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In reply to the discussion: So why exactly is "tone" or "approach" more important than actual issues that affect us all? [View all]nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)threads I suppose it has more to do with the supposed "gender wars" on DU than anything else. Thought it certainly also does pertain to racism, homophobia, et. al. Part of it is I get fed up with people who are comparatively advantaged in life whining about perceived slights - seems so out of proportion to the actual negative effect on their lives.
Also, the "tone argument" isn't so much about people asking for politeness and civility - that in itself isn't so unreasonable - but more a disingenuous way of deflecting away from certain issues, whether because they make the poster uncomfortable or who knows why. Most people who say things like "I'd be an ally if you'd just [fill in the blank]" are never going to be anyone's "allies" no matter what.