About the GQP wanting to end no-fault [View all]

[moniss]

divorce I would use every cuss word I could for them because of where they want to go back to.
They want to take us back to a time where wives were being physically abused, leaving the house with the kids and "going back to mother" which was usually followed by the cops and maybe even the parents telling the woman she was "being too emotional", "over-reacting", "being a bad wife", "shouldn't upset your husband", "shouldn't be mouthy" etc.

Many people today don't realize what it was like back then. Little in the way of social services available to help a woman care for children, parents taking the side of the abusive husband, cops and courts pooh-poohing the bruises and broken bones etc. Where was a woman supposed to go? What was she supposed to do? If she left the children with the husband in order to save herself as a human being then she was torn apart by society for being a "bad mother" and if she took the kids with her then she was torn apart as "deserting her husband", "stealing the children" etc.

If you did manage to get a divorce then you were looked at by society as a "wanton woman" who was going to be "needing it bad" and so all of the bullshit sexual harassment/groping and advances would pile in. Nobody was going to step in to stop it because you were "one of those" women and were "probably asking for it".

Marriage became a prison for far too many women before no-fault. For far too many the home was also a torture chamber. I worked in a grocery store while in school in my small town and I saw some of those women. Coming into the store to shop when it was late and just before closing so there would be as few people to see them. See them in the dark of night wearing sunglasses to hide the black eyes, a scarf on their head to hide a missing chunk of hair and long sleeves to hide the bruised arms. But you knew they were there because you could see the bandage under the scarf and the bruises and scrapes on the hands. The hands that trembled and shook as they quickly picked a few things and left. You would see them sometimes with their husbands during the day in the store after the bruises healed during one of the times the husband is "being nicer". The hands still shaking, voice very meek and a very noticeable flinch if he made a sudden gesture in her direction or raised his voice slightly while saying "no" about something she wanted to buy.

Yes I've seen it too many times. We all know what "it" is. Grandmothers, Aunts, Mothers, Daughters and Sisters trapped in that prison and trying to endure the torture chamber and stay alive. That prison closed down when no-fault passed and it must never be allowed to open again.