I am so scared.

[Bertha Venation]

Mrs. Venation has a lesion in her left basal ganglia. Found by CT scan last week; MRI this morning. She's also having coronary problems. She has either doctor's appointments or tests every day this week.

What the fuck is going on with my baby? I am so scared.

Have you ever been scared about the health of a loved one?

[Scuba]

1. Every day.

[Bertha Venation]

18. I'm sorry to hear it, Scuba.

[Scuba]

42. Thanks. Very stressful knowing a loved one is so fragile. Vibes to you Bertha.

[life long demo]

2. Yes, I'm sure most duer's have. But when it happens to your loved one....

Saying prayers for Mrs. Venation and for strength for you so you can support her.

[Bertha Venation]

19. thank you, life long demo

I appreciate it.

[elleng]

3. Not as much as you, dear BV,

but we're all here for you.

[Bertha Venation]

20. elleng

Thank you so much.

[Tuesday Afternoon]

4. Sending peaceful vibes for you and healing energy for the Mrs in hopes that all goes well

with her this week.

[Bertha Venation]

21. many thanks, T.A.

[cliffordu]

5. Yes. I am sorry you two have to live this.

[Bertha Venation]

22. I'm sorry you do, too, cliffordu

Thank you for your kind words.

[handmade34]

6. been there...

hang on...

[Bertha Venation]

23. I'm trying

It gets harder every day that we don't have answers.

Thank you, handmade 34.

[In_The_Wind]

7. I'm so sorry for both of you.

Yes, I'm worried about the health of a loved one.

Best wishes to Mrs. V. and you.

[Bertha Venation]

24. I'm sorry, In The Wind

that you are experiencing this, too.

Thank you for your good wishes.

[Xyzse]

8. I am so sorry to hear that.

Dang, that really sucks.

To answer your question, sometimes but nowhere near as immediate.

My father dying was a shock.
Same with my grandmother.

It was just sudden, so there were no long medical tests and hospitalization.

[Bertha Venation]

25. I'm sorry for the shocks

and sorry you've lost your loved ones.

Be well, Xyzse.

[Xyzse]

39. It's alright

My father was about 5 years ago, my grandmother a year ago, my aunt about a month ago. All of them sudden and without much warning.

[CherokeeDem]

9. Yes....

and I know how frightened you both are at the moment. Will keep you in my thoughts and sending good karma to you.

[Bertha Venation]

26. thank you, CherokeeDem

The thoughts and good karma help.

[dixiegrrrrl]

10. The not knowing is so damn hard....

Been there....it is tuff...
I hope for good news for you both, very soon.

[Bertha Venation]

27. it really is, dixiegrrrl

Thanks very much -- we do, too.

[hedgehog]

11. I am so sorry you both are facing this!

[Bertha Venation]

28. hedgehog

thank you

[csziggy]

12. Strong vibes

[Bertha Venation]

29. thank you, csziggy

[hunter]

13. Didn't like it when my heart was acting up. And I still haven't paid all the bills...

I hope the "lesion" has been there along and isn't going anywhere. My sister has one like that, only discovered because they looked.

My wife nearly bled to death when our second kid was born. The very most absolutely terrifying time in my life because I was working in the blood bank.

Could be a little PTSD, but I think I'll stop now.

[Bertha Venation]

31. sorry I brought up those memories, hunter

You have certainly had more than your share.

[Mr.Bill]

14. My wife has been through so many medical problems

I don't even care to list them all. Let's just say I can tell you how good the magazines are in every doctors office and hospital waiting room in my area. She's okay now, and
we have excellent insurance so at least it's not a financial problem. My wife is an RN.

I hope things turn out well for the OP and his family.

[Bertha Venation]

32. Mr.Bill, I'm sorry to hear of this

I hope that things get better for your wife. I'm glad to hear that you have good insurance.

Thanks for your good wishes.

[Mr.Bill]

43. And thank you for your good wishes.

She is doing well now, it's just that shit happens when you get old.

[Flaxbee]

15. Let us know what and when you can.

Got some wasn't-what-we'd-hoped-for news about my mom a few hours ago. I'm right there with you, Kim. All you can do is hold on, and keep breathing, and check back in when you need support.

[In_The_Wind]

16. I'm sorry, Flaxbee.

[Bertha Venation]

33. E.

[madrchsod]

17. no but my wife has...

i had a cardiac arrest and was put on life support for 4 days and finally woke up. i beat the odds(80% die) and doing ok today. i later had my brain scoped because of a twisted knot blood vessels that i was born with. it`s been really tough on her and the rest of our family.

i`m not sure of what kind of procedure is required for her condition but i do know that medical procedures are so far advanced from just a few years ago. i had my brain scoped and i was awake and answering the doctors questions and he was answering mine. i hope that everything that can be done is and the outcome will be positive. hang in there and let us know how things are going...

[Bertha Venation]

34. I am so glad you're still with us, madrchsod!

Sounds like you've had more than your share of troubles.

Thank you for your encouraging words.

[bigwillq]

30. Hoping for the best.

[Bertha Venation]

35. bigwill

Thank you so much.

[RiffRandell]

36. Good vibes sent your way.

I was a caregiver to my husband with stage 3 head/neck cancer so I can relate.

All I can say is wait (which is so hard) for an official diagnosis and learn everything you can and go from there.

Although we had a great support system of friends and family, I felt so alone.

Please keep us posted...you are both in my thoughts.

[Bertha Venation]

37. damn, Riff

I can't imagine how difficult that was.

I will keep you & DU posted. Thank you for your thoughts; I really appreciate them.

[RedCloud]

38. I was once.

The doc came out crying and told me about my heart. I still had kids to feed. It hurt me a lot to see her that way. It hurt more knowing my kids might be out there alone and still had school to go.

Since there was nothing I could do medically, I decided to add a few bizarre but natural items to my daily food. One was a chemcial long since bleached away by our agro-businesses. The other composed of plants helped make enormous dinosaurs.

Six years later I am still kicking!

And the doc was right! It wasn't humanly possible.

Best wishes for you both in these difficult times.

[Bertha Venation]

45. Still kicking! Great news!

I can't imagine how scary those times must've been for you.

Thank you for your good wishes, RedCloud.

[LiberalEsto]

40. Oh, B.V! So sorry for what you and Mrs. B.V. are going through

We're here for you.

[Bertha Venation]

46. LiberalEsto

Thank you very much.

[steve2470]

41. hugs

[Bertha Venation]

47. thanks, steve2470

[riderinthestorm]

44. Oh no! So very, very sorry about this. And so scary!

((((((vibes)))))

[Bertha Venation]

49. thanks for the vibes, riderinthestorm

We need them. Thank you.

[redwitch]

48. Sorry you are so afraid.

Yes, I have been scared many times about health issues of loved ones. I am hoping Mrs. V gets the care she needs and you have her with you for many more years.

[Bertha Venation]

50. thank you, redwitch

I'm sorry you've been scared, too.

[Taverner]

51. I hope she is OK

Good thoughts your way

[Bertha Venation]

52. Taverner, thank you so much.

I appreciate it.

[hrmjustin]

53. You are both in my prayers.

[Bertha Venation]

58. thank you, your majesty

[blueknight]

54. aw heck bertha

i hate to hear that. You and mrs v are two of my favs. Sending you best wishes and prayers

[Bertha Venation]

59. you're sweet, blueknight

Thank you for your prayers and wishes.

[Kali]

55. I am so sorry you are both going through this

and the other issues with her mother. All the stress can't be good for health. Be good to yourselves and keep us updated. Hug some kitties and have a moment of fuzzy peace. (but be careful of the touchy one - Ratface, I think?)

[Bertha Venation]

60. thanks so, so much, Kali

We're doing the best we can, although the stress of both problems - health & mom - is laying waste to her emotionally, and seems to be breaking her down physically, as she is tired all the time.

And unfortunately, the cats are driving her bat crap crazy, and yes, Rat Face is one of them. Furry little wench.

Thank you.

[graywarrior]

56. Yes

I'm so sorry, Bertha Venation. Went thru a cancer scare with someone close. It's so scary.

[Bertha Venation]

61. I'm sorry to hear it, graywarrior

It is very scary.

Thanks.

[davidpdx]

57. Sorry to hear that and I hope Ms. Venation feels better soon

I've experienced that type of thing a few times.

The first time was with my wife (now ex-wife) who had serious eye problems her entire life and was legally blind. She had something l like six surgeries in 11 months. I was sitting in the room when she had Lasik and could see the laser from where I was sitting across the room. The surgeries only made things worse and if she had continued she would have lost what little eye sight she had.

The second time was when by father had a stroke (though this was not his first, that was when he was 42). He had gotten around pretty well for 13 years and drove and lived by himself. I'd go over and help him on the weekend. I was down visiting my mom about 300 miles away and got a phone call that he was in the hospital. I threw my crap in the car and drove as fast as I could to the hospital to find out what happened. He'd had another stroke and fallen and someone called 911. After several days in ICU he was moved to a regular room and his condition just worsened. I called my half-sister in California who was pretty much a stranger and told her she'd better get up here. My mom and then wife (the one with the eye problem) both attended my graduation for my master's degree. My aunt flew in and the four of us were in the hospital. The doctor told me there was very little chance he'd recover. I opted to move him to a hospice and withdraw all the tubes. He died the next Friday just days after turning 55. That was the worst.

The third time was when my FIL (second wife) was diagnosed with two kinds of cancer. Thankfully he is a very feisty guy and after a month in the hospital recovered and is still doing fine many years later. The guy can drink like a fish and weighs light as a bird. When he's drunk he so loud you'd think a dozen people were in the room.

[Bertha Venation]

62. damn, davidpdx

I'm sorry to hear of these troubles, and I'm sorry you lost your father.

Thanks for your good wishes.