Another whammy. After 3 weeks of hearing nothing,

[Deja Q]

I wrote an innocent message to a person I'd dated, asking if he was interested - and said I understood if he chose not to respond.

I got the usual "it's best if we'd be friends" routine.

I understand his POV on avoidance (he apologized for avoiding my last message), and I appreciate his guts to speak his mind.

It really wasn't painful to read. I never felt a connection, though the fact our personalities clicked did give me hope.

He wants to be platonic friends, and we do share a lot of interests.

Should I pursue a basic friendship anyway?

Thx! (don't worry, that's my last question on this wretched dating concept.)

[DBoon]

1. No

In my experience this is a polite way of saying "it isn't working out"

Leave it alone

[GoddessOfGuinness]

2. Can you enjoy a friendship with him

without expecting him to get romantically involved? If so, I think you should pursue it; but you might want to wait awhile, to make sure he understands that you want to be a friend, and not a lover.

[Droopy]

3. You can never have too many friends

Go for it. Just don't go into the friendship thinking that maybe there's still a chance that it will develop into something more. You will be perpetually broken hearted.