Reply #28: this has been an insightful thread

[PRETZEL]

even with the few amount of posts,

it has made me think I'm the dysfunctional one. I've always done things for others, whether it be past girlfriends, my first wife and now my second wife. That's the way I was raised. I've felt like I've always done those things which I feel try to make life a little less stressful and easier for them. Whether it be helping around the house, cooking and cleaning, being respectful and (not always happens) mindful of their feelings. I guess I see things as compromise is much more useful than conflict.

Maybe it is asking too much to want some of the same in return. Maybe putting her first whether it be sexually or non-sexually in our everyday lives is unrealistic. I've never considered myself a shelfish person. Maybe I'm wrong. Over the last year as things have gone basically to pot financially and personally the one constant that my friends and people who know me have always said that it's time for me to start looking out for me.

But there are two things that are very true right now. I love my wife dearly but I can't stand being treated like the hired help any longer.