Remember the mother who died when her baby was cut out of her last year?

[proud2BlibKansan]

Squabble mars vigil one year after killing
By KEVIN MURPHY
The Kansas City Star

SKIDMORE, Mo. — One year ago today, Bobbie Jo Stinnett died when her baby was cut from her womb in a gruesome kidnapping that drew national notoriety.

Tonight, friends and family will pay tribute to Stinnett and her daughter, Victoria Jo, who survived.

But the pain and tempered joy of the candlelight vigil will tell only part of the story of a difficult year for some of those closest to Bobbie Jo.

Becky Harper, 46, and Zeb Stinnett, 24, Bobbie Jo’s mother and husband, have waged a court dispute over how much time Harper can spend with Victoria Jo and what Harper should someday tell the girl about her mother’s death. Tonight’s event will show support for Harper, organizers said.

http://www.kansascity.com/mld/kansascity/news/13418151.htm

[Skittles]

1. they should eventually tell the girl the truth

cannot risk her finding out elsewhere

[proud2BlibKansan]

2. That's what her grandmother is saying

but her father disagrees.

[Walt Starr]

3. I support the father 100%

It's his decision, not the grandparent's.

[Boomer]

4. She sounds a bit unbalanced

>> Stinnett responded to the petition in August, stating that he only temporarily cut Harper’s time because her behavior had become “bizarre” and she broke into his house to get some items “supposedly” owned by Bobbie Jo.

>> Harper, in an interview, said she did not break in but had a key and was entitled to her daughter’s things. Harper said she was concerned that a woman friend of Stinnett’s would end up with the items.

>> “I took some things because they were things my mom had bought and I didn’t want this other woman to have them,” Harper said.

I can see why the father is beginning to back off from this woman. Her grief is overwhelming her good judgment and her ability to deal with the changes to her family. The harder she tries to hold on to the remnants of her old life, the harder he's going to pull away to escape her stranglehold. I suspect their differences are going to get a lot worse before they get better.

[JerseygirlCT]

6. You're right

and those things are not hers to take any longer if she had given them to her daughter.

Any sane person would simply ask if she could have them back... not enter the house and take them.

I can't fault her for being upset to the point of bizarre behavior by what happened to her daughter. But if that's the state she's in, I'd be uncomfortable leaving her alone with a baby, too.

[SharonAnn]

7. Unfortunately, she's probably right. Some other woman will end

up with those things.

That's what happened with my mother's things and it also has happened to friends of mine. for some reason, the fathers just think women are replaceable and you give the personal things of the one to the other. Don't worry about any family, like parents or children, that's not important. They're not important.

[fortyfeetunder]

5. Once again grandparents rights gone astray.

That is unfortunate the grandma wants to control what's left, and none of it is "hers".

I can tell she will not accept her son-in-law's next spouse.