Reply #9: Ridding your self of this relationship doesn't mean ridding yourself of any relationship with him.

[Gormy Cuss]

I concur with others -- consider counseling to help you sort it out. Define a new relationship with him as an adult who although very different from you is still someone you want to enjoy seeing. That may mean not seeing him as frequently for a while and not helping him out as much or it may mean an entirely new outlook. That's why counseling may help.