My Husband Doesn’t Need to See Your Boobs

[pokerfan]

I didn't know where to put this so the lounge gets it just for the humor value, though the author seems to be completely serious.

I am writing to share the perspective of a woman who is fighting for her marriage. And for that reason, I want to tell you that I don’t need my husband to see your boobs.

If I was skinny with rock-hard abs and legs from here to Mexico, I’d want to take lots of pictures of myself. Mostly naked. I would want to post them with a nice filter on Instagram, and share them with whoever might see.

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But I want to tell you that it’s a stumbling block in our marriage.

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After Memorial Day, I noticed so much skin on social media that I half-yelled a warning to him as I ran out the door one morning. It’s summertime, honey! Beware the beach pics and half nude girls on Instagram! And like that, he was in solitary confinement from all virtual community for the next two days.

Protecting his eyes, protecting his heart.

Read the rest: http://applesandbandaidsblog.com/2014/06/11/my-husband-doesnt-need-to-see-your-boobs/

[rug]

1. Need may be too strong a word.

[intaglio]

2. Perhaps she ought to try thinking

Her husband doesn't need to look at boobs and if he persists he might be told to get a f'n life.

[Chan790]

3. I'm getting a vibe...

it's less a case of her husband perving and more an issue of her just being a loon.

I had a gf that insisted on attempted to police my Facebook feed...so I broke up with her over Facebook, while sitting across the living room from her. My reason...if she can't trust me and she's that much of a control freak, I'd rather not be involved with her.

[pokerfan]

4. I doubt instagram boobs are destroying her marriage

Pretty sure there are other issues at play,

[Chan790]

5. me, as well. n/t

[Separation]

6. Need &#8800; Want

Well that should be an unequal sign. I guess it doesn't register properly.

[Shoulders of Giants]

7. I think her need to be controlling is hurting the relationship far more than any boobs.

[pokerfan]

8. protetecting his eyes? wtf?

That would be like being married to my mother instead of my lover/partner/soul-mate.

[Codeine]

9. Thankfully I am allowed to look at whatever I damned well please,

as is my partner. What kind of control freak attempts to police their partner's boob/butt/dong/ whatever viewing? Poison in any relationship.

[GusBob]

10. from the link:

" I BELIEVE IN ABSOLUTE TRUTH. I ALSO BELIEVE IN GRAY AREAS"
I feel sorry for them both

[mysuzuki2]

11. That's good because

I ain't got any. Although, if I keep gaining weight .....

[Skittles]

12. "I don’t need my husband to see your boobs"

woman, that statement says more about you than it does about your husband or the scantily-clad Instagram gals

[Orrex]

13. Wow. Way to humiliate your husband, Lauren

If Gavin can endure this public emasculation, then your marriage can withstand any number of instagram boobs.

Good luck with all that.

[Wait Wut]

14. I guess they don't go to many art museums.

Lots of boobs.

I'm fairly certain those young girls showing off their bodies could care less what you or your husband think. They aren't showing off for either of you. More than likely, they're showing off for guys/girls their own age.

There is nothing wrong with appreciating the physical attractiveness of another person...of either sex. There are some gorgeous women out there. I don't feel threatened. Just like my husband doesn't feel threatened when I say that I find a man physically attractive. No one is taking his place.

[GOLGO 13]

15. Hah! Protecting his what now?

A my old gunnery Sgt used to tell us, "Just because your on a diet doesn't mean that you can't look at the menu."

[MrScorpio]

16. Apparently, the entire internet is all about her and her husband

I did not know that.

[bluesbassman]

17. Ya know, if you have to say "I'm not..." six different times in a short blog, you really are.

I think the real stumbling block to their marriage started when daddy threw her clothes in his closet.

[haele]

18. Sad, Stepdaughter is like that. Her mom taught her that sex was the only way to get a man to stay.

And you can only be happy if someone else is there to make you happy.

So she went overboard with the flirtyness and sexual aggressiveness with guys she was interested in, and then picks the most passive ones to have relationships with to "ensure" they wouldn't want to be looking at any other girl - ever.
She told us she isn't even comfortable watching "R" rated TV nudity (i.e., Game of Thrones, Boardwalk Empire) with her now-husband, she says it's like he's thinking of cheating on her right there next to her, that he's comparing her to those fictional women. She will watch the shows with me and her dad, but not with her husband. He can't look at anything that is remotely related to porn. He can't allow others to post suggestive or provocative selfies on his Facebook wall. All that's just the same as cheating, it's like he doesn't love her enough that she's the only one he reacts to sexually.
She used to check his browser to see where he would go on the internet. Don't know if she still does that.

She has very low self-esteem and is probably clinically depressed, self-medicating with MM to keep from flying off the handle whenever he didn't "respect" her enough. And now that she's pushed him enough they got married just to ensure he doesn't leave her easily, she's letting herself "go", isolating herself (and him) from old friends, and has set herself up to be even more dependent on his constant attention.
When he has enough of constantly being set up as being never good enough and leaves, she'll be one hell of a basket case. She needs to get help and learn to deal with her fears, emotions, and reality - but right now to her, it's still everyone else's fault she's not happy.
It would all just be perfect if the world would just work the way she wants and she doesn't have to recognize responsibility for her own happiness.

Thanks a lot "Mom". We rescued her too late; you spent twelve years keeping her away from her father and his family so you would be the only one she could love unconditionally (and so you could get her portion of your ex's SSDI for spending money), and then you threw her away into our laps after she started being too much for you to easily handle.

I can appreciate the black humour in this post from a distance, but this isn't really funny when you're living through it and are seeing the train wreak approaching. Just hope this woman has no children to break.

Haele

[Zavulon]

19. YIKES.

Most guys have dated women this frighteningly insecure - and for those who haven't, let me tell you, it's hell. Reading that blog actually gave me the creeps as it brought back memories of a few women I couldn't get away from fast enough.

"Protecting his eyes, protecting his heart." (That line actually WAS funny, just not in the way she meant it.)

"Waaah, you're attractive, that sucks for me, all of you hot women should cover up for my benefit and because of my insecurities."

"Thanks, love. I think we’ll all be better for it." (No, you whiny shrew, only you will.)

Seriously, this woman is scary. And, as bluesbassman said, "Ya know, if you have to say 'I'm not...' six different times in a short blog, you really are."

I wouldn't even want this woman as a neighbor. I can only imagine the crap the husband takes if the DHL delivery driver happens to be attractive and female and he forgets to put on his horse blinders before answering the door.

YIKES.