I think this is a general topic

[koopie57]

it is not a rant, but I was almost I could tell my story and calm my nerves a bit. First of all, I'm a very shy person and have never lost my temper in front of a stranger before, but twice in this last few days I did so.

One was I was talking to a young guy who was bragging that he voted for bush and that he was anti-abortion. He was about 20 years old and so I asked him why it was wrong to have an abortion but not wrong to kill 100,000 Iraqis who never did anything to me or you. And he said he was glad he voted for bush and then I told him to enlist then and then he logged off after saying I had some nerve talking to a 20 year old like that ... I felt bad but I don't think I was out of line, I just rarely speak out like that.

Just now I was on the phone with a company who billed my credit card and I had not approved the charge. The card was in my name only and I didn't know I had it cuz it was bought by bank of america from an old card I hadn't used in years. It took 45 minutes and I was livid to say the least cuz I really really hate credit card companies and I told her I wanted the charges removed and the thing they were selling stopped. She said it was approved by my husband and I said he thought they were just asking to send information plus we had not received the information and she said I needed to take it up with my post office and I said why? What will they do about it. And besides I did not authorize the charge and she babbled on and on and finally she said she I could call the credit card company and see if my husband was on the card and I asked her why should I do that when it was their mistake, so I told her to call them and I'll wait, and she came back and I knew I won. But, boy, I really had taken out a lot of frustrations on her and I didn't back off. I can hardly believe I did it. I wish that I would not feel so bad about it. I didn't really do anything wrong except fight for what I thought was right. I was loud and obnoxious, but what was I suppose to do, just say okay and feel angry at myself or at the system or something. Why am I so ashamed of my behavior? People are allowed to get angry no? And I didn't swear. Well, thank you to whoever read this. I'm going to have a drink to celebrate? or calm my nerves? by the way I had a lousy day at work and that didn't help it. A hug to all who listened.

[babylonsister]

1. Good for you for standing up for yourself, koopie57!

Don't EVER feel bad about that! :hug:

[ernstbass]

2. I understand

When I get angry (I'm a non confrontational person for the most part) I feel anxious and always have a sleepless night. Hellfire, go have a drink - you deserve one. And a hug for you too!

[bigwillq]

3. You need to lose your temper more often!

WTG!:toast:

[mcscajun]

4. I don't think you "lost your temper" in the first case...you were just...

...Outspoken. And More Power To You! :applause: more of these "kids" need to hear that message.

In the second case, maybe you did lose your temper — so what? As you said, you didn't swear, and that's a good thing. No customer service staffer has to hang on and listen to profanity; they're allowed to hang up on you in that case. So you got your point across forcefully, and won.

Don't be ashamed, but expect the adrenaline rush the first dozen or so times you do that kind of thing. It gets easier with time, and the rush gets replaced with a glow of righteous anger satiated. :)

[ahem]

5. Please don't feel bad about it. There's no reason. I think it's just

that you're a non-confrontational person and these experiences took you out of your comfort zone. You did nothing wrong.

:hug:

[koopie57]

6. thank you everyone

but my first order of business is to recover from tonight! Maybe I will begin to look for injustice so I can right evil wrongs wherever they may be with my fearless new-found temper! Or maybe I'll go have that drink.