Reply #49: he has a brain tumor

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my dad died of a brain tumor. First time we noticed that something was wrong was around Eastern. He died in July. He was someone who brain person. He was a mathamatican and software developer. So it hit him where his "life" was.
That tumor took away his ability to talk, his motions (you had to force him to swallow), his body functions like sitting straight, things like that. But he noticed that people came to visit him and we had the feeling that he was saying goodbye to us. I just think of one moment that is really precious to me. It was a couple of days before he died. He were all around him and hi did some arm-pushing with him and he won! He smiled after that. It was heartbreaking and will be with me all the time. Gosh, I shouldn't have told that, it is choking me up now.

Your grandmother ... wow ... that is really tough what she went through. My grandma (his mother) is still not understanding how he could have died before her. The months after his dead she wanted to know about every minute of his life in his last months. I tried to answer as good as I could but at one point I told her to please stop it. She is a person who only sees the negative. It was like she wanted to wallow in her pain.