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In reply to the discussion: There is nothing that causes outrage among men like female sexual autonomy. [View all]BainsBane
(53,166 posts)and that would have prompted a different reaction in you. But many would respond the same regardless. Often the ones who it most applies to are the most defensive.
Still, I very much suspect there is a way in which such sexist ideas influence all of us. Sexism and misogyny certainly have an impact on how women see themselves, on how we see our own sexuality. My feminism doesn't stop me from thinking: it was my fault for going back to his apartment with him. I should have known better. Or it doesn't stop me from being worried I'm showing too much cleavage, will look like a s...t , and invite trouble. We all are products of this society. No one is immune from it. I think of racism in the same way. It influences us all. If you're white, (speaking rhetorically here) do you unconsciously grab your purse or wallet at the site of a young black man? That sort of thing. One has to consciously confront those influences. No one is immune.