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Wed Jan 18, 2017, 06:25 PM Jan 2017

Mom gives blessing to kids attending church with grandma

4 hrs ago

DEAR ABBY: I am an atheist. My parents, although raised Presbyterian, never to my knowledge participated in organized religion, so it was not part of my upbringing.

Last year my mom started going to church again, and my kids have been going with her. I've always said they can make their own choices and I'd support them.

Mom is about to go south for the rest of the winter, and there's no obvious church member the kids can go with, but they'd like to keep attending. Would it be wrong for me to go with them on Sundays, even though I don't believe in the church doctrine and won't be otherwise involved in the organization?

I'm sure I could be unobtrusive, but I'm not sure what to say if someone asks why I'm there – especially since I'll stop going once my mother returns to town. The kids are tweens and not old enough to go alone. What do you think? – WHAT'S APPROPRIATE?

DEAR WHAT'S: When people see one another in a house of worship, they usually assume that they are equally religious and that's why they're there. However, if you are asked why you're there, all you have to say is that your children enjoy being there and your mother is away, so you brought them. I don't think it's necessary to announce to anyone that you're an atheist.

http://www.aikenstandard.com/mom-gives-blessing-to-kids-attending-church-with-grandma/article_7859d286-dd9b-11e6-bdc0-db350614018c.html

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I'm somewhat sceptical, I confess... Ron Obvious Jan 2017 #1
 

Ron Obvious

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1. I'm somewhat sceptical, I confess...
Thu Jan 19, 2017, 01:53 PM
Jan 2017

As an atheist, I'd be all in favour of my children receiving a wide exposure to various religions and I would try to avoid to indoctrinate them with my point of view or a single specific religion, and this letter just doesn't ring true to me. She sounds a little too self-effacing to be sincere.

I can't imagine any atheist asking dear Abby if it was OK for her to go to a specific church with her children, nor can I imagine any children of my acquaintance wanting to sacrifice their free time on Sunday morning to go there, especially these days when they're likely to be overscheduled enough as it is.

"Abby" publishes a lot of letters lately that don't pass the "sniff test" to me. Especially those that are merely excuses for her to flog those damn $7 booklets.

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