Du ladies, why do you tell your girlfriends everything?

[salinen]

O.K., here's the setting. Small town. Everyone knows everyone. So a good friend of mine was dating another good friend. We don't see them often because my wife and I are busy. So, my wife ran into her and she spilled the entire relationship to her. Turns out my friend, the male, has intimacy problems because his penis is so small. But she loved him so much that she didn't care. But for him it was too much to overcome (no pun intended). So he called off the marriage. She has since married someone else.

I am hereby accussing the opposite sex with the crime of "telling your girlfriends everything" I really think that males are less "chatty" about this type of info. I'm really sorry I know this about my friend. It's none of my business. My wife doesn't think it's a big deal.

Whaddayathink?

[nini]

1. I don't.. not all women do this

Some do, some don't.

Males are just as guilty of this as others.

tsk tsk for generalizing like this.

[WindRavenX]

3. amen

:thumbsdown: to generalizations

(For the record, I only tell my SO everything--other stuff is kept private)

[salinen]

18. Now every women

in town knows my friend has a tiny pee pee. Not from my wife though.
She only told me.

[WindRavenX]

22. Um, what's your point?

Clearly she didn't just tell you,duh :eyes:

[Misunderestimator]

58. Um... now everyone on DU knows he has a tiny pee pee...

:shrug: And you say WOMEN talk? :rofl:

[salinen]

17. I think

men are just slightly less quilty. Men have some other problems.

[SoCalDem]

44. I have never ever divulged "husband/wife" stuff to even my best friend

It's not her business.. She has, on the other hand, told me more than I want to know about her boyfriend:eyes:..

Usually she talks about him when they are on the "outs", and i am just the soundingboard.. They go back and forth, so I never say bad things about him because i know she will be back with him.. I just commiserate with her, and let her know that whatever she decides, I will be on her side :)

[Jamastiene]

51. Not to mention the deal with a woman's reputation being totally

dependent on how a lot of men like to "brag" about what they did last night. Like that is not in the same exact category as telling their buddies everything. Not all men do this, mind you, but the ones that do really destroy some women's reputations in small towns. I know this because I have female friends who have to deal with how people treat them differently based on something they did when they were nineteen years old. They never live it down and they never get over the way people treat them.

[nini]

59. Exactly - there's way more of that than women talking

That kind of talk stays with the woman's rep for years. Definite double standard in all this.

[jane_pippin]

2. So...howcome you're telling us?

It's just human nature. People like to talk to each other and they like to talk about themselves. It's not just a lady thing. Some of the biggest talkers I know are my male friends.

[salinen]

21. It's not just a lady thing.

But out of 1000, 501 ladies will tell their girlfriends everything compared to 499 males.
I just made that up.

[jane_pippin]

34. lol. Come on now. That's just silly.

I'm just saying it's not right but everybody does it from time to time. We're human. To ask why women do it (as opposed to "people") is just goofy.

[tinfoilinfor2005]

4. No way.

I don't tell anyone everything.

[salinen]

23. keep those lips zipped huh?

[tinfoilinfor2005]

42. Coco Chanel used to say

When you feel you are perfectly dressed and ready to go, look in the mirror and remove one thing.

Good advice too when it comes to revealing yourself to others.

[bettyellen]

5. i hear more gossip from guys, actuallly....

one of my g-friends really begs for dirt, but i don't spill anything unless it's goofy and inconsequential, like having a belly button so big you could hide a walnut in there. LOL, she hasn't asked for "deatils" since i gave her that one. it's just not my thing, i guess.

[salinen]

24. I agree except

I think men like to listen more than tell.

[bettyellen]

39. i get a lot of guys confessions, LOL.

guys always talk to me like i'm one of them, i dunno why.... i guess i'm just easygoing and really hard to shock, and i won't judge, but if i do telll somebody they were being a jerk they know i don't not hold a grudge or whatever. :shrug:

[Kat45]

52. You get that too, Bettyellen?

Guys talk to me like that too. I can't believe some of the things they've told me, particularly about their sex lives. And my guess as to why is the same as yours. :hi:

[bettyellen]

53. I get it from both my parents.... Dad was a lot of fun, and my Mom was

always a good listener. Even if she was totally shocked (and being very old fashioned, she was quite often) she'd never show it.
I just don't repeat stuff, and I grew up with older brothers, so I'm just never shocked over guy stuff. So many guys hide their dark sides from their girlfriends, I think it's a relief or something that a gal is cool about stuff. And you can learn alot from guys too. LOL.
:hi:

[SeattleGirl]

6. I don't share everything I know about people with others.

If someone tells me something in confidence, I'm keeping it to myself.

[Omphaloskepsis]

7. hmmm...

Gender - male
State - Ca
Country - Amerika
Hobby - subversion


Why do you want to share it with all of us? I don't really give a shit. Or, why do you blab shit about your friends on the internet?

[salinen]

25. Ah

none of you know these people, so I don't think it matters.

[pokerfan]

8. What do you think? :)

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[salinen]

12. Everyone knows that about Scott

[tigereye]

43. that is funny in a disturbing sort of way

I don't tell personal stuff that people tell me. I don't tell tales out of school. It wouldn't be right, and I don't think most women do, not by a long shot.

[I Have A Dream]

9. I don't know because I don't do this.

:shrug:

[Left Is Write]

10. I don't.

[supernova]

11. No, I don't

I certainly don't tell his sexual secrets to everybody. That's strange, IMHO.

No I'm pretty damn discreet about such matters.

[salinen]

26. Do you think she wanted

some sort of revenge for dumping her?

[LeftyMom]

13. The short answer: I don't

I have one close friend who knows most of my personal business, but I don't share anything I'm asked to keep private or know that other involved parties would rather I not discuss.

There's no excuse for discussing the private details of one's sex life and partner's anatomy with anyone outside of a medical context unless the other party has given permission to do so.

[RevCheesehead]

14. Only small-minded people do something like that.

Gender has nothing to do with it.

Sounds like the woman has her own intimacy issues, to me. I mean, it didn't matter to her and she loved him, but she ends up marrying someone else anyways?? How shallow is that??

[salinen]

27. Me too!

I think she may have been pissed that he left
her for that reason. Regardless, I still am
very fond of them both.

[RevCheesehead]

37. Perhaps she was pissed....

but more likely, she was feeling desperate for marriage. Our culture puts a great deal of pressure on single people; and if you're not married by a certain age, there's obviously something wrong with you.

(Thank God I got over that phase a long time ago. I really don't care what other people think. I'm happy with my life and my choices.)

[sistersofmercy]

15. Well, we do tell our closest girlfriends everything but

the trick is not to tell some ding dong who will spread it around. I'm pretty discreet. I don't think I have a lot of best friends or in other words, I only say things to people I know who won't repeat it, females I trust totally. Most of us can keep our info in a very small circle, say 4-5 people. I live in St louis, an area called Clayton to be more exact and let me tell you there is an art to keeping things quiet. But the fun part for me is to let the bigmouths blather and get info on others but keeping my stuff discreet. If I want something to get around I know who to tell. Women, in general, are this way. That's why your wife doesn't think it's a big deal. We let the chips fall where they may, so to speak.

[salinen]

16. Finally

Thanks for the honesty.

[supernova]

19. Speak for yourself

Women, in general, are this way.

No, I'm not.

[salinen]

29. But I never hear this type of infomation

from my male friends. But my wife has many girlfriends, and after work she tells me her day, and me mine. Women share more intimately with their friends, I think. It may be a good system. Men can sometimes be emotional retards.

[supernova]

31. Well, you're right in that

Women share more information, in general.

But, no I don't share this kind of information. And to be super honest I've been known to walk out of what I call "hen parties". The gossiping just gets to be too much. :silly:

[sistersofmercy]

32. Good for you n/t

[redwitch]

20. You know what they say...

" A secret is something you tell one person at a time"

[blue neen]

28. You know what?

The rule for everyone regarding ANY matter of intimacy is, "Don't kiss and tell." (No pun intended).

If you are a mature adult, you just don't talk about someone else's body that way. It's wrong and it's disrespectful--to yourself and to the poor person who is being gossiped about.

[salinen]

30. Amen

[PassingFair]

33. This is bullshit.

If we ladies told our "girlfriends everything" we'd ALL know about ALL of your small penises.

Puhleeze!

Guys "kiss and tell" a LOT.

Stupid really, it is one behavior I could NEVER abide. I abruptly stopped dating many men in my time after I found out they'd been bragging.

[WindRavenX]

35. agreed

This thread is bullshit.

[salinen]

36. My penis is gaurgantuan

compared to many small mammals.

[WindRavenX]

38. that's for sharing

Im calling all my GFs to gossip about it.

[PassingFair]

40. Ring me first!

I'll get the word out in my small "penis newsletter X-mas edition!"

[WindRavenX]

41. LOL

:thumbsup:

[ForrestGump]

45. They tell them EVERYTHING?????

:scared:

Even......?

No...surely not...not that.

They wouldn't!

They do?

:scared:

I am f***ed.

[benny05]

50. When I was a punk (meaning much younger than Today)

hen I was in college and a few years after, I was more open about my sex life with what I thought were confidents. And perhaps some of them were, but some were not. Anyway..today I exercise more discretion in my conversations, even with the best of friends. I guess I'm fortunate that I don't have many complaints, and frankly, I've become less particular because I think what matters is the relationship and how that is handled, but the sexual experience is smaller part of it.

But it is a bit kindling for the fire. I guess I try to keep my spouse interested in different ways. I'm fortunate that spouse is loyal and I feel attraction to the spouse...I'm lucky.


my .02

[Jed Dilligan]

46. I have to say...

I'm shocked at the sexual details girlfriends DON'T share with each other. Compared to us horndog guys!

[ForrestGump]

49. Really? I've always found it more the other way, though perhaps because

I don't hang out with males much (and never with males who detail sexual escapades and so on) but I have hung out, and still do, with females (mostly younger than me) and hear the stuff they say about themselves and their various men. As if I weren't already sexually-frustrated enough... :-)

[Jamastiene]

47. I will say straight to your screen name face the truth about that.

Because men don't like to "talk" and won't listen when we want to talk, we tell each other. After all, we are all we got when it comes to that emotional bond thing. Men like to do men things and women have to turn to each other for consoling and comfort. Well, you asked. :evilgrin:

[Lydia Leftcoast]

48. I've heard some mighty strange confessions from men

The kind of things that make one's mind boggle, stuff about their childhoods and the like.

I agree that men don't talk much about intimate things, especially emotionally intimate things with other men much. The things that two male friends may NOT know about each other sometimes make me wonder, "So perhaps they don't talk about anything but sports?"

However, men definitely gossip and tell their sordid and /or pathetic life stories to women. In fact, some of the stories I've heard from men are on the order of things that two women probably WOULDN'T tell unless they really knew and trusted each other. Sometimes they seem not to realize how weird their stories are, as if they haven't internalized the social boundaries.

[Missy Vixen]

54. I disagree

>I really think that males are less "chatty" about this type of info.<

I hear a lot because I'm "safe". They're not dating or sleeping with me, and I do my best to be a good listener.

Do I tell my girlfriends everything? There's nobody I tell everything to. At the same time, I am so lucky to have some really supportive and caring girlfriends. I trust them, and I believe they trust me.

Julie

[Maddy McCall]

55. Dude. I hang around a firehouse. It ain't just women. Trust me.

I won't even begin to tell you the things I hear the guys talking about. I used to think that it was a woman thing, but, trust me, guys will tell another guy just about anything.

[samplegirl]

56. I think its a big deal

Thats why they call it intimacy. I would never
tell my girlfriends anything about my intimate
life or anyone elses.
There is very little left in life that is private
anymore.......especially ones sex life.

[In_The_Wind]

57. I do not tell my girlfriends everything ...

I save the really good stuff for pillow talk ...

just the giggles, nothing that would embarrass anyone ...