Reply #293: I like to try to figure out

[salin]

from where arguments are coming -allows then a real discussion to occur. Senseless yelling grates the nerves. Senseless yelling past each other because there are two completely different conversations going on ... drives me nuts - like to figure out if a discussion can occur (eg we are talking past but when it gets clear can discuss) or if it is intentional yelling - in which case I can put on earplugs to avoid that scratching of nails on chalkboard effect it has on me :D