My daughter will spend Father's Day with the man who gave her her curly hair. (Update post #30)

[Ms. Toad]

21. More than our share of LGBT firsts in our family.

We were the only public same gender parent adoption case in our state for nearly 2 decades (they ruled against us at the appellate level, and the equivalent of a denial of cert by the state Supreme Court - at which point we stopped to avoid making state-wide bad law). That case was a Jane Doe case, to protect our daughter's right to choose how public she wanted to be when she grew up. After the marriage decision last year, we were finally able to create a legal relationship between our daughter and my wife - that was publicized with our names and city.

A bit removed (since it is me, rather than our daughter - but we searched multiple generations of his family . . .), I was also on the founding board for the state Equality organization, an officer (the named public contact) of a North American LGBT faith organization, we were the first same gender marriage in our local faith community (which published a book about the experience a few years ago), I've also blogged about my experiences under my real name, been a public face for LGBT exclusion (by real-name requirements) on a large community discussion board in a major metropolitan area, and have spoken to Family Law classes and in continuing education courses for attorneys on our case.

Plenty out there for anyone to easily find, especially the most recent adoption decision.