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chowmama

(413 posts)
Sun Apr 7, 2024, 09:15 PM Apr 7

DH is on a diet

To be fair, he does need to lose some serious weight - diabetes, high blood pressure, trouble walking. So, I'm totally on board with this and hope he'll stay with it. However, it does mean I have to change how I do things.

It's one of those programs that have you eating 2 main meals and 4 prepackaged snacks every day. They sell the snacks and the dieter cooks the meals. The problem is that he doesn't cook, ever, and the timing of the meals conflicts with my work schedule. So we're already tweaking it past what the program 'allows'. The daily food is going to have to be every 3 hours, not every 2.5, or I won't be cooking for him. Even so, some evenings the 2nd main meal will be delayed till I can get home and get it ready. I have to be the one to organize all this, since he won't. If he gets frustrated, bored or feels too isolated, he'll just quit. Not good for his health and did I mention this shit is expensive? To the point where if I retired and stayed home to run the program, we couldn't afford the program.

The meals are healthy enough, but could get boring fast. A sizeable chunk-o-meat - I think their emphasis on protein might be excessive, but Americans have always worried about not getting enough protein. Healthier societies than ours go more towards the Mediterranean or Asian diet, with meat used more as a side event. But, ok. Big chunk-o-meat. This is accompanied by 1.5 to 2 cups of non-starchy veg. Everything baked or simmered, minimum fat. The only refined carbs seem to be in the processed packaged snacks.

Anyway, I now have to develop recipes to keep it tasty. Mostly, he'll use a frozen dinner mid-day when I'm not home - I found one brand that comes close to requirements, even if there's not enough veg. But I'm working on coming up with better stuff to make. Plain meat and veg simmered or baked with no interest is a recipe for cheating. If I get close enough to the specifications, I'm going to call it good, as long as it tastes like something you'd want to eat if you weren't on a diet.

My DIL gave me a spiralizer once and I've never used it. Sometime this week. I'll cook tomatoes, garlic, and onions into a sauce and cook zucchini 'pasta' in it. (I hope I can get the thing to work.). There might be a whiff of olive oil involved, but that's just another tweak. A large amount of fresh basil will be involved; half at the beginning and half to just warm up in it at the end. As far as I'm concerned, that's just as much a veg as spinach or lettuce. The chunk-o-meat (a baked chicken breast leftover from today) will be heated in it as well. That should work for one meal's requirement. I just hope it's also good - if it isn't, that idea will hit the bricks so fast...

Stuffed red bell peppers - I can use lean ground beef in it, but rice or breadcrumbs is a non-starter. I have blanched cabbage shreds in the freezer, so I'll mince them up to rice-size. That won't bind, so it's gonna need some egg, which will mean a reduction in the beef amount. Probably minced green onions, too. Bake the stuffed peppers, covered, in a dish with drained pico de gallo to cook into a sauce.

I can do a stuffed eggplant with veg and ground meat and might not have to add eggs. Broiled salmon with a little berbere spice sprinkled over it. Poached eggs on a bed of cooked spinach, or shrimp the same way. Kebabs. Lots of veggies.

We've been on this a couple days and he's already had to get an emergency breakfast bar at 3AM as his glucose alarm has gone off a couple of times. So, the PM insulin is getting dropped a little. He can nap during the day, but I have to stay awake at work. They kind of insist on that.

I'm going in on this stating at the front that I'm not the Food Police. I'm buying and cooking, but what he does with it is up to him. The only place where I will go to the wall is insisting he follow the rules about drinking enough water. For six months, this is going to be pretty short on calories and ketosis is nothing to be messed with. I was in a show once where one of the leads had crash-dieted to get ready and starved her way into a gruesome kidney infection. She had kids, so when she said that childbirth was less painful, I believed her. She rehearsed for the first week sitting in the front row next to the director, just supplying her lines and making notes about everything else. She was practically in a fetal position. We're not going there.

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Drum

(9,182 posts)
1. Wow! That's real devotion 💞
Sun Apr 7, 2024, 09:37 PM
Apr 7

It sounds like you’ve got a really good handle on the situation. Best of luck.

PS…thanks for reminding me to drink [a lot] more water. Seriously!

enough

(13,260 posts)
2. I hope you take care of yourself too. You're taking on
Mon Apr 8, 2024, 08:42 AM
Apr 8

a lot of extra responsibilities and working around a whole set of details and demands on top of everything you’re already doing, based on the fact that you have to do it because he won’t. “If he gets frustrated, bored or feels too isolated, he'll just quit.” So now you’re responsible for his health. This level of caregiving can be extremely stressful. Don’t forget about yourself and your own health.

chowmama

(413 posts)
3. The peppers are a winner.
Mon Apr 8, 2024, 09:27 PM
Apr 8

Red bells, topped and hollowed. (The tops, minus the stems, got chopped up and added to the filling.) I could actually have used more meat; I shorted it more than I needed to, to allow for the egg. I fried the meat in a tiny bit of olive oil, then added the green onions and pepper scraps with a light sprinkle of salt and got it all a little soft - it was going to bake, after all. Then I scraped it to one side, tilted the pan, and soaked up all the loose fat with a paper towel. This got rid of not only the olive oil, but the cholesterol-laden saturated beef fat. It was now lower fat than before I added the olive oil. Warmed up the cabbage in it, stirred in one egg's worth of egg beaters and put it in the pepper cases. Sat them down into the drained pico de gallo, put the covered dish in the oven and walked away.

Draining the pico got rid of enough lime juice that it wasn't acidic and it made a nice spicy sauce once it all cooked together. At the end, I took off the lid and added a bare sprinkle of sharp Asiago to garnish the peppers - with all the fat removed, I figured I had some wiggle room. (I frequently use Asiago, Romano or Parm as a salt substitute. It's really good on baked potatoes. Which I can't make for 6 months.) Anyway, I'd eat this again.

Now I have to prep tomorrow night - work had taken some hours from me but gave them back unexpectedly, so I'm working tomorrow. DH will have to throw this in the oven. It's like manicotti, except that the filling is ratatouille and the wrappers are slices of deli roast turkey. There'll be more filling than I can fit in the wrappers, so it'll all bake together in a bed of more ratatouille. Sort of Provencal turkey rolls. Any leftover ratatouille can get saved to make a side dish or an omelet filling.

Warpy

(111,305 posts)
4. You can start him off, but you really need to involve him in preparing this stuff
Mon Apr 8, 2024, 10:38 PM
Apr 8

because it sounds like a hell of a lot of prep work to me, even with a food processor and other kitchen gear. Getting into shape is really his job, not yours, although you can help him in the beginning. While he might want to push it all off on you while he feels so rotten, it's really not until he's got some of his own skin in the game that he's going to develop any enthusiasm about it.

Otherwise, he's just going to slip back into bad habits.

ETA: I'll also suggest lettuce roll ups, lettuce leaves filled with tuna, salmon, or chicken salad, the barest hint of may on the lettuce leaf, skewered with a toothpick. It's easy finger food when it's too hot to cook.

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