Blah...what should I do?

[truthbetold]

Here's the situation: I've finally met the guy I've been looking for, but he's taken.
John and I have been talking for about a week now, and we're absolutely perfect for each other. He's a vegetarian, same sign as me, an environmentalist, musically inclined, intelligent, compassionate...basically, everything I've ever wanted.
He's admitted to me that he's attracted to me, and he thinks I'm a very cool girl, but he does have a girlfriend. But he's very unsure of their relationship. She's eight years older than him, and hardly talks to him. She claims it's because she's stressed and likes to be by herself, but it sounds to me like she doesn't appreciate him. He won't cheat on her (which I wouldn't want him too, anyway), but he doesn't know what to do about his current situation.
He wants to continue to hang out with me and get to know me better, but I don't want to feel like just some stand by girl. He's a nice guy, and it's just my luck that he has someone. But he sounds like his interest in her isn't really there, so why does he keep hanging on?
It's scary that I've grown so interested in him in such a short time, but I wonder how long I'll have to wait...if we ever happen at all. I want to, I feel he wants to, but what if it's all for nothing?
Gah, I just need a hug, lol.

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. Sounds corny...but,

If you love him (or are even interested) let him go. Absence truly does make the heart grow fonder and if he enjoys being around you, and you take a step back, he may re evaluate things. Good luck. :hi:

[greatauntoftriplets]

2. Run.

He is having his cake and eating it too.

[knowbody0]

3. he is with someone else

it is best to respect her "territory". i have lots of hugs for you, but imagine yourself with him after the honeymoon wears off and he seeks comfort with someone else. its a golden rule. good luck

[purr]

4. I agree..

it sounds like you are a stand by incase things with his girlfriend dont work out. If they dont work out, he has you to fill in. My question would be if he gets bored in a relationship with you, what makes you think he wont do the same with you?

heres a hug! take care of yourself!!

[Floogeldy]

5. A week isn't very long

What are things going to be like in six months or a year?

B-)