Why all the lonely fellows?

[Abelman]

It seems tonight that there has been an influx of threads about guys being lonely and single. What's the deal? Why did the floodgates open?

My single friends, we will all find that special someone someday. It will happen. And when it does, we will be happy.

Also, I hope I find mine first.

[Heidi]

1. I don't get it, either.

Let me preface this post by saying that I'm happily married, but from the content of guys' posts on DU, I don't think I've ever seen a larger selection of intelligent, kind, independent and otherwise eligible guys. I don't understand why people consider themselves losers if they don't meet certain guidelines for income, transportation or physical appearance. From what my liberal girlfriends tell me, those things are much lower down the list than intelligence, kindness and independence.

[hfojvt]

3. I think your girlfriends are lying to you

Either that or the girls I have met were a) not liberal or b) able to tell at a glance or from a photo that I am not intelligent or kind.
I do not consider myself a loser because I do not meet certain guidelines. I consider myself a loser because that is what the world tells me, because I have frigging lost.
If you read Susan Faludi's "Backlash" I think she shows that it is tough for guys statistically.

[DIKB]

4. Well. . .

"I don't understand why people consider themselves losers if meet certain guidelines for income, transportation or physical appearance. From what my liberal girlfriends tell me, those things are much lower down the list than intelligence intelligence, kindness and independence."

Try a lifetime of rejection on for size. I'm not unattractive, or stupid by any means. Though I do fail to possess the definitive "IT" that women desire. I have been rejected by conservatives, and liberal females alike. The intelligent, desirable females I have strived for, and the lesser ones that I have decided to SETTLE for. Once you have failed to meet the "less than satisfactory" goals, you tend to have a somewhat BLEAK outlook.

Intelligence, kindness, and independence be DAMNED!!!! They do nothing to sate the desire I have to be with someone as both a companion and love interest. The desire to be held in another's arms w/ unequivocal acceptance supercedes all other desires, and I sincerely doubt any MARRIED DUer will understand.

[DIKB]

2. Bah !!!

I've ALWAYS been lonely and single, and hinted about it on many an occasion (especially when drunk). The floodgates have LONG been open. I refuse to hold to any idealistic views that I will EVENTUALLY find someone. I will if I will, if not I will go in a manner of my choosing, pure and simple.

This need not be as bleak as many make it sound. Resign your fate to powers beyond your control, be they fickle (chosen by man) or pre-ordained (by God). Regardless, we are powerless before them. I for one will meet my fate, be it love or a hail of bullets with head held high.

[hfojvt]

5. "staring down a bullet, let ,me make my final stand

shot down. In a blaze of glory..."

Really, it is quite silly to tell a 43 year old that "someday ..." Even a 33 year old is riding a 19 year losing streak. Someday is a pretty long shot at some point.

[DIKB]

6. Wow

43 is 19 years more than I'm at. I truly dread my current losing streak lasting that long.

[hfojvt]

7. see, your "lifetime of rejection"

is only half a lifetime. You get used to it after a while, at least I did. Sorta.

[DIKB]

9. Well

My heart goes out to you. At least I have a semblance of understanding, seeing as how I'm one of the only ones up at the moment, lol. That and I meet the loneliness requirement. Perhaps we should form a "Band of the Hand" (further explanation prohibited due to the no-sex topics), a form of Single DUers group, informal and voluntary, of course :)

[SmileyBoy]

8. I have almost a 10 year losing streak going.

Since the age of 13, that is. I almost won just over 2 years ago when I had a girlfriend, but it was a short relationship, and she quickly dumped me.

I get really depressed when I think about that...

[HeeBGBz]

10. "Snap out of it!"

Did you like my Cher impersonation?

No, actually, I can relate. Only from a age 50 female perspective. My problem seems to stem from locale. So many Repukes, I don't even try anymore.

It doesn't help when most of the men my age are busy looking for 20 year olds.

I've been single and alone so long, I feel like some lesserling who lives in a nest in a den far away from human contact. A grubby little worker B who goes out to the salt mines and must return by dark.

The sad thing is I'm starting to like it that way.

[BlondieK143]

11. Not sure how they're lonely.

DUers are some of the greatest and smartest people around. I guess that doesn't really help. I should know. :P

[RC]

12. What would happen if you just posted an ad here?

6' 0"
Been told I am good looking, handsome. -- & I am ;-) --
Have most of my hair, even though it is gray.
Slightly overweight - not much.
Kind, considerate, good sense of humor.
Do NOT smoke.
Hobbies: Photography, being appalled at the ignorance of the average citizen at what is going on in our country.

Looking for a female best friend, companion, 55 or so to 60 or so.

PM me.

[SeanQuinn]

13. I'm in the middle of a bitter breakup.

Right now, just to see if we can kind of remain in 'friend' status, I'm taking orders from her like as if she was a general and really disregarding how I look.