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[jane_pippin]

Or more accurately, bool-le-sheet as my old gramma would have said.

Last night I get home from work to find that my boyfriend wants to have "a talk."

Woo hoo! We all know what that means.

So he says it's not going anywhere, we're not happy, etc., and he's right. Breaking up is probably the best move. And after 5 years we've learned we're much better as friends than anything else, so the breaking up itself is sort of a side note. Especially since I want to move to California in the spring/summer anyway. (He knows this and thinks it's probably a good idea since I hate living here.)

Anyhoo...the bullshit part is that he thinks we can keep living together because moving is a pain in the ass, I'm going to want to leave altogether in a few months anyway, rent is cheaper this way, and we won't have to give up our kick ass apartment. (It's pretty kick ass). He also thinks that should it come up, going on dates with others won't be a big deal as long as nobody brings anybody home. :rofl:

Obviously moving out would save everyone grief except for the part where I might get stuck with a year lease (which means either staying longer or dealing with subletting bullshit down the road which is no fun) and living on my own means I won't be able to save as much (higher rent, no splitting bills) so I'll have to push moving far away back even more.

I'm so frickin' sick of making lemonade. Just once I'd like things to be simple.

So yeah. That's how my week started. Thanks for letting me vent.

[Shell Beau]

1. That sucks!

It does sound easier money wise to keep living together, but what about sanity. It sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. How can you move on while still living together. It's just not worth it IMO!! :hug:

[jane_pippin]

5. Thanks. That's just what it sounds like.

You're right. I think it's one of those ideas that "looks good on paper," but would be a disaster if implemented.

I saw a listing for a place down the block I could afford so maybe moving in there wouldn't be such a pain. I don't have a car so staying fairly close to where I am now is important for getting to work/grocery stores, etc.

[Bunny]

2. Yeah, that's sucky.

However, it should be manageable, if you are certain you are moving in the spring. If you can get a pretty solid deadline of when you will be gone, that should help. Oh, and I agree about not bringing dates home - that's pushing it too far!

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

3. Let me help you feel better.

I've been living with a woman who cheated on me for the last 4 months because our lease doesn't end until the end of the year.

:hug: I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

[jane_pippin]

6. Oh man, I'm sorry.

That's just plain disrespectful.

Thanks and :hug: back to ya.

[eyesroll]

4. Yuck. Sorry you're dealing with that.

At least you both recognize that it's better this way. (It doesn't stop it from sucking, but it does help.)

There are a few places that offer month-to-month leases (or short-term leases) -- many landlords right now are just happy to have tenants, because renting in the winter is a pain (that's how I got my apartment for sub-market rates last October) ; that doesn't stop the added cost but it may help with the not-wanting-to-live-with-the-ex thing.

Good luck!

[jane_pippin]

8. Thanks. It is for the best, I think.

I just saw a listing for a place near where I live now for a good price so if it isn't a total dump I might be set in that department. And only moving a block or two would make life easier.
Plus, moving now might help weed out a lot of junk that I can get rid of now and that would be nice when it comes time to really move away.

And moving out would probably help us stay friends--we were good friends before we were dating and still are--and that matters to me more than having to pay a little more in rent.

[NV Whino]

7. Do you have an option for moving to CA sooner?

Of course, if you reeeealy like snow and cold, you might want to stay until spring.
:)

[jane_pippin]

9. If I had the money I'd be leaving now but I need to save some loot

and that will take until spring. I can't stand winter but I've been through 26 of them so what's one more.

[NV Whino]

10. Well, welcome to CA in advance

You'll love it... well, except for our govenator.

[jane_pippin]

12. Thanks. I can't wait to be there. And maybe by the time I can

get there he'll be booted out anyway and Gary Coleman can take his rightful place in the seat of power. ;)

[skygazer]

11. Yeah, I've never done anything the easy way

I keep trying but I always wind up taking the "scenic route". :wtf:

Doesn't sound like much fun and I'm sorry. Hang in there and I've got to say, moving to California was one of the best moves I ever made. Hope it's the same for you. :hug: