What is your personal experience with weight?

[Yollam]

Poll question: What is your personal experience with weight?

There have been several threads on the subject, and I feel like I'm a kind of in between the schools of thought on the matter in that I don't thing shame and ridicule help overweight people in in anyway, but I also reject the notion that little or nothing can be done about obesity, since I have been 100 lbs. overweight, and have been at a "normal" weight. I agree that not everyone can or even should try to be thin, but everyone should be as healthy as they can be, and try to get help if they need it. Boy, wouldn't universal health care go a long way to helping people with this? Especially health conditions like hypothyroid, which aggravate the problems?

But I also agree with the posters who object to the glib advice that thin people give: "Well, you should just do XXX." as though it was just so easy. It's not a simple, cut-and-dried subject

Anyway,

What is your personal experience with weight?

[liberal N proud]

1. Beer gut

Too much beer in College and have never really been able to dump it

[Yollam]

2. My dad has one of those.

And little skinny bird legs.


I'm more the type who puffs out all over. Ass, gut, love handles. I don't have very pronounced facial bone structure even when thin, so my face starts to look like a shapeless blob. Some guys, like John Goodman on Roseanne, can be very heavy, but have strong enough features that they still look kinda okay. Not me. My face starts to look like a potato.

[Igel]

3. I'm in 'other'.

Low side of expected weight (before they revised the weight charts ... upwards). Started putting on weight a little in my late 20s ... kept it off in grad school, at least when I was taking classes, because I ran and biked everywhere. No car. Buses suck.

Weight gain went in lock-step with (a) increasing age, (b) increasing calory intake, (c) decreasing activity. When I was at 180 lb I sent to the gym for a few months, and dropped 10 pounds.

[Warpy]

4. Built like an ironing board until I had to go on Prednisone

full time 15 years ago. Then I started to blimp up. I hate it. Every once in a blue moon I'll start feeling OK and think it's time to taper the stuff down, something that has to be done at the rate of a milligram a month. I've gotten as low as 1 mg per day and realized I feel like I have the flu--feverish, everything hurts, depressed, unable to do much of anything. Then I realize I'm stuck on this horrible stuff and fat for the rest of my life.

Let's see, fashionably thin versus dead or looking at a kidney transplant or living in a wheelchair.

Vanity lost.

[sweetheart]

9. yes, those steroids (corticosteroid)

I take a steroid for athsma to stop the lung tissue inflmmation and
i take as little as possible as it does the same, i've never had a weight
problem, and i can eat much less now. Partly its aging as well, just
the two combined has had me re-approach diet. I've been drinking grapefruit
juice as its an appetite supressant, and discovering home cooked proper
meals of organic stuff to keep the weight off. Its been a gradual shift
of awakening to all the chemicals i've been consuming with processed
foods and to end my dependence on all these salts and preservatives
from things i can make myself.

Too bad these steroids have this side effect, but not being able to
breathe is not fun, less fun than being 10 pounds overweight.

[Seabiscuit]

5. Other: Thin and healthy until my mid-50's when I began gaining weight

from eating more. Now it takes regular exercise at the gym and a conscious effort to eat smaller portions and fewer carbs to take off the excess pounds.

[AllNamesHaveBeenUsed]

19. Careful...

People might think you are preaching to them. I know you personalized the statement, but some folks seem to take offense to the "eat less, exercise more" notion. Yes, some people have true medical/hereditary problems. There is no shortage, however, of obese people standing in line at McDonald's. I never fail to see large folks in restaurants with their plates piled high and their "healthy" salads drowning in dressing and cheese. Until I see more of these same folks in my gym, or pass more of them running along the roadside, I'll reserve my sympathy.

[StellaBlue]

6. Other: healthy, slightly overweight, no eating disorder

Have been gaining weight very slowly since going to college... now about 15-20 pounds overweight. Not "fat", but out of shape, unhappy about it.

No eating disorder, though. Cholesterol in range, etc. Healthy.

[Yollam]

8. I've seen your pics - you look healthy to me.

NT :)

[StellaBlue]

12. Thanks

I have as ass on me. Which is not bad. hahaha. I would rather be my size than really skinny, but it needs to be slimmed a bit. Like I said to my friend the other day, "There's too much junk in the trunk - time to have a yard sale!". :rofl:

[Yollam]

15. Junk in the trunk...

...made J.Lo a zillionaire.

Nothing wrong with a little padding. Hell, I think Queen Latifah looks good. So does Margaret Cho.

Oops, I'm making it about looks, and that's not what I wanted to do... :shrug:

[StellaBlue]

16. JLo

The talk about JLo having a "big ass" cracks me up. She looks like a NORMAL woman, IMHO. She looks how most of us would look if we had a personal trainer. It's because of the Hollywood stick-thin lollypop head phenomenon that JLo looks "big". $0.02.

[Yollam]

18. True, she's definitely not fat.

But she's not skeletal either, and that's a good thing. She seems to have remarkably good bone structure. I know she's had work done on her face, though...

[progdonkey]

21. same here...

I've always been the slightly chubby kid; never obese, but definitely not thin. In high school I did a lot of weight training and got in pretty good shape, but even then I wasn't "ripped," so I know that's basically out of the question for me unless I want to really kill myself in the gym. I've continued weight training off and on since then (I'm 24), so even when I've been very lazy and put on fat, there's been a relatively good level of muscle (not huge though, just not non-existent) underneath to give some extra form to the fat--ie. I didn't/don't look quite as fat as I actually was.

The last few months I've been working out pretty regularly and have gone from 225 lbs and 22% bodyfat in late March, down to 195 and 16% now. I'm 5'11" and the heaviest I've ever been is 235. My body basically likes to put on weight but is luckily rather neutral as to whether that weight is muscle or fat. As long as I lift weights, I build muscle--but if I stop, it all becomes fat.

I still have a visible gut (I hate doing ab work! O8)), but not one that's readily so when I wear a regular T-shirt, which is a definite improvement over when I was at 235. (I consider myself lucky that 235 is highest I've ever been, especially considering my diet, which, while probably not the worst in the world, was definitely not healthy--I love me some pizza! With a different natural metabolism I'd probably have ended up a lot of heavier.)

[Lars39]

7. There are many meds that cause weight gain.

and not necessarily a one-time gain of X pounds, either.

[Yollam]

11. That seems to be commonplace, so I made it a choice.

This kind of poll is kind of hard to construct. There are a lot more types of experiences than just 9...

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

10. I'm Extremely Thin, And I'm Fed Up With All The Low Fat Crap.

I can barely find a damn thing with calories anymore because everything is friggin low fat this or diet that. And now some want to take away my last reliable source of calorie intake with fast food joints. But fuck them. There's enough goddamn low calorie food on the market for them. Leave my burger king the heck alone lol.

[Yollam]

13. Lucky you.

I ran into a lady today who hasn't seen me since I was about 70 lbs heavier. She complimented me then asked "Did you lose the weight by accident or on purpose?" I was like "I WISH I could lose weight by accident". I am one of those people who ALWAYS has a good appetite. I could have the flu and a 102 degree fever and still want to eat. The ONLY exception is the rare case where I'm throwing up, and that's like - once in 5 years.

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

27. No, Not Lucky Me. It Is As Bad As Being Fat.

I'm fed up with the 'lucky you' crap too. It is almost impossible for me to gain weight and that's as hard on me as it is for obese people to worry about losing weight.

[Omphaloskepsis]

29. What he said..

6'0" and 140 pounds. I just can't put on weight.

[Oeditpus Rex]

31. How old are you?

I was the same way until my late 40s. All of a sudden the Flab Bastards started attacking me in my sleep. I put on like 35 pounds in about a year.

[Omphaloskepsis]

53. I'm 28...

I wouldn't mind putting on 25 or 30 pounds. As long as it only happened once.

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

20. Admit it...Burger King proximity was a factor in choosing where you live.

Don't lie. ;)

[OPERATIONMINDCRIME]

36. LMAO! You're Right Ya Know. (Well, To A Degree)

After we found this place one of the first things I said was "Yes! And there's even a Burger King right on the corner!"

Swear to god. LOL

[New Earth]

14. other, for me

i've never been exactly "thin", but never necessarily overweight either. i always weigh more than i actually look, always been big boned and "full figured".
i think i am just a wee bit chubbier than i like to be right now, which i will start working on soon - got a membership to the gym, just need to start going :spank:

i've also started eating at least a little more healthy. my biggest thing is my metabolism...my body is the reflection of whatever i'm doing. i've been sitting a lot the past few years, at home on the computer and at work in an office job, with not much physical activity. i still like the way i look, i love my body seriously, but i know i could lose at least 10 to 20 lbs. i think i still look good though :P

[Yollam]

17. You know how a lot of thin women think they're fat?

I was like the opposite of that. I went several years where I almost never weighed myself, and I looked at myself in the mirror and thought I looked fine. A bit bigger, I had to move up to a size 38, then 40, then 42 pants, but I thought, what the hell? It wasn't until I saw a video of myself waddling around from behind that I realized how I looked. That, along with the reflux and foot pain I was having in the mornings made me realize I was killing myself. I want to be around to see my grandkids' weddings, so I put my self on a reduced-calorie regimen. Luckily, it's gone well so far. Only 20 lbs. to go...

[EFerrari]

32. Good for you. Takes patience.

I've always been sort of all right but gained 50 lbs after Andy died. I've lost about 30 and working on the last 20 or so. It was weird having to think about weight after a lifetime of not thinking about it much.

[Guava Jelly]

22. I picked other

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5254906&mesg_id=5254906

[Deja Q]

23. I eat VERY healthily. But I do have some health issues...

I've always been weaker...

I've had a small belly as far back as I can remember.

At age 26 I started gaining weight. I was up to 208lb and a size 38. I went on a new diet, and got down to 160 pounds, size 30 waist... but the belly was still somewhat there.

By around 30 the belly started to balloon; my job shifted and I was more sedentary than usual, but I had been eating too much candy too. I stabilized at size 34... yet I weighed 228 pounds before my surgery. At 5'10", this was potentially lethal.

Last summer I worked off 30 pounds by apparently a lot of walking; the shrink has discounted Strattera as cause for the weight loss...

I've stabilized at 206 pounds, size 33. The belly is still there, but a lot of it is due to relaxed muscles. WThat are hard to improve because of my neck fusion surgery and the tremendous risk of accelerating the degeneration of the surrounding discs, which the neurologist said 2 yrs ago are already moderately degenerated.

I tried Relacore for its claim of cortisol and belly fat. It did reduce anxiety. But it did nothing for the belly.

I have just started trimspa. I have noticed a solid drop in 1 pound, so far. And have noticed it has picked up my metabolism.

But also during last summer I noticed a new problem, that has been getting worse since. The neurlogist cannot do anything about it either. For that is a continuation of what the surgery was to hopefully correct.

Despite getting weaker... it is now a struggle to carry heavy objects across a span of 100 feet. Even 6 months ago, this was not a problem.

Oh well.

And even knowing what is about to happen to me :cry:, I cannot break the sociological and psychological barriers.

and I am grateful for the life I had. I do have precongenital heart issues and I nearly died after birth. (a near-record premie...) I've lived in the latter end of humanity's best period.

I may not have had a real lover. Even my "peers" treat me like feces. Yet I have no bad feelings toward anybody. Except the arrogant, and they know who they are. But will never know either how dim they truly are; that's the beauty of it.

[Mayberry Machiavelli]

24. You have no answers between normal weight and "severely overweight", so I

picked Other.

I've spent most of my adult life being mildly to moderately overweight, with a year or two in there of being what I consider normal weight and in extremely good shape.

[wildhorses]

25. hypothyroid...doc put me on synthroid and the weight has

started coming off as my energy level has risen...
plus running my ass of in the ER
and getting it chewed out in the boss's office helps too;)

[helderheid]

28. you give me hope. I was just diagnosed and put on Armour.

[Spaceman Spiff]

26. Let's see...

I'm 6'2" and weigh 240 lbs. That puts me somewhere between "big dude" and "what a fatass".

Either way I'm fine with what I weigh.

[ismnotwasm]

30. Other

I'm buff. I stay in good shape. My weight has always been higher than what the charts say it should be. So I don't pay attention to weight.
Since I'm a bit of a genetic anomaly (I am NOT a body builder)I empathize quite a bit with those who struggle with weight, especially if it's part of a genetic heritage. I also think the issue is more complex that diet and exercise.
When there is a deep-rooted psychological issue with weight, the dismissive of the will power crowd can be very hurtful.

There used to live a girl across the street from me. She was around my own children's age. Her parents had a multitude of issues, including drug and alcohol abuse, poverty, ignorance. This girl was second oldest and very heavy from the time she was little. I remember her mother yelling at her something about "Waddle your butt back home" one time.
I can't stand these neighbors, and I'm a bit of a snot so I ignore them. However, I always tried to reach out to this girl, because she was different, she didn't fall into their ignorant behavior pattens. She was a good kid, nice. She was horribly tormented at school. I watched her get bigger and bigger. Her siblings are also large, but not in her category.
Anyway, she was dead from complications of obesity at 18. Broke my heart. I've always wished I could have done something to help. I do know the judgement, the stares and the torment she endured did not help her lose any weight.

[annonymous]

33. I have been thin to normal weight until recently.

I got a new job last October and I have put on 10 pounds. I am trying to lose the extra weight around my middle by exercise and controlling my food intake.

[bertha katzenengel]

34. I'm morbidly obese and you are absolutely right: there is no one solution

for everyone.

Mrs. V. and I were discussing this today. I told her about all the women at the churches I used to attend who told me "it's just a matter of will power!" and "you need to stop eating X" and even "you're dishonoring the Lord by keeping His Temple in that kind of shape." They weren't snarky or rude. I think they honestly believed they were doing the right thing: gently admonishing me in the Lord, like the Bible says.

They were all utterly clueless and I don't hold any of this against them. Do NOT use this post to bash fundamentalist Christians!

At the time, I said, "I know, I know," and asked them to pray with me, lay their hands on me, pray for me, etc. I didn't know I was messed up, nor that I had an eating disorder.

Now I'm not messed up anymore, not to that extent, but I still have an eating disorder. I think I always will.

The answer for me, I think, would be to overcome my inability (for whatever reasons) to exercise regularly.

But I can't say what the answer would be for someone with a body very similar to mine.

[Broken_Hero]

35. okay....

I have been obese, severly, from probably grade 6 through my junior year of highschool, and at present. My junior year, i was 425lbs, and I was 6'3, and by the time I graduated from high school in may of 95, i was 235lbs. I lost weight through busting ass, not eating, and anything I ate i threw up...nice way to lose weight huh? :sarcasm:

I started to get fatter, in college, went from 235-270 in two and a half years of college, and then I went into the work force. From 97 to 2000, I was between 290-330 lbs, and I went back to school in 2002, and weigh between 350-393 until june of last year...

When I was working, paying rent and all that, I didn't have the drive, after working 8-10 hours, to go walk for an hour, or work out, thats why the weight started coming back, and continued to do so until june 20th of last year. Last June, i was 393, very close to 400lbs again, and I knew I had to something about it, and I continue that today...

I'm 315lbs right now, my goal is anything between 250-275...and go back and forth between those weights. This time around though, i'm working out, eating smarter, no anorexic/bulimic tendancies this go around. This go around is so much harder...the weight it seems, is taking fore EVER to lose...I walk 3.5 miles a day, and bike 15.3 miles a day on my exercise bike, and it's just rough, putting that much effort into it, and not seeing better results...but for me, in the end its patience, and sticking to it.

I know I did it before, so i know i can do it again. On the issue of weight, I dont' necessarily agree with what your standard weight should be for your height...even when i was 235, i was still 40lbs over weight according to the standards...for a 6'4 guy, i believe, if memory serves, that the ideal weight is 190, or 195...and at 235 i was in a size 38 pants, believe it or not, and i felt way TO small....but each body type is different...

My two cents, is this...whatever makes you feel comfortable, and in the end, thats basically what matters, unless health reasons are a factor. I wanted to lose weight for one reason, this go around...to be healthy, not to fit into other clothes, but to be healthy(or as Tyler Durden says "self improvement is masturbation")....and a side not on healthy, just because you are fat, or skinny, doesn't make you unhealthy/healthy, or in shape...each person, is different....

Case in point, my father in law is 190, been active his whole life, never been fat, persay, yet he has a ton of health issues, ranging from diabetes, to high cholesterol, and here i am, out weigh the guy by well over a 100 lbs, and been fat almost my whole life, yet, my cholesterol, and blood sugar is extremely lower than his...but, like I say, everyone is different, genetics, and all that...:)

When i was in track in field in high school, my senior year, i would be out running guys, smaller, lankier, than myself...and it smashed one of my stereotypes of "being skinny=healthy/inshape"...I think the stereotype i fit, is the big/strong/fat offensive lineman type, that is huge, but very athletic....but, i do believe my work ethic, and my genetics are causes of this...I have never been, one of those eat three boxes of twinkie guys and sit on my couch all day people, i'm the guy that orders the double quarter pounder with cheese, or two of them, in the past, and then go play around, chop wood, dig ditches, etc etc...


On edit: "You wrote that the world doesn't need a savior, but everyday I people crying for one"-Superman Returns!...:) 6/28/06

[NNadir]

37. At various times I was able to control my weight for long periods.

Usually this involved massive amounts of exercise.

When I don't exercise, I'm fat.

At various times poverty helped me control my weight.

Right now I'm the fattest I have ever been, which is pretty fat. In fact I regarded myself as being fat when I was much lighter than I am now.

[Nikia]

38. Mostly healthy weight, eating disorders

Throughout my childhood, my relative weight varied on my growing cycle. When I was rapidly growing, I was thin. When I was slower growth, I put on fat. I was never a "fat" child though.
When I stopped growing, I became mildly overweight after a couple of years and then started engaging in disordered eating. I lost significant weight. When I joined the track team to lose more weight, I discovered that I had to eat more food consitently to be able to run well. Although sometimes, I engaged in behaviors during my running career, I was eating fairly healthy and maintaining a "low normal weight". In college, I did have problems with weight gain in between cross country and track season since our cross country coach literally wore us down and recommended a month of no running and another month of much reduced mileage.
When I was done with my running career and worked part time at a fast food place where I ate every time I worked, I gained weight to become slightly overweight. When I quit the fast food place, I lost a little weight. When I was treated for a chronic sinus infection and strangely ate more, I lost more and was "normal weight".
After a series of unfortunate events, I engaged in disordered eating and ended up with a full blown disorder. I am recovering from it, but have a hard time gaining the last bit of weight to become "normal weight". I am eating healthy most of the time but feel bad anytime that I actually eat enough to gain weight. There are some issues that I have to deal with better because it is really not about the food. What is funny is that at the beginning of the disorder, I believed that I had overcome my addiction to food. I could choose to not eat whenever I wanted regardless. I didn't realize that I could actually become addicted to not eating enough.
I am out of shape now. I was actually in better shape when I was slightly overweight. I was definietly much stronger.

[GirlinContempt]

39. Proper health care is the best way to

assist people who have weight issues.
Not even including thyroid or hormonal or other disorders & diseases that can cause weight gain (and often go untreated), Doctors can still be the best help.
Too often, if someone is just overweight due to a lack of activity and unhealthy or over eating, their weight bounces like a yo yo. People turn to fad diets or try to alter their lifestyles in unsupportable or unhealthy ways. Many, many people will lose weight and then gain it back, only to feel disgusted with themselves, or see themselves as failures, which leads to more back and forth, and isn't truly helpful or healthy. Being thin isn't the only aspect of health, and getting thin can damage your health as much as being overweight if it's achieved through fad diets & the like.
A doctor can assess you, your lifestyle, and your goals, and help with eating and exercise programs that may take longer, but will ultimately be a healthy and balanced way to improve overall health, instead of sacrificing some health for the sake of body-mass achievement.

[LeftyMom]

40. Was thin growing up, carried 45 lbs of baby weight around for too long,

though I've since lost all but a bit of it. Still not crazy about my body though.

[AlCzervik]

41. always struggled with it, right now i'm down 80 pounds and 5 away

from my goal weight, this time i'm really hoping i can keep it off because i so don't want to have to do this again. I started last July because i just felt like crap and decided it was time to do something and i do feel so much better but i'm a little scared it wont stick.

[leftofthedial]

42. I hit 35 and have been slightly overweight ever since

I eat fairly sensibly, get a fair amount of regular exercise . . .

nothing seems to matter.

I'd like to lose 20 pounds, or even 1, but I don't.

[Wetzelbill]

43. terrible binge eater

weight isn't all that bad, I got a bit of a gut, could lose about 20-25 pounds or so. I wouldn't have ever gained much weight at all, but I had a few workout injuries related to my old sports injuries, and due to the layoff I would gain a few extra pounds. It added up a little. The big problem for me is not the weight itself, it's the potential health risks due to the eating problem. I look pretty average weight wise and all, but all that bad food can't be too good for my body.

[kiraboo]

44. Until I had my third child, I think anybody would have called me

skinny. Even so, I was bulimic when in college. I was so skinny that one meal would make my belly a little bit rounded, so I'd get rid of the bulge by vomiting.

I'm going to be forty-three in a month and have noticed it's no longer possible to be thin without literally not eating one or two meals a day. I'm exercising every day and eating as well as I can, given that I tend to eat garbage when I'm depressed. I recently lost eighteen pounds during a depressive episode, but put almost all of it back on over three months. Guess I'm lucky to be the shape and size I am but it's not effortless.

[nickgutierrez]

45. I've always been very thin, but never an eating disorder

Where "very thin" is 5'8, 125 (at 22 years of age).

And in a mirror-image of your problem, the constant suggestions of "you should eat more" have been similarly unhelpful.

[Writer]

48. I was precisely your weight at that age.

I'm now 31... 5'8" Maybe 150? I haven't weighed myself in a while. I exercise and avoid white bread, potatoes, sugars and fried food (when possible). I am a chicken, broccoli, and fruit fanatic. I FEEL good, though, and after living nearly my entire 20's as a Size 6 I'm now a rather filled Size 8.

My mother instilled in me a paranoia about my body. I want children but am terrified about getting pregnant because I worry about having to lose the weight/shape up. I'm afraid of "feeling ugly." I know that this is unhealthy and that baby weight gain/stretching happens to all women after having children, but I can't shake the fear of staring at myself in the mirror and feeling depressed.

I wish there was a way I could overcome this!

[Yollam]

50. You needn't necessarily be scared of that...

...my wife lost 20 lbs. during each of her pregnancies, because she had such horrible morning sickness for the first 4~5 months, she even had to be put on an IV drip for a week at the hospital. She was at her normal weight when she gave birth both times, so she actually had to GAIN weight after each of her pregnancies. Needless to say it was a rough time, and I don't want either of us to have to go through it again.


I doubt this post is of much comfort, but I did want to point out that pregnancy does not always equal weight gain.

[Iniquitous Bunny]

46. Lost a lot of weight 3-4 years ago (70 lbs).

It was weight that piled on from multiple kids and stress. I have to be quite vigilant to keep it off and sometimes it sucks. I have no breathing room with what I eat or I gain very easily. I've put on 15 pounds over the last year and I'm in the process of doing what I need to do to get it off again.

[txwhitedove]

47. It's heavy, man. Always skinny til age 45-ish, when...

physical, mental, emotional damage took a toll.  Just this
year back to life, caring and getting back into shape.  You
have to care about yourself first.

[RebelOne]

49. I have had to fight the battle of the bulge most of my life.

I went the bout with diet pills in the '70s to stay skinny. But then I was not able to get those good diet pills anymore and had to go it on my own. So my weight fluctuated up and down. I was never obese, but not as skinny as I wanted to be. Finally, 10 years ago, I became a vegetarian and have not had a weight problem since. So, my advice is to not eat anything with hair, fur or feathers (I do eat fish and shellfish) and you will not have a weight problem.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

51. I've stabilized at about 200 pounds.

All my life, I was heavier than most people my age, but I've lost weight since that time.

Although my current weight is the highest in terms of a numeric instance, proportionally, I would probably have been at least 20 pounds heavier in my younger days.

I'm also fairly broad-shouldered and have a larger skeletal frame than many people my age, though, so that factors in as well.

[KitchenWitch]

52. I have been both extremely thin and overweight

right now I think I am like 10 pounds too light. (Lost the weight due to stress).

I believe one should try to get to a healthy weight, some are healthier heavy, others are healthier light.

[Robeson]

54. I was obese as a child, and until about the age of 18....

...I got it under control after that, and have kept a steady weight of 160 since then - I'm 42 now. It doesn't come naturally, and it takes work. For me, it's about eating the proper caloric proportions, and exercising. That has pretty much kept me at the same weight for the past 24 years.

[tibbir]

55. I tend to overeat when I'm very upset about something

and last year my mother died after a 3 month bout with lung cancer. I can't get motivated to lose weight this time.

[Robeson]

56. That is VERY understandable....

...:hug: