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Do you remember when you were young, I know for some people you may have to go back a few decades, but for some people it wasn't that long ago> When I was a child I don't ever remember an adult, other than my mother or father, grabbing or shoving me to the side and yelling at the top of their voice at me. I also don't ever remember being embarrassed out in public by an adult. I mean kids have to worry about other kids embarrassing them, maybe their parents occasionally, but not a complete stranger. This world is changing, and not for the better. Anyway let me get to my point. Today I was out shopping for my 11 year old son and we were in a clothing store. It was back to school shopping so of course the store was packed with kids. My son was in the changing room doing his most favorite thing of all time, trying on clothes :sarcasm:, and when he was done we both went to check out counter to pay for the clothes. In front of me and my son was a lady, probably in her 40's and directly in front of that lady was a young boy, he looked to be my son's age, around 11 or 12. The young boy walks politely to the counter and places a shirt and pair of jeans onto the counter. He tells the cashier politely that his mother is own the way to pay for the clothing. The lady directly in front of me and my son to my complete astonishment tells the cashier that she is in a hurry and doesn't have time to wait for the boys mother. She places her purse on the counter and literally shoves the boy out of the way. I am not kidding here. She actually physically moved the boy out of the way. She tells the boy to get his thing off the counter since he doesn't have the money to pay for them. I am completely stunned by what is going on. The store is packed with other adults and kids, and by now everybody has turned their heads to see what is going on. The boy takes his clothes off the counter and moves beside my son. His head is slightly down, trying not to look at me or my son or the other people around him. He is not crying, but I could tell by looking at his face and being a father of 11 years myself, that he was completely humiliated. If he could have snapped his fingers to go somewhere else he would have.
My son, looks up at me as if to say dad aren't you going to say something. The cashier completes the ladies transaction, and when she starts to grab her bag and purse to leave, I confront her. This is exactly what I said to the lady. Excuse me Mam but I don't know if you noticed but that boy who was standing in line, you know the one you just humiliated by shoving him out of the way because you couldn't wait one minute, that is a child. You don't put your hands on a child, unless that is your son. I was very livid and animated. The lady started to try and defend her actions by saying she was in a hurry, and that just made me even more incensed. Finally she left and by that time the boys mother comes up to the counter, completely unaware of what just happened. The mother actually says to me I'm sorry I hope my son has not been holding you up. I said to her "your son has been very polite and hasn't kept me waiting at all." She takes the clothes from her son and pays for some more clothes she had brought to the counter with her. The lady tells me that she was trying to get a larger size shirt for her son and apologized again for the hold up. My son and this boy start having a conversation about soccer, as both my son and this boy play youth soccer. I wasn't sure what to do next. After all this woman had no idea what this lady had just done to her son. I didn't know if it was entirely my place or not to tell the woman, but I knew that her son was far too embarrassed by the whole deal that he more than likely wasn't going to say anything to his mother. Luckily while I paid for my sons clothing, my son and this boy continued to talk nd play around. Once I was done with my transaction I turned around and the lady shook my hand for being so patient. I hesitated for a brief moment and the lady and her son started to walk away. By that time I realized the moment to tell this lady what had happened with her son was long gone.
Me and my son talked about the incident on the way home and he asked me why the lady was so mean to "that kid." I didn't have a good answer for him and he knew it. The whole ride home I just kept thinking that could have been my son. I could have sent him to the counter while I looked for something on the rack that I was having trouble finding. I was thinking that if somebody did that to my son, I would have probably tracked them down and killed them. Then I would be sitting in jail instead of on my computer talking to you all. As it is this happened to a complete stranger. A boy I didn't even know, and I was this upset. I am a single father with a son and yes sometimes I don't like walking around a mall for hours either, but I find what this lady did today completely unacceptable.
Anyway I have calmed down since this afternoon. I took my son to see the Dark Knight with a few of his friends from the neighborhood. So I am now thoroughly exhausted. I was just wandering what some of you thought about this. Did I over react.
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