Reply #15: Two reasons to wanting to try to be "nice"

[chookie]

1) I am not a confrontational person to begin with, and have a problem with expressing anger. (That's probably what makes me an enticing target)

2) I don't want any unpleasantness for my friends. I have known guys to get very nasty when "rejected" -- so much so that they act out in public. It's AWFUL! And what's worse is that men -- friends -- just sit there and let someone get psycho on me, when it would really be useful if they would just get me out of there, or SOMETHING. I have to stop going to places because one of these wacko guys may show up there.

I don't think any of my friends blame me for what happens -- as i sure as heck don't do anything to provoke these guys, like flirting, or wearing suggestive clothing, etc -- but it is unpleasant that sometimes they have to stop going places because a crazy guy makes them uncomfortable. I guess in a way it is my fault, because I don't project a tough exterior.

It gets to the point where I refuse to go out anywhere, because I hate this stupid drama.

There are times when wearing a burkha sounds like a good idea. It's just a shame that a woman can't be on her own -- even with FRIENDS!!!! -- and not be presumed to be eagerly wishing to mate..... I hate that I have to stay home, to avoid situations, simply to keep stupid idiot men away from me.