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In reply to the discussion: I’ve read much on the heroics of confronting bulliess recently, that too has a dark side… [View all]JDPriestly
(57,936 posts)We can learn from the past.
Nowadays, parents should not leave dealing with bullies to children. Parents should challenge school authorities on the issue -- even talk to the district attorney and the city council or country officials about bullying.
Every school and every town and county should adopt an anti-bullying policy so that a kid who bullies and his family receive counseling about the risks they are taking -- that a bully can be expelled from school or, for example, end up in Juvenile Hall for assault and battery or have to pay the hospital expenses for a child who is beaten. Some bullying that the bully thinks is a joke ends in the death or suicide of one of the people involved.
The parents of bullies need to be told that it might not matter who started the fight. Getting into a fight in which someone is injured is a risk.
Solving disputes through violence is a habit that children develop. The worst part of telling children they should fight back is that they don't learn how to communicate without violence.
Please check this website out: Non-Violent Communication
http://www.cnvc.org/
I took a short course with this group and bought their book. For me and my family, that was a life-changing experience.