How sleazy is this?

[quisp]

Poll question: How sleazy is this?

A good friend of mine; married with 3 kids, wants to go to bed with a married woman with whom he worked with once but she has move on.

He wants to call her up and, get this, tell her he has inoperable melanoma and his prognosis is 6 months to live and would she go to bed with him.

I told him he was tempting fate and the Gods by doing that and if he didn't end up with cancer in 6 months his wife would find out and that it wasn't worth it.

What do you think he'll get (or deserves).

[Fenris]

1. I hope he does get cancer

Just for being such a terrible human being. We're trying to have a fucking civilization here, people!

[Tallison]

2. Bad, bad karma

Does he have any redeeming qualities, what with being your good friend and all?

(Edited for spelling)

[quisp]

4. well, as matter of fact, he does.

He might be kidding. He is somewhat of a prankster, and maybe has made up this story to see people's reactions.

To his credit he's devoted to his kids and wife (by appearances, at least) and always shows up when he says he'll help me move (a true friend indeed!)

[ScreamingMeemie]

3. Beyond sleazy...he deserves to have his wife find out what a pig

he is.

[bridgit]

5. "upset stomach", mine that is...

even where he may ply such despicable tactics for conceited reason, my sense is that cancer is not, per se, a 'karmic device'; to my thinking, he'd have more-the-worry from getting punched out, or jacked up, by some other entity all together if not by: one, either, or both of these woman on his dance card ~

:crazy:

[Tallison]

6. I think the prospect of getting punched out or "jacked up"

is the least of this guy's problems...

[bridgit]

7. no doubt ~

[Ladyhawk]

8. I believe "karma" is a function of the conscience.

If you don't have a conscience, then karma won't get you. If you have a conscience, when something bad happens to you, you'll immediately think of something similar you did to someone else. If you have an overactive conscience, you'll attribute every bad thing that happens to you to bad karma.

But only if you believe in karma. ;)

The weirdest thing happened to me. I sued two people--rightfully, I believe--and was sued twice within a year. One lawsuit was totally frivolous. The other was an attempt to milk the system for money. I was responsible for a fender-bender accident which was completely my fault; however, the people in the other car tried to blame every ache and pain and the elderly gentleman's inability to "get it up" on that little fender bender, which only put a small dent in their car.

My conscience is prickly, so even though I don't really "believe" in karma, the thought occurred to me that this was some kind of cosmic payback. Sometimes I even wonder if my neck pain is some kind of cosmic payback for resenting being sued.

Obviously, none of this was due to karma. Cognitively, I know that, but my emotions sometimes get all superstitious on me. :)

So, what's my point?

If this dude doesn't have a conscience, nothing bad will happen to him as a result of lying to this woman to get sex. It would be cool if he contracted six kinds of VD, but that kind of payback only happens in movies and books. Sadly, people who deserve the worst often don't get it while decent folks suffer. The distribution of misery is random.

Why else would the Bushes be living high on the hog, no guilty consciences, while the rest of us pay for their sins?

[Tallison]

10. I've always regarded karma as a function of the "spirit" behind people's

behavior that aggregates over the course of a lifetime, one that you can kind of intuit around people the more conscientious of qualities like integrity, empathy, and compassion you are, regardless of an agent's presence or lack of a conscience. I'll agree, though, that the distribution of suffering in the world does often appear random.

Reminds me of an exchange in the series Deadwood, in which Rev. Smith remarks about a smallpox outbreak in camp, "This is God's purpose, but not knowing the purpose is my portion of suffering," to which Doc Cochran replies, "If this is His will, He is a son of a bitch."

[madeline_con]

16. My thoughts on karma...

I don't think belief in karma is neccesary. Bad things happen to certain types of people. Sometimes, a person's lifestyle, choice of friends, etc. puts them in situations in which bad things happen to them. Call it cosmic payback or whatever, he who lives by the sword, and all that.

[Mojambo]

9. Your friend is scum

I still won't wish cancer upon him.

[emdee]

11. He could get turned down....

and still have some of those outcomes! LOL

I didn't vote - I say if he asks, she'll turn him down and then I just hope he gets a guilty conscience.

But, I'm going to say that he's just yanking your chain - ya think?

emdee

[madeline_con]

17. "He could get turned down...."

Good point. I mean, what's this chick's I.Q?

oh, you're dying, and your wife doesn't understand you, let's get it on?

[AAARRRGGGHHH]

12. You don't cheat

period. Don't take the coward's way out.

[NMMNG]

13. What he wants to do is sleazy

But wishing him to actually get cancer would be just as bad :evilfrown:

[SoCalDem]

14. Pretty sleazy

:(

[madeline_con]

15. Is he gonna shave his head...

to feign chemo? How far is he willing to go with this, except "all the way"?

[enigmatic]

18. That's pretty damn sleazy...

I say he gets impotence that even viagra won't cure..

[MrScorpio]

19. Fucking around is one thing

But, that is just WAAAAAY out there

[IChing]

21. It's so far out "there' I don't think it will ever reach "there"

Unless he's a Mormon ........ just kidding

seems like he's reaching a fantasy that she's moved past.

[evlbstrd]

20. I'm separated from my wife after 20 years.

And I have two kids. I still won't sleep with anyone else. Because I'm still married. The vows mean something, dammit.