Reply #164: This is a good discussion

[Nikia]

I am glad these views are getting out.
I have had several experiences similiar to the women above. Here is another one: If we interview for a "man's job" we are judged as weak and not as capable of handling the job if we dress femininly (dress, pumps, and make up). If we don't dress like this though, we are judged as less friendly, personal, and sloppy. If we get the job, we are weak if we are not assertive enough. If we are assertive enough, we are labled as pushy or worse. If we are friendly with others, we are accused of gossipping, not taking our jobs seriously, or spending too much time socializing. It we don't do this, we are cold and inpersonable. WE are judged in the workplace both as a woman and an employee, whi8ch are often contradictory. We must therefore walk a much thinner line than men, who do not have contradictory expectations, do.