How do you deal with liars?

[Darth_Kitten]

Seriously, those who tell the kind of outlandish, nasty lies that hurt people and damage relationships?

Why are these people so readily believed?

[femmocrat]

1. I simply have nothing to do with them.

Did someone tell lies about you, Darth Kitten?

[Darth_Kitten]

2. I'm thinking it's starting with me as well

Thinking this certain close person (the liar) is getting people who were (are?) my friends in her corner.

I guess it's easy to get people who aren't in the know about this person (a family member) to get on her side. But I can't fight this crap anymore...she even lies to her kids, and our family is pretty fractured because of this. This isn't just weeks or months of this kind of treatment, it's now years and decades.

[Tobin S.]

3. They make a nice stew

Seriously, liars are usually pretty easy to detect if you have critical thinking skills. The problem is that a lot of people do not possess those skills and you get bullshit rumors all over the place.

Fuck 'em. Succeed in what you do. That's how you get even.

[JitterbugPerfume]

4. Tobin

You have the correct attitude

[murielm99]

5. My mother is one of those.

This has gone on for as long as I can remember. I ignore it, unless it is really bad, as in it puts me or someone else in some type of jeopardy. Then, I confront her. It does no good. She starts the cycle over again.

Usually, I ignore it. I trust that many people will see her for what she is, if not now, then later. She hates it when her nasty shit is ignored. As far as that goes, she hates me. She hates my sister-in-law, and my nieces, too. She was not invited to my niece's wedding. She has never met her great grandchildren. This is what her lying gets her.

Sooner or later, your liar will meet a similar fate.

I don't know why these people are so readily believed. Isn't it amazing? Just hang in there, and hang onto your integrity. I know it is hard. Sometimes I hang on by my fingernails. Fortunately, I have a brother and husband who understand. I hope you have some understanding people, too. That is one of the few things that will help.

I am so sorry.

[Kali]

6. I hold grudges.

I am naively trusting until you burn me, then it takes a LONG time if ever for me to trust again. If the lie is really harmful I may look for justice or revenge.

[silentwarrior]

7. Liers always get found out

As for having to deal with them?

[GoCubsGo]

9. Yep.

My sister loves to make up shit. She rewrites history as good as any republican. Everyone in the family is pretty much onto her at this point. Usually, we call her out on the lies, or ignore them.

[Broken_Hero]

8. I usually ignore

them and stay away from them.