Teenaged Dating Rant Time.

[MiniMandaRuth]

I'm friggin' sick and tired of my friends saying that someone should go out with someone else because they A. Look good together, B. Are friends, C. Sit anywhere near each other or have the same interests.

You know what?

I'm in middle school and have never had a boyfriend. I know that other girls go out with boys all the time.

F*** that.

F*** society.

If I don't have an effing boyfriend, it's for an effing reason. No one up here is worthy of my time, dammit! I'm far too special for anyone up here to date.

It makes me sad. I see all these girls that are my age, walking around in low cut shirts with some boy hooking his arm around her waist, acting all sexy and stuff. Well, she's gonna be one of those teenagers that's gonna get knocked up and be forced to keep it.

So what if the only two men that I find attractive are Johnny Depp and Viggo Mortensen? So what if I don't like everything that everything that everyone else likes? They listen to their Ashlee, while I tune into Ladytron.

F*** them all.

When I'm seventeen or whatever, and I'm dating, I'm just asking for some personality and nerdage. If they can answer 'Who was the last elven king of Gondolion from LOTR' correctly, I'm gonna be happy.

They can all go date losers. I'm not going to. At all.

It's sad, isn't it? These people think that they have to justify themselves by being with another person. Plus, all these relationships are built on looks and, in time, sex.

Yeah, I have a boyfriend.

His name is Bob. He lives in my head. Sexy, isn't it?

If I hear one more person say that I should go out with so-and-so because he likes what I like, I'm killing everyone.

Sure, I like to flirt and all that, but it's just sad.

And, society encourages young dating, too. In movies, we always have the sexy middle school heroine that always falls in love with hunky dude and she changes just for him.

:puke:

Like I said before.

F*** that.

If society looks down upon teenagers getting a little too sexual, then they need to stop being hypocrites. Stop trying to get teenaged girls to think that every sexy guy is worthy.

And, I don't mean like 16-year-old and above, but like, 15 and below. I know that a few SIXTH GRADERS in my school talk about making out in movie theaters. I know that an eighth grader lost her virginity already.

I know that it's the old insanity defense. It's societies fault.

But, this time, I think that it really is.

:rant:

Sorry, I feel better now.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

1. Middle school-you've got your whole life ahead of you. Don't sweat it.

Of all the high school sweetheart couples that I knew, not a one stayed together, even the few that were picture perfect, seemed perfect for each other.

You've got a long way to go, you'll be fine.

[Maestro]

2. Your miles ahead of them already.

How do I know?

You are member at DU; You recognize that you don't need a boyfriend and you have good taste in music. :)

Relax. There is plenty of time for all that other stuff. Get into to the AP classes; go to college, get a career and then laugh you a** off when you are much more ready for life than the others who still are listening to that lip-synching hack Ashlee Simpson.

[MiniMandaRuth]

5. Dude. Ladytron is awesome.

I just found them today. Soooooo cool.

[AirmensMom]

3. Stick to your guns, MiniMandaRuth.

There's plenty of time for all that. My girls didn't date until they were 16 (house rule). It's just fine to wait and I'm glad you're smart enough to know that!

I think Viggo is adorable! ;)

[hippywife]

4. The really good guys

are worth waiting for. I didn't marry until 38 and so glad I didn't accept any of the other offers before this one. The real thing comes along when you least expect it but when you're ready for it, whether you know it or not at the time.

Take the time to be comfortable with yourself and your life.

Sounds like you understand already that the superficial stuff ain't where it's at.

[SarahB]

6. I showed my daughter this...

She's almost 14 and in 8th grade and she said, "Amen to that." She's a pretty girl with lots of friends, but is very smart and has her own interests. She's had boyfriends, but only goes for the ones she finds "worthy". Don't settle on someone you don't want just to have someone. Make sure they're worthy of you. :)

[Mutley]

7. Right on!

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. :thumbsup:

[SeanQuinn]

8. Nice rant!

I'm 13, and I think I see people hooking up with each other for the completely wrong reasons all the time. I'm not perfect and honestly, I've done the same crap.

I really think I've given up on dating for a while. High school will be my new starting point. Sure I'll think a girl's cute/hot/other overused expression, but I've really given up on making myself seeming so attractive to the other person that I give a false identity of myself.

For what? A movie? A kiss?

Right now, it's not worth it. Later, sure.

[WindRavenX]

9. to me, a hypersexual culture like ours...

...is just as insulting and demeaning as victorian era repression of sexuality.

dont listen to those people, you know yourself and what you want.

[ZombieNixon]

10. Way to be!

:yourock:

Seriously, here's a couple of points.

• Virtually NO ONE, and by no one I mean NO ONE will end up marrying their high school sweetheart. I have a friend from HS who was happy with the same guy for all four years of High School. She was convinced she was going to marry this fellow. Sorry, hon, looks like he broke up with you today. And ABSOLUTELY no one in this world is going to be with their middle school crush forever. The chances of you even hooking up with that person are slim. At thirteen, I didn't even know what I wanted in a girl.

• Only you know what you want. I fully realize that my standards are ridiculously high, and I'm lucky to even become acquainted with someone who I find attractive at a 75% or higher level. You'll know what you want when you see it, so you really should bother degrading yourself by trying to be with people who aren't worth your time.

[TimeChaser]

11. I didn't start dating until this past summer, after I graduated highschool

I couldn't stand highschool/middle school dating culture. Too much drama and shit.

[raptor_rider]

12. You are young my love

keep education first and you will be better than all of the "friends" that say you need to date. You are a very smart young one, keep this and you will go far in life!!

[lakemonster11]

13. Don't worry about it.

Middle school (actually, in my case, Jr. High) sucked.

I was seriously not attracted to a "real boy" until college. I had a great time with my friends male and female in high school. Just do your own thing, keep your mind open, and learn as much as you can about everything, especially those things you find most interesting. You'll be fine.

I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 18. In college I had some relationships that sucked and others that were really quite good for me. I couldn't have handled the sucky ones in high school. They would have destroyed me in Jr. High.

Now I'm 23 and am dating a really nice, smart, funny, *very nerdy* guy. Our relationship has nothing in common with the shallow, sexualized "relationships" you see in the halls. Our relationship is built on mutual respect, attraction, and affection, not whether or not our friends think we're "cute together." :eyes:

Once you're twenty, you'll think middle school guys look like little boys anyway, and will be disgusted to think that they ever get any action.

Trust me.

[NMMNG]

14. Good for you

You have a good head on your shoulders and know that you don't need to have a boy on your hip just to fit in with the crowd. If only every other girl had half your smarts there would be fewer teen pregnancies and STDs.

I saw an amusing t-shirt the other day. It said, Why do I need a boyfriend? I haven't done anything wrong.

Stick to your guns, you know what is right for you!

[SoCalDem]

15. You have only lived about 1/6th of your lifetime

and half of the time you have lived, you were a small child.. There is PLENTY of time for the companionship phase of your life.. You are well into the "launch" phase.. The things you do (and don;t do) now will set the stage for how good the rest of your life will be..

Kids (sorry if that offends you :)..) are naturally self-absorbed.. That's your job right now..figuring out who you are and what you will become..

Become what YOU want to be...not what your friends think you should be or some boyfriend thinks you should be.

Dating is WAAAAAY more fun when you are old enough to feel secure in your own skin..and when you are strong enough to resist a bad idea..

It does not seem like it now, but the things that seem so important to you now (and the people) will fade as you age, and you will wrack your brain trying to even remember their names.. Do NOT let peripheral people change your life's path :)