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:hi: Hello everyone, I've been debating whether or not to post in this group ever since I first joined DU almost a year ago, and finally decided to do it. You all seem like a very cool and supportive bunch, so here goes...
I've pretty much always been fat - or at least, I've always felt that way. When I was in kindergarten I remember asking my mom to buy me Slim-Fast because I felt like I needed it. :scared: :wtf: (Yeah, I don't know either - freaking kindergarten?!) According to my doctors I was within the normal weight range for most of my childhood, but I was always on the bigger end of the "norm" and I kept gaining weight even after I stopped growing. I am 5'7" and I now weigh about 230 pounds. I know I should lose weight for several reasons, but I have a lot of hang-ups. You ready? Here goes:
- I don't look as heavy as I am. Yeah, I'm not skinny, but hardly anybody just looking at me would guess that I weigh over 200 pounds. I've been that way for as long as I can remember, too. :shrug:
- Near the end of my freshman year of high school, I lost a fair amount of weight over a short period of time. It wasn't particularly healthy - my dad yelled at me one day for eating too much, and I just snapped. I practically starved myself and worked out obsessively, and yeah, I did lose weight, but I felt dizzy all the time from not having any food in my stomach, and it wasn't fun. I dropped two pants sizes, though, and I felt good about that...but no one else noticed. :( And when I look back at pictures of "skinny" me from that time period, I still look fat. :shrug:
- I love to eat food, especially unhealthy crap like desserts. And I tend to go overboard when I eat - I don't just get one chocolate chip cookie, I take four or five and gobble them down. :( I think part of this is emotional, too. I was diagnosed with depression at age sixteen (I'm 21 now), and eating sweets helped me feel better. I'm on SSRIs, which actually don't affect my appetite, and it seems like the weight gain is primarily from me sitting on my ass and eating junk food...which kind of brings me to my next point.
- I've never been a really big fan of exercise. My elementary school gym teachers were mean and my middle school gym teacher was a pervert, so from a young age I associated forced exercise with...not a good time. That changed when I got to college and joined the rowing team, which was great. I absolutely loved rowing, and it got me in the best shape of my life - I gained about ten pounds of muscle and felt great. But then I sprained a ligament in my back pretty severely at one of the regattas, and had to take a semester off. :( I was in such pain during that time that I couldn't even really exercise at all - it hurt to walk, stand, sit, lie down, anything. The next year I tried to go back, and did OK for a while, but eventually my back gave out again and I realized I'd have to give up rowing for good if I didn't want to inflict permanent damage. :( So the one form of exercise that I truly loved (and that was just about the perfect workout) is no longer a viable option for me.
- Finally, I have emotional/romantic issues relating to my weight. In my current state of obesity, if a guy is interested in me, I KNOW he likes me for my personality. If he says I'm beautiful, even like this, he must really feel strongly about me and love me for who I am, which is a wonderful feeling. I have been in a relationship like that, and part of me tries to rationalize staying fat because he says he likes my curves. The logical part of my brain knows that even if I lost a hundred pounds I'd still have curves, and he'd still like me for who I am. :shrug: But I think maybe I'm scared of being conventionally "pretty." I'm not terrible-looking, I don't think, and if I did lose 50-70 pounds I might be decent-looking and maybe on par with "normal" pretty girls. And I wouldn't know how to handle that. I've always been "the ugly one" (if you'll pardon the Teen Girl Squad reference ;)) who had to rely on wit and personality to get by, and I think that has made me who I am. I don't want to trade personality for looks (which I know is a ridiculous concept, but somehow I can't help but feel that if I did lose a lot of weight and become conventionally attractive, I would be judged on appearance rather than personality - although to be fair, as a fat person I already am judged on appearance rather than personality). :shrug:
Anyway. So there's the clusterf*ck of issues about my weight, and thanks to you all for listening/taking the time to read this post. :hug: :hi: Peace.
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