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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:20 AM
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If you knew you only had a few weeks to live, how would you live them?
Just curious. I expect there to be problems with an upcoming surgery. :-(
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KitchenWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:22 AM
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1. I would
tell everyone I loved how much they meant to me,
eat at the restaurant I have always wanted to go to but didn't think I could afford,
spend the time doing the stuff I think is important!
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jellybelly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:23 AM
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2. I would kill everybody that ever pissed me off
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:24 AM
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3. Looting, running around like a chicken with its head cut off,
telling numerous people about how they're in my will, when I have nothing to will, ordering subscriptions to porn magazines for all the conservative hypocrites I know in town.... pretty much just like any other few weeks that go by.
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Ruffhowse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:24 AM
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4. I would watch my DVDs of Star Trek over and over again.
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flaminbats Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:28 AM
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5. that depends on what I could do..
I would spend as much time with my pets and walking my dog as possible.
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:30 AM
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6. Jokes aside, I'd just let my wife and dog know how much I loved them.
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MichaelHarris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:31 AM
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7. by
posting as many sex threads on DU as I could. And don't worry, the surgery will go fine, unless it's my wife operatin' on. She's not doing the cuttin' right?
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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:33 AM
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8. First off...what do you mean you expect problems?
We don't want to lose you Dave. What's up?
Secondly, I live each day like I might die tomorrow, so I treat everyone like it might be my last day.
Ok, you are worrying me..what's going on?
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Deja Q Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:59 AM
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10. Well,
because I want the surgery and others are saying to get a second opinion.

My boss is harping on me, asking when I'll return to work - despite telling him of what's coming up and saying that due to the healthcare provider there's a delay in getting the 'back to work' paperwork back to them. :mad:

And given the increasing weakness, particularly in my left arm, I know that physical therapy (which is akin to chiropractic 'care', which half-led me into this mess) will not be sufficient.

I think there's going to be a screw-up somewhere. There always seems to be. I just don't want to end up paralyzed which is worse than death. In our 'culture of life', the 'life' demands your able to operate at 110% percent. The cost is high too.

I'm sure the surgery will go fine. But knowing, um, 'political' issues in my department (to make a long story short, morale is less than 0 right now), I don't expect to be there much longer anyway. (the root issues are work related and I am actively seeking other employment, even if it ultimately means I declare bankruptcy... I'm already ruined financially. I refuse to ruin my sanity by those maladjusted psychotic sociopaths who are phasing out my job... (I still don't get it why I can't get training I asked for, yet got a promotion. :crazy: I know they want to phase out PC support and they've whined about the cost of staffing... there's a lot more, but it's safe to say that everybody is piss-terrified over there... and it's half the reason why I fell three weeks ago.)

And I will be calling a friend later on today. We're getting together for a party tomorrow night, can't wait for it. She also told me to talk to her if I had any "issues". (she LOATHES my prychiatrist... heh, she should have known the previous one, Dr. Fr... wait, I suppose I shouldn't say his name, utter quack as he was...)

AFter the surgery I will be away from DU while everything heals up. Might be a good thing. Reality is depressing... my own stupid fault for getting suckered in as well. I had no idea things would have changed...

I don't intend to whack myself into oblivion, please don't get that idea and I've little 'pacts' with 6 people and I care enough about 5 of them to really not do anything dumb, don't worry there. I'm just fearful that I'm making a mistake with the surgery or by finding other employment. Meanwhile, the current employer is starting to hit my psyche hard. I wouldn't mind not having a job, but then I'd have nothing and because of several reasons I'd rather not say, I grew up preferring things over people. Funny how I'd end up being a compassionate guy what with everything that happened... maybe I am insane. :7
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qnr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 04:01 AM
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12. Well, return to your roots... don't forget the looting! :)
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cornermouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 04:55 AM
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13. Well,if it was me.
1. I'd get that second opinion.

2. Plan to survive the surgery because your chances of survival are really, really good no matter what they'll be working on. Very few people die on the table, the vast majority come out better than they went in.

3. As far as what you should do just in case? What have YOU always wanted to do, but didn't because of whatever reason?
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goodbody Donating Member (243 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 03:35 AM
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9. there won't be problems with your surgery!
Edited on Fri Dec-31-04 03:37 AM by goodbody
You'll be fine. Just do what the Dr.'s tell you to do.

If they have already told you some bad news, I would try to gain a spiritual balance and turn your problems over to a higher power. Avoiding negativity would be my goal if I only had a few weeks to live. Whatever it would take to get away from the sources that suck your energy, I would do.

Think good thoughts.

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shawdogpro Donating Member (4 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 04:00 AM
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11. Make your biggest dream come true
This is one tough question. There are, of course, all of the moral answers...spending time with family, expressing your love, etc. This is your life. You have to ask yourself what would make YOU happy?
If you are the type of person who is close to their family, then by all means, exchange "relative" comforts, but if you've lived the majority of your life on your own terms, then do something that you've only dreamed of.
I struggled with the same thought before being deployed to Iraq.
I tried my best to make amends with my past discrepancies the best I could, knowing that I may not have another chance.
I traveled to my uncertain future knowing that, when I had no control over the reason behind my predicament, I could focus on my own needs and wellbeing.
Make yourself come first and take a minute to reflect on what you owe to you instead of worrying about the welfare of others. After all, it's you that is in crisis and only you can resolve this quandary.
My opinion may seem cold-hearted, but to be blunt, everyone else will still be alive if you happen to pass away and time will mend their wounds but you'll be gone. Time heals all wounds.
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Seabiscuit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 05:21 AM
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14. Destroy the porn stash?
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-31-04 05:22 AM
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15. WHAT PROBLEMS, HYPNO???
I WILL KICK ASS IF ANYTHING HAPPENS TO YOU.

I'd go back to England and eat fish n chips and steak n kidney pie everyday; I'd go to the market in Great Yarmouth on a cold rainy day and eat a giant cone of chips smothered in vinegar.
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