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It's a reptilian backbrain thing ... the females taking the males to bed. It's about family structure and it's fuelled by the media.
What is interpreted as the "clingly female" is the female's evolutionary tendancy to maintain family order. Nature played a cruel joke on all of us. Humans are hard-wired, based on their gender, to maintain genetic diversity.
Generally speaking:
Men's brains are wired to mate with as many females as possible -- it will do it whether or not the male is conscious of it. Female brains are wired to mate with one male, raise children and maintain the family unit -- the female brain will do everything, without the female ever being conscious of it.
Whether or not they have children is completely irrelevant because we are talking about this one function that's a part of the brains that has evolved to ensure a genetic balance in the population. It's a biochemical reaction. Nothing more, nothing less. It has nothing to do with the personal character traits of any persons involved in the interaction.
Why the hard-wired conflicts between genders are fuelled by the media:
WHY: the constant struggle between the sexes generate economic activity. The media can play on the reptilian-brain driven female to sell more cosmetics, clothing, lingerie, services (hairdressers, divorce lawyers, etc.). It plays in the male reptilian brain with coining phrases such as GNO to sell more beer, gas, restaurant food, clothes, cars, ATM charges, etc. This is accomplished by challenging your view of your own "independence". It likes to make men feel like less of men because it labels them as "pussy whipped" and stigmatizes them as somehow inferior (have you noticed that advertising targets poorer demographics and really pumps GNO to the average working class?). It also plays the female because advertisers like to turn it around and make females believe that they are somehow less of a woman because their men are going to bars and looking at girls (which may not even be a true reflection of the guy's night out with guys). It embeds distrust on the female end and the feeling of "ball-and-chain" on the male end -- so that the two feed into each other to break bonds. Then, they use programming and advertising to show females images of what the "perfect guy" would be like (i.e. catering to the female emotional needs and will always be by her side), an reinforcing the notion that the man the female is with is not the right man. The woman will buy into it because her reptilian brain pushes her towards attaining the family structure. It's a stupid chain of events that advertisers lead people down while capitalizing off the misery of both genders (men feel oppressed because of the "clingy female" and the female feels unfulfilled -- and will try her best to shake off that feeling by buying clothes, cars, make-up, plastic surgery, etc. Divide and conquer -- and the advertisers win. GDP might rise, lots of monetary transactions but also lots of broken families and lonely people at the end of the day.
It influences everything -- everything from political views, to how you will likely vote, to your consumption patterns to the judicial and correctional system, to your likelihood of joining the military. The more "independent" you are, the more you will likely consume. The distorted view they give you on television is so far from the truth, it's not even funny -- not funny because it's a self-fulfilling prophecy of decaying family structure and increase in duplicate consumption. The "clingy female" tendancy (this tendancy goes really far back and it has to do with the human tendancy towards civilization) is the social component that binds the family together (there are other "male" tendancies that occur, too, with the GNO phenomenon that directly impact economics and their respective ripple effect but it's too long to get into here).
In your case, perhaps the females will feel better if you brought a date. Don't have a date, you say. Find a female friend that you know is unattached (and you dig). Just go up to her and tell her that you are going out with a couple of friends who are couples but it makes you feel out of place and if she'd like to be your date so you won't feel funny. There will be a ~90% chance that she will go because everyone (guy or girl) knows what it's like to go out with a bunch of people and they're all couples and you're the odd man out AND she won't worry about whether or not you may be a guy with malicious intentions because there will be other people there for that difficult first date. It doesn't make it too obvious that you like her (but it gives her a signal that you might like her) and it doesn't sound cheesy. And if either one of you find that you don't like each other, you can always play it like it was a platonic thing afterwards. AND, there isn't that uncomfortable first date awkwardness. Take it from me, it really works.
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