so my ex contacted me today/advice wanted

[irisblue]

I wondered if there would be an email or text message, and I found a text a short while ago. I am starting to get my feet back under me, the break up was not a mutual choice, in fact I was blindsided by her behavior and choice. This half year has been hard and I still have strong feelings. What I want is unbiased advice, so any words of wisdom for me? thanks

[taterguy]

1. Drink heavily

I keed

I keed

I couldn't possibly know enough to give you good advice.

[antiquie]

2. Leave it alone. You are healing,

said she of zero successful relationships.
Good luck.

[pipi_k]

3. What did

she contact you about?

wishing you a Merry Christmas?

Wanting to get back together?

If she wants to get back together, do you have enough faith in her level of self awareness of what happened and why to give her a second chance?

Would you even want to go through this all over again?

Those are things only you can decide...

Although from my own personal POV, I think six months is not nearly enough time to have gotten to the bottom of her issue and worked through it, even with therapy.

If she hasn't been getting therapy, then I would say forget it.

[IrishAyes]

4. It's been my personal experience

that people usually don't change all that much, absent overwhelming impetus. As Maya Angelou reminds us, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them."

[warrior1]

5. This Is what they call a red flag

Don't ignore it but keep your distance from this person.

[kwassa]

6. Is she just lonely on Christmas Day?

The holidays bring up many different feelings in people.

I wouldn't respond.

Take a deep breath, think about it for a few days. I don't know the details of your breakup, but sometimes the best action is no action.

[840high]

7. Let it be. Don't go

through the pain again.

[B Calm]

8. You call her EX for a reason!

[SteveG]

10. The problem with reruns

is you already know how they turn out.

[Major Nikon]

11. I have no idea what your situation is

However, often it's best to just leave that phase of your life behind and focus on moving on to something new. If you keep focusing on the past in the hopes it may come back you often wind up in limbo between what was and what could be. My advice is to find something that interests you and persue it, especially if it involves interactions with new people.