I wouldn't confront the person directly on how they may be damaging the group, but I might do something a little passive-aggressive, like talk about the "gossiped" person's good points.
2. That's my usual preference, but sometimes I get fed up.
And lose my temper. I can't understand why people who disagree don't just work it out between them on a personal level. All of the Indirection in this kind of experience is frustrating.
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