Reply #48: I work with these people

[Madspirit]

I KNOW it's sexual abuse. I see the results of it every damned day. Kids this age don't even "get" what sex is, ergo cannot understand what you are claiming is "tender and loving".

If a teenager accidentally walked in on it, I doubt it would result in much more than "EWWWWW" and some embarrassment. We are talking about a nine year old who was upset enough she told a teacher. That itself answers your question.

Once again, I WORK with victims of this. I KNOW it is abuse because I see the results of it, every day. It's not up to YOU to decide that something doesn't traumatize a child because it doesn't fit your "touchy feelie, we are one" desire for the world. It's what it is. Go visit a shelter or something.
Lee