Have you ever experienced "love at first sight"?

[Locut0s]

I've never even dated or come close to going out with a girl so I'm one to ask but I'm curious. Has anyone here experienced the phenomenon of "love at first sight"? Maybe a better way to put it might be lust at first site as love is something that probably takes time to develop, though what do I know. At any rate I just mean the experience of eyes meeting and BOTH people 'knowing', 'fireworks' etc...

[HopeHoops]

1. Yeah, my wife. Late December, 1984. We're still happily together.

I ALSO experienced "lust at first sight", but that was earlier.

[Xyzse]

2. No...

Not sure.
Relationships of mine were developed over time.
Though people say that if one is stuck in the friend zone, that is where they will stay, that is not actually the case.
Then again, with me it seems it is usually the girl who makes the first move. I never assume interest.

[FSogol]

3. Yeah, about 10 times a day.

[ohiosmith]

4. That is why I no longer drink tequila!

[hifiguy]

5. Are you by chance Asperger's?

I am, and I am in the same position - no dates ever and I am now in my 50s and too old to care anymore.

When I was in college I was in a seminar and a young woman walked in and I nearly fell out of my shoes. Drop-dead gorgeous (she's Vietnamese and a bit French) and I knew she had to be brainy because it was an honors class. Had a thing for her all through college and law school. We were both in College Democrats and shared a lot of courses as we were in the same major. Never even spoke to her except in the most casual way when others were around. She went on to become a top exec at a company here in Minnesota and is now a law professor.

[Locut0s]

6. Depression, and social anxiety...

I don't think I fit the diagnostic criteria for Aspergers. Thouugh you aren't the first person to suggest this. What are the usual symptoms? I think being more intelligent than the norm is one aspect and I suppose I fit that criteria.

[Locut0s]

10. No not Aspergers...

After reading the wiki article on it I have to say I don't fit that criteria. I'm much more socially able than that, don't have problems with empathy and others emotions for example. But I DO have few friendships and they don't usually last that long or run too deep but that's usually a result of me pushing people away cause of my own fear.

[Locut0s]

9. BTW are you an audiophile or home theatre geek as your name suggests...

I love HT stuff.

[hifiguy]

12. High-End home audio. I've been a reviewer

of both music and (primarily) equipment for more than fifteen years in a variety of publications. I started at The Absolute Sound, moved to Stereophile and now write for a website.

[Locut0s]

15. Awesome! Say what's your opinion of Beyerdynamic DT headphones?...

More specifically models in the $250-$300 range. I've been debating getting a pair for a few years now. I've had people highly recommend the DT 1350s and I myself was looking at one of the DT 800 series. I've also had people recommend to me a few AKG models as well. Probably overkill for gaming which is mostly what I do. But I want something nice for watching movies and listening to music. I like classical music the most.

[hifiguy]

16. Headphones are one of the few things

I can't offer a informed opinion about. I haven't listened to phones in years.

[Locut0s]

22. I see. Do you have any opinion on these?

I bought these some years back for my Home Theatre setup:

http://www.paradigm.com/products/products-by-category/ct-5-1-system/paradigm/cinema/cinema-110-ct

I couldn't be happier with them for the price I paid, about 1000 at the time including sub, but I'd be interested in what a pro would think about them. You might not have tested these I don't know. Do you know anything about screens? If so what do you think of this?:

http://www.newegg.com/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16889102182

Also got that some years back and couldn't be happier. Though it's amazing what I could get now for the same price, not that I paid an insane amount or anything.

[pipi_k]

7. Being the cynic that I am...

at age 59, I would say that love at first sight is a bunch of crap.

So you're probably more right than you realize when you call it "lust at first sight".

and no...I've never had either.

Although I've had what I would call "recognition at first sight". And "recognition at first hug".

I was at a powwow one day looking at some stuff when I raised my eyes and looked straight into the eyes of the guy behind the counter. Immediately felt an electrical current of recognition...like a connection on some soul level.

Never saw him again, but I can still remember what it felt like.

Present Mr Pipi...at a 12 Step dance with a bunch of friends, most of whom were women, and all of whom had danced with him. He finally gets up the nerve to ask me to dance, drags me to the dance floor, and it's the end where everyone joins hands and sings "Amazing Grace", then they hug the person next to them.

Again, that flash of electrical recognition. Not sexual...at least, not for me.

We were married four months later. That was nearly 18 years ago.

OK, so the love part.

I don't believe people can truly say they "love" someone until they've seen that person at his worst. When they've gotten so angry they almost hate the person. Love and hate are so closely intertwined. Anything else, IMO, is either lust, or indifference.

[geardaddy]

8. Yep, too many times. n/t

[nolabear]

11. Yeah. A long time ago. *sigh*

It was a romantic tragedy all the way around. I was in high school and he moved there from "Up North". He was a big, blonde, incredibly smart and talented young man, full of himself, full of life, who sang beautifully and read everything I loved. I fell like only a lonely, sad, out of place teenaged girl can fall.

And he recognized the same smartness and desire for life in me. We talked and talked and talked and talked, and now and then it was as if lightning had passed between us. We used to joke that no matter what shit was flowing aorund, we could stick our heads up above the fray and wink and laugh and really see one another.

But he came with a girlfriend, a girl I actually liked. And in no time at all, she was pregnant. And she wasn't one to seek out an abortion (if she could have at all) and he wasn't one to shirk. So they married, had a beautiful little girl, he graduated early and joined the service, and we remained friends who might, under different circumstances, have been a lot more.

And then he died. He died under mysterious circumstances, alone, and nobody knows what happened. I won't go into how. I was 21 and had gotten married and didn't regret it, but I still mourn him sometimes. Still He was a beautiful boy, and so alive. And, you know, he saw me.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

35. Oh, my dear nolabear.......

I am so sorry, sweetie......

When they see you...it's all over.

[Ikonoklast]

13. Oh, God, yes! I knew we would stay together for the rest of my life

from the very first moment I ever laid eyes on her beautiful figure...



We've been very happy together since that first night out.

[Taverner]

14. You mean infatuation at first sight

Love is a chemical cocktail of brain drugs. Oxytocin, Dopamine, Seratonin, Endorphins, Androphins, etc..

It also involves knowing a bit more about someone than a pretty face.

[Locut0s]

21. Indeed, which is why I said, probably 'lust'. nt.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

17. Love, no. Lust, definitely.

[undeterred]

18. With my first boyfriend and then with my second and third dogs.

I was wrong about the man but the dogs were true.

[Locut0s]

20. Lol. Ok I'm going to leave that one alone ;)

[annabanana]

19. I have, on occasion, in my youth

been overcome with a severe and exciting reaction to pheromones.

Some times something just gets yer motor running.

[fizzgig]

23. definitely lust at first sight with my husband

the love came pretty quickly, too, and we got engaged six weeks after we met.

[DFW]

24. At age 22, who knows if it was love or lust?

But the second I laid eyes on this woman, I was lost
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I also figured I had no chance in hell. But then I also thought, even women like that marry SOMEBODY, so why NOT me?

We were together for 8 years, then got married, and have been together for another 30 years since the wedding.

Like Ben Gurion supposedly said, "he who does not believe in miracles is not a realist."

[benld74]

25. I can still remember seeing my wife's eyes for the first time,,,,

and that was over 25 years ago. Most likely it was love at first site, but I'm kinda slow with that sort of thing. Took me close to 4 years to propose. Glad she waited me out.

[bigwillq]

26. Lust: Yes. Love: No.

I don't think it's possible for it to be love at first sight. It takes more than looks to fall in love.

[riderinthestorm]

27. Yes. I went to apply for a job, saw him (my now husband) and knew. Immediately.

We went to dinner, I stayed over and never left. 27 years together now. Edited to add that my husband felt the same way. Like we were struck by lightening. I was actually engaged to an Australian pilot when I met my husband....

I've met two other couples who had the same experience. Weirdly enough, one of them was my dad and his second wife, my beloved step mother. She was the bingo announcer at a Del Webb bingo night. My dad walked in as a new resident (74 years old) and he immediately thought "BINGO!" as soon as he laid eyes on her. They married within 6 months and just celebrated their 5th wedding anniversary. She's 82! They had a LOT to overcome LocutOs so don't give up. He was a raging alcoholic, Democrat, atheist. She's a minister with a son whose a tea party US Rethug Congressman....

As my mom used to say, for every Jack there is a Jill (or maybe yours is another Jack but you get the gist). As my Dad and his beloved Stella prove, its never too late.

[Joe Shlabotnik]

29. guess you got the job, eh?

[riderinthestorm]

30. LOL!! No, actually I never ended up applying.

We got so heavy so fast, and there was a no nepotism clause in his employment contract, I never even put in the app. I would have been his subordinate and after that first night there was no way we could go back (yup back in the day I was a randy girl and put out on the first date! ).

So there were a few reasons I never worked "for" him.

What's weird is that in our current situation, he actually works for ME! Since we bought our current operation 20 years ago, while he was still employed at that job, I've always been the head honcho here. Since he left his other job, we never have changed the corporate status.

I will say when I broke it off with my Qantas pilot (I called him - what else was I going to do?), he was at my door in 24 hours flying standby the whole way from Sydney to Chicago to try to talk me out of it! THAT was awkward since he was basically stranded at my mom's house for 5 days trying to get back to Australia after he failed to budge me.

[Joe Shlabotnik]

32. the quantes pilot situation sounds unpleasant

When I was married and self employed, my wife and I worked well together as a team, but it was hard to leave work at work. And I also had some serious Don Draper tendencies too which didn't help.

[femmocrat]

28. Yes, the man I married.

We were just college kids at a dance... and saw each other across the dance floor. The rest is history! LOL

[treestar]

31. Never. In fact my problem was it took me so long

to develop any attraction to anyone, that usually they were no longer interested by that time! Or got mad and really turned me off with their sense of entitlement. Or accused me of being too interested in them (which I never was, but that seemed to be an impression I gave off!)

[jackbenimble]

33. Yeah, but it isn't like lust...

For me it felt like I had known him forever and knew I would always love him.

[Iggo]

34. Sure! I fall in love every day. It's wonderful. (n/t)