Reply #100: I am the only female in an all male workgroup

[undeterred]

and the only gay male is the one who is the most threatened by me and needs to continuatlly show dominance over me by presuming to show superiority. He actually threatened me once by shaking his fist in my face. The group had been all men for a couple of years until I came along.

If you can shed any light on that, I'd be glad to hear it.

So whatever masculinity is, it is very fragile and much more dependent on social relationships than femininity is. Femininity is more biologically grounded; women do not question their femininity.