016, 11:29 PM
Jan 2016

Thanks for posting this OP. I think The Bro Code documentary should be required viewing in high school.

Nitram

(22,892 posts)
4. I like your explanation of the topic.
Tue Jan 5, 2016, 12:10 PM
Jan 2016

Clear with good examples. I hope men who would benefit from reading it will do so.

Odin2005

(53,521 posts)
6. Is that Burger King as shown in the article for real???
Fri Jan 8, 2016, 08:04 PM
Jan 2016


And I know firsthand the discomfort of embodying what many people see as unattractive. As a Middle Eastern American, I don’t fit the Eurocentric model of beauty. When I was a young girl, I drew pictures only of blonde, blue-eyed princesses, perhaps in response to my blonde stepsister telling me that my “skin was the color of poop.” No matter how much I tried to dress myself up, I was still not white.


This is really sad.

With all this I, as a person with a psychology background. am reminded by how in general mental disorders are blamed on internal "chemical imbalances" rather than looking for socioeconomic causes.

niyad

(113,587 posts)
7. sadly, the image is real. there was a carl's jr. ad on tv that was even worse.
Sat Jan 9, 2016, 01:47 PM
Jan 2016

and yes, refusing to address the culture, the socioeconomic realities, is a handy way of deflecting the blame, and being able to address problems.

women are blamed for being self-absorbed and vain, and blamed for not taking on the media/advertizing,/fashion/makeup, etc, as though we had created these monsters.

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