Reply #52: And to that I'd say "Hallelujah!"

[Berry Cool]

I guess I just don't have as high a standard of what constitutes "clean" as most women do. I hear woman after woman saying "Well yeah, that would be fine, but my husband/partner has a way lower standard of cleanliness and a higher bar of when things need to be cleaned than I do, and I can't stand having things be a mess until he's motivated to clean them up." Well then, if that's your hangup, you have signed yourself on to a lifetime of being your husband/partner's maid. No thanks.

If other people blame the woman for a house not being properly cleaned to THEIR standard, whose problem is that? I'd tell them "I'm not in charge of housekeeping; it's a shared responsibility. We decide when things need to be cleaned and we are happy with the decisions we have made. If you don't like it, tough toenails, but don't look at me just because I'm the woman."

I might also describe for them the scenario of the white and black male housemates. Might just shut 'em up.