Since it is Work Related:
- Any Boss(male or female) to Male Co-worker(i.e. Me): If I am doing my job and I produce results, do not hover, do not micro-manage. I am hired for a reason, I like the way I do things, and I tend to optimize my method and speed up as I go. Provide new sets of goals and projects, but leave the method wholly to me. I will come to you if I need clarification. If however, you wish to tell me how to do what I am doing, only do so concisely and logically. If you were to tell me how to do something and it takes far longer, given without basis or reasoning, I will quickly lose respect for you, as you now have become a hindrance to work flow. I will, more likely than not, figure out a faster way of doing it, with the specifications given, without telling you how I did it.
- Underling(male or female) to Supervisor(i.e. Me): I will respect you, and leave you mostly alone to do your work. I will never give you an assignment that I wouldn't do myself. If it is beyond my skill set, and you are hired for that purpose, I will hand you the work, provide bullet points to what is expected and needed. If I myself don't know what the project entails, I will give you an idea of what to expect and time frame before clarifying it when more information comes. So, in return...
I expect you to not keep bothering me for information over and over. I will email you the list of objectives and so forth. Read it, and understand it. I will try to clarify, but seriously, don't make me do your work. I will joke around with you now and then but buckle down when we have a deadline. I appreciate valid criticism and suggestions on optimization, but don't waste my time.
Please don't involve me in any sort of relationship drama or office drama. I don't do any office romances, I don't like that sort of complication. I will be very nice and polite to you, but seriously, if you bother me with redundancy and make me feel trapped. I will avoid you.
- Co-Workers(male or female): If you need help, I will more than likely help you. Sadly, at work I have become the go to guy for any sort of problem. If someone can't figure it out, they tend to ask me. So I don't see that as being different most places. Either way, complex or inane, if it is a work related issue, I will definitely help you. Just don't abuse this. If, I find, that I have ended up doing most of your work, I will avoid you. My direct supervisors know that if any one asks for my help, I tend to immediately help.
Either way... Do not act like my boss, if you are merely a co-worker.
Do not EVER hover and try to micro manage me, or criticize the way I do things unless it is valid, you have given your reasons and I find it objective and logical. If not, I will effing destroy you. I will write a stern and clear email, to you, CC-ing a higher manager for you to cease and desist. I will provide my method as clearly as possible, and the reasons for it, in bullet points no less. I will then give your method in comparison, as civilly excoriating as possible showing the weakness of your madness.
If however, you provide me with valid reasons, and the logic is sound. I might just thank you. However, if I go back to what I am doing, the way I am doing it, as long as I provide results, then stop pestering me about it. More likely than not, the adjustment takes far longer, and due to the learning curve, especially if there is a deadline, I will go with what I know.
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At least, that is the way I am, does not matter if it is male or female. A guy however that can't take directions from a female is not a reliable worker. How does he react when other guys tell him what to do?
Thing is, when a person is doing their job and they produce results, there shouldn't be a problem. I mean, unless you can show a method that drastically improves performance, then just leave them be. Otherwise, they would just dig in their heels more and do it out of sheer contrariness.
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