It is hard to a parent to your parents, there is a fine line to walk.

[texanwitch]

You have to watch out for them but not treat them like children either.

My father cannot have ice cream due to his heart problems, so we can't have it in the house.


He really likes ice cream but his Dr. says no.


Today was not a good day.

Maybe tomorrow will be better.

[SeattleGirl]

1. I hear you, texanwitch

There's part of my mind that says, "This isn't RIGHT." :cry:

[texanwitch]

3. I had to send him to his room.

He threw a fit because he can't have ice cream.

No junk food in house.

I have to find him some fat free, low fat ice cream.

Tomorrow he goes to the Senior Center for the day.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

[MissB]

4. Can he have sherbert? Or rice dream ice cream?

[texanwitch]

5. He can have sherbert but he doesn't like it.

He will learn to like it if I can't find anything else.

[trof]

2. I know, been there.

My great aunt and, a few years ago, Miz t.'s mom.
The stories I could tell.
Many of them funny.
Stiff upper lip, and all that.

[lost-in-nj]

6. I have

been there
and done that

:hug: :hug:

PLEASE remember to take care of yourself....
take time for yourself
AND NEVER be afraid to ask for help.....
believe me.....


lost

[pitohui]

7. i'm going to offer a suggestion and you can shoot it down if you like

in my family we are very bitter when we start to lose our minds and our judgements

my vote is give him the damn ice cream and if it shortens the amount of time he has to spend w.out his brain by even a minute you have done a very good deed worth much merit in heaven

maybe we're a weird family tho

unlike trof, we have no funny stories, one of our relatives lived 20 years with dementia

no one should have to go thru that, no one, it would be better if she were never born and this hangs over the heads of all of us

[texanwitch]

8. I have thought of doing that, believe me.

His mind is still OK.

He just hasn't accepted getting old well.

What he needs is to be busy again, doing something.

He worked from the age of 10, so when had to retire he found part time job to keep busy.

Other then his heart he is in good shape.

He is busy feeling sorry for himself right now, and is trying to give up.

He enjoys the Senior Center and he has a good time when he goes.

He could have another good 5 to 10 years if he would take care of himself.

He was really active until this recent illness, he could be again.

[SPKrazy]

9. Scary statistics

caregivers are very much at risk for stress related illness

please take care of yourself and don't feel like you have to do it all yourself.

there are people, and places that can help...

:hug:

[texanwitch]

10. Don't worry, I have sister who helps.

He is going to go to the senior center at least 3 days a week.

They have days trips to go on, and all kind of activities.

I will get him busy again.

[erinlough]

11. I'm in the same place with my dad

87 and would do anything the doctor tells him to try to get "better". That however is not going to happen. He has Wegeners granulomatosis which turned his kidneys into mush and I guess will proceed on other organs in his body. I find this the hardest thing I have ever done. I have some really bad days too, I hope your day is great tomorrow.