When you hold a door open for someone, and they don't say "Thank you,"

[begin_within]

does it bother you? It sort of bothers me, when I hold a door open for a total stranger who is coming in when I'm going out, and they just ignore me like I am some sort of invisible personal slave for them. It makes me regret the fact that I did bother to stop and hold the door open for them. It's not like I'm "Miss Manners" or anything, I think it's just annoying on the part of the other person to completely ignore the fact that I did that, like they have something better to do than to take the energy to utter two syllables.

[Robb]

1. I see it as an opportunity

...to slam their keister in the door. ;)

[kiraboo]

2. Sure it bothers me, unless they obviously are overwhelmed

and can't speak for some reason. I believe in please and thank-you and the rest of those small civilities. They make the world go 'round.

[Reverend_Smitty]

3. that kind of bugs me too...

I always make a point of saying thank you in situations like that. I mean it really doesn't take a lot of effort to say "thanks"...you don't even need to make eye contact

[ContraBass Black]

4. No.

[oneighty]

5. Just say really loud

"You are welcome." Sir or Madam.

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[devilgrrl]

6. I held the door for actress Linda Hunt and she didn't say thank you.

Next time I'm using her as a door stop. :silly:

Personally, I think it is rude not to say thank you. :-(

[begin_within]

11. You should have said to her, "Have a nice day, sir!"

[devilgrrl]

16. That is cold...

bet it would have made her think about manners though.

[miss_american_pie]

7. No

I do it to be nice, not for acknowledgement.

[shugh514]

19. Exactly

I've done my part. Their ignorance will not stop me from being a decent person.

[Blue Diadem]

8. Yes, it bothers me too. Manners seem to have been forgotten.

I've been in the situation you described and ended up holding the door for 1/2 dozen or more people not one of them saying thank you. Luckily a man came to my rescue and said here I'll get it as he took the door from me so I could go on my way without wacking someone with a closing door.

[Road Scholar]

9. I don's see how anyone's lack of manners should control my attitude

or my manners for that matter.:shrug: :shrug: :shrug: If they're rude or unappreciative, I would still hold the door for them the next time. I think manners are about respect, for others and for one's self.

[asthmaticeog]

10. Yes, it bugs me.

Especially if it's someone with a handtruck full of stuff, or two armloads, who woulnd't have been able to easily open it. Even "thank you" is optional - I'm a casual guy, just NOD or something.

[Nickster]

12. Let me tell ya what really bothers me. When you are just a step or two

behind someone and they let the door slam right in your face. That is my personal favorite thing.

[Road Scholar]

14. But just think about it. People like that get their reward by your

reaction. To react like an idiot is not half as effective as giving and understanding smile and saying nothing. But by all means stay in control.
If that doesn't work, then shoot the mutherfucker. :rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

[WindRavenX]

13. It bothers me a little

Then again, I remember that sometimes I've had a shitty day and don't always remember to be courteous to strangers-- but if it's a habit not to say thank you, then it would bother me :hi:

[Dangerously Amused]

15. Oh, I'll cheerfully say it for them.

:7



Same thing when someone passes right in front of me and doesn't say "excuse me." Some people get it right away and add a hasty "thank you" or "excuse me" in reply. In that case I always smile nicely to let them know that I am certain they were just having a busy day, and forgot their manners for that one moment.


On the other hand, I say "thank you" and "excuse me" to everyone, even little kids. Especially little kids.

[caty]

17. I was taught that a good

deed is no longer a good deed once you tell someone or expect something in return. You did a good thing and that knowledge is your reward. If they don't thank you---shame on them. If you did this deed selflessly---good for you!:applause:

[flvegan]

18. I say "You're welcome" anyway.

It completes the transaction. I'm waiting for the day that the person turns and says, "I didn't say 'thank you'" though I don't have a really good reply. Maybe something like, "that's something to be proud of, huh?"

[Fox Mulder]

20. I don't hold the door open for anyone.

No one does it for me.

[OhioBlue]

21. it might bother me a bit at first

but just think about it.... how many times have we all been so wrapped up in our own thoughts that we forgot to say a thank you here or an excuse me there, didn't see the pedestrian at the cross walk until it was too late to stop, had a bad day when the telemarketer called at the wrong time, were in a rush to get to somewhere on time and didn't let the person across the intersection that has been waiting forever turn left before we crossed, etc.

So then, I try to just write it off to they were distracted, having a bad day, etc. I don't lose sleep over it and realize that it wasn't about me.

[leftofthedial]

22. I usually break their legs

[GoddessOfGuinness]

23. I feel sorry for them

because they've just missed an opportunity to be thankful for something. What a shame!

[jpgray]

24. Holding open a door isn't about being thanked

It's just polite--I don't give a shit if I get thanked or not. It's like expecting the "thank you" wave when you open a space for someone to merge in traffic--nice, but not expected or necessary.

[sbj405]

25. No, but isn't always the person you hold the elevator for that. .

gets in a pushes the close door button about 20 times.

[Rabrrrrrr]

26. It bothers me, but it speaks more about their ignorance than anything else

and I continue to hold doors for people even though a few shitbags out there made me want to rip the door off the hinges and sever their spine with the broken glass.

[LostinVA]

27. Yes, I think it's rude -- I always say thank you and smile n/t

[bigwillq]

28. Sometimes it bothers me, sometimes it doesn't

I can see how people may be in a rush or not in a very good mood and they just don't feel like saying thank you at the moment. I won't hold it against them if that's the case.

[texas1928]

29. I yank them back by their shirt collar...

And slam their head in the door, repeatedly. While asking them do they want it closed or held open.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

30. I don't let it bother me.....

I just go my way.....

Of course, I love it if they do say thank you.....

Just as I love it when someone waves after I've let them into traffic...

I do it to be nice....

It's just good karma, IMHO...

:hi: