Need some advice....

[khashka]

I got invited to Thanksgiving at a friend's house. Should I go?

He's a cop, she's a paramedic. They don't have much but have used what they do have to help others. They are repubs and southern baptists.


We were really cool until the new constitutional amendment outlawing gay marriage. Recently gay groups have banded together to get it repealed. Her take on it was "what part of NO do they not understand?" My reply was what part of bigot do you not understand?

So should I go and inevitebly get into an argument or graciously decline the invitation?

Khash.

[ScreamingMeemie]

1. Graciously decline. At least I would. They are not obviously living

"in Christ's footsteps" as Christ would not be pleased with them judging their neighbors. I walked out of the Catholic Church for this very same reason last year. :hi: :hug: You could come here for dinner. We're having an eclectic mishmash group this year.

[swimboy]

2. I'm for the gracious decline.

They are using the little they have to help others, but only certain others. It's nice they asked you but I agree with you in thinking the argument is inevitable. It's your call but I don't think this is an opportunity to expand anyone's outlook or horizons.

[DanCa]

3. Heres a thought can you rsvp with a mutual agreement

no politics that day? Maybe then you can have the best of both worlds. If not I would decline and if they ask you why I would use all the tactics i can muster and explain why i have misgivings of your thanksgiving.

[In_The_Wind]

4. I suggest that you graciously decline the invitation

For the good of all concerned.

:hi:

[pintobean]

5. Follow your heart

If they are true friends, you should all overcome this difference.

[Metta]

8. Thank you.

:toast:

[tjdee]

6. Where else would you spend Thanksgiving?

I'd consider that, and then I'd make my decision.

Are you very good at not "going there", i.e., are you fine steering the convo away from politics/not talking about politics/ignoring dumb comments? I don't think an argument is inevitable. Seriously, politics may not come up on their end.

I'd decline--unless the other option was sitting on my butt by myself, in which case I'd go for an hour or two, talk about the weather and football, eat a bit, and go home. (But I'm a person who feels no one should be alone on the holidays even if they don't mind--I have to suffer through family things/being around people I'd rather not--though lately less so--why shouldn't everyone!)

[Metta]

7. How about graciously accept and not get into an argument.

Maybe they're extending a fig leaf. What does your heart say? Ask again if it's really your heart.

[southlandshari]

9. Graciously decline

If you think an argument (the kind that will upset you beyond the evening) is inevitable.

Go if you guys have plenty else to talk about and there isn't any reason to talk about this subject. I have Thanksgiving dinner most every year with some combination of relatives and friends, many of whom wouldn't approve of or agree with certain parts of my life. We manage to find common ground long enough to enjoy a few hours one day a year.

:hi:

Missed you. A lot. :hug:

[Jamastiene]

10. That sounds like the best all round advice for a number of other

things as well. I mean what about people who like different sports teams. If they can find enough in common to enjoy together without arguing, then great, but if the fight is inevitable, the holidays are a bad place for that. I used to hate family get-together because a few family members would end up in a fight and mess things up for the rest of us.

[rug]

11. Bring a b/f.

[Tsiyu]

12. That;'s what I would suggest

but I am in a radical mood.

And I am really pissed at how gay people are being made the scapegoats for this nation's problems. So I would have an attitude before I even pulled into their driveway.

Here's a hug while you figure it out :hug:


*turkey smiley here*

[tjwmason]

13. What is the level of mutual respect?

If it's high - then an agreement not to talk about a given issue/s should work.

But perhaps I'm just too English about the whole thing - and hideously respectable.