Reply #37: She is too afraid of losing her husband all the time. Like I had said b4 they

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have separated like 3 times. She has to agree with everything he believes and does. If not, she might have him tell her to leave yet again. I told her the next time he said that to tell him it's her house as well and he can get the Hell out if he doesn't want her company. She is the believing in the almost submissive (obey) wife. Not me. I told my husband when he can support the family and make enough money to pay all of the bills then I might obey. I doubt it I am too strong willed as a person though. My husband's mom STILL makes me get him a plate of food at all the family reunions though. (I hate that!!! but I do it so as not to disrespect my mother-in-law's feelings). My husband gets a big kick out of it.

Several years ago I became ill and suddenly she had the same symptoms. My physicians put me on morphine patches and Vicodin and her doctors gave her something that was addictive or something. Anyway, I could no longer work and neither could she. I applied for disability, which has been very hard on my husband and me (bankruptcy), and she was doing the same thing but her husband raised hell about no bankruptcy, they made the bills, they'd pay the bills. Suddenly she is in rehab for prescription drug abuse, then he is in rehab for alcohol abuse. Now she goes to NA meetings everyday. I mean every friggin day (or she use to about a year ago). I got my disability and now we are doing okay. I'm still in a lot of pain but am able to do some things around my home. Also, suddenly she no longer had the same illness as me and my illness is until death. It doesn't just go away, but hers did. I told her she must have been misdiagnosed or something. Anyway, since then she has been working like a dog without pain and everything. It's a friggin miracle. Plus, she has always claimed to be a "Christian," but I notice she is when it is convienant for her.

I feel as if I no longer know this person and someways don't want to stay in touch. It's really sad and it's not JUST because of the politics.